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Am I a far right extremist?

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Isitme245 · 25/01/2025 11:30

I had a conversation with my best friend of 25 years the other day and she called me a far right extremist and how my views are scary, dangerous and 'nazi coded'
I was really shocked as I didn't think any of what I said was bad. I'm not a particularly avid supporter of any political party and very much keep opinions to myself. She's very supportive of labour and anti trump and always has been. Usually when she asks me my opinions I just don't want to get into it but I did the other night and now I feel bad.

Here's the breakdown:

  • she sent me an article and told me that Nigel Farage is going to ban abortion eventually if he wins an election. I read the article and pointed out he only suggested lowering the abortion cut off date to 22 weeks (not 24 as it is now). I told her it wasn't the end of the world and it's reasonable if you read his reasons. I also made the point that men shouldn't really be getting involved in abortion law but that what he said wasn't the end of the world.
  • she asked me about immigration and I said that it's great but that we should be prioritising skilled immigrants and have stronger immigration laws. She also asked about asylum seekers and hotels and I said that we should have stronger laws about monitoring people and collecting documentation when people arrive.
  • she sent me and asked about Elon Musk's Nazi salute and I said I didn't interpret it that way
  • I said that immigrants who rape or murder should be deported.

To me this feels really reasonable and not over the top but she really attacked me for it? Now I feel really awkward and uncomfortable talking to her. Is this far right??

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LadyTangerine · 25/01/2025 12:16

The lefties don't realise that these hysterical and incorrect attacks actually encourage support for people like Musk. They've learnt nothing. Look at Trump's popular resurgence!

Aftergloww · 25/01/2025 12:16

Nothing you said was particularly outrageous until you got to Elon lol. He’s a class A troll and knew exactly what he was doing.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 25/01/2025 12:16

Re: lefties going nuts calling people Nazis.
I am not a loony leftie at all. However, if you look back at how the Nazis came to power in Germany, there is a lesson to be learned.
They gradually took over the narrative in a nation known for its respect for rules, for order, and in a population which as far more developed than one where the average dictator takes power.
It was regime built on setting people against each other. People who had been neighbours and friends were suddenly enemies. Jewish people who had lived and thrived, some of whom were decorated WWW1 army veterans, were cast out.
The economic problems of the country, which were being experienced also across Europe and in America, were blamed on a small section of society.
Now it’s quite a leap to get from there to 6 million Jews being murdered, but it didn’t actually take that long. A decade is not a long time in history at all.
So it does make me anxious when I see groups being set against each other. The issues we face in the UK aren’t the fault of immigrants. It is a long term corrosion of so many facets of our society, the fact that we have lost so much global power, that we moved from being a manufacturing to a service centre, the list goes on and on.

OneWittyLemonCat · 25/01/2025 12:16

Grammarnut · 25/01/2025 12:13

I didn't see this, but X is full of pics of e.g. Obama making the same gesture. I don't think Musk is a Nazi as opposed to far right in a UK sense. FWIW, what we call a 'Nazi' salute used to be the salute given when taking the pledge in the US. There are pictures of children in school performing it.

Edited

Pics not video. It’s clear when you see video comparisons Musks is very Germany 1939-45 and the others clearly aren’t.

Grammarnut · 25/01/2025 12:17

OneWittyLemonCat · 25/01/2025 12:13

Perfectly reasonable to discuss abortion laws.

However there’s only one reason Farage is doing this and it’s because it’s the milder starting point on the road towards the US right view. The US right he spends more time fawning over in person than he does in Clacton.

Perhaps he could spend more time on undoing the enormous economic damage caused by the Brexit lies…

As a Brexiteer I find your statement on Brexit pretty far right. I voted for Brexit as a Socialist, seeing the EU (and it's forerunners) for what it is, a capitalist cartel set up with the intention of promoting capitalism and removing as many as possible of the rights of workers - free movement OF LABOUR is about lowering wages across the EU, not about people being able to buy holiday cottages in the Algarve.

Locutus2000 · 25/01/2025 12:17

ShirkingFromHome95 · 25/01/2025 11:54

The loony left are the ones responsible for driving people to the right. Most people are centrist but some get sick of seeing no change and start considering extreme measures.

Read the blurb below from the front page of the Reform website and it's easy to understand how a lot of people will choose this over gender nonsense, men in women's prisons, prioritising people born outside the UK, etc.

You are worse off, both financially and culturally. Wages are stagnant, we have a housing crisis, our young people struggle to get on the property ladder, we have rising crime, energy bills are some of the highest in Europe, the NHS isn’t working, both legal and illegal immigration are at record levels and woke ideology has captured our public institutions and schools.

The Conservatives have failed and Labour will fail too. A vote for either is a vote for more incompetence, dishonesty and failure.

We are ruled by an out of touch political class who have turned their backs on our country.

Reform is the alternative.

Only Reform will stand up for British culture, identity and values. We will freeze immigration and stop the boats. Restore law and order. Repair our broken public services. Cut taxes to make work pay. End government waste. Slash energy bills. Unlock real economic growth.

Only Reform will take back control over our borders, our money and our laws. Only Reform will secure Britain’s future as a free, proud and rich nation.

Read the blurb below from the front page of the Reform website and it's easy to understand how a lot of people will choose this over gender nonsense, men in women's prisons, prioritising people born outside the UK, etc.

Shame Reform have no actual ideas as to how they achieve this. Wishlists and moaning are easy.

Coffeelovr · 25/01/2025 12:17

We're all far right now

Am I a far right extremist?
Grammarnut · 25/01/2025 12:17

lifeturnsonadime · 25/01/2025 11:36

i think this is why it's probably best keeping political views to yourself rather than discussing with friends.

As a society we appeared to have lost the ability to see nuance and have reasonable debates.

I don't think any of what you have said is far right but I've been told I hold far right views for believing that women should have single sex spaces and sport and believing that we should not have completely open borders.

This, too!

itsjustbiology · 25/01/2025 12:19

Op Relax you are no Eva Braun or Le Penn! Your friend and you just have differing views.

carrit · 25/01/2025 12:19

I know people on the left with your views. I think your friend is very mistaken to consider you on the far right.

Wanting strong immigration controls used to be a fairly standard left-wing view.

OneWittyLemonCat · 25/01/2025 12:20

Grammarnut · 25/01/2025 12:17

As a Brexiteer I find your statement on Brexit pretty far right. I voted for Brexit as a Socialist, seeing the EU (and it's forerunners) for what it is, a capitalist cartel set up with the intention of promoting capitalism and removing as many as possible of the rights of workers - free movement OF LABOUR is about lowering wages across the EU, not about people being able to buy holiday cottages in the Algarve.

Fair enough. I only made one point and you’re extrapolating a fair bit from that - economic damage. Brexit has provably caused this to the UK, even Farage admits it (although it’s no his fault in any shapes or form)

Lightswitchup · 25/01/2025 12:20

Those are right wing views but not extreme or ‘far’ right ones. I would put Musk apologists further along the spectrum to the right but I see you had other thoughts about it now.

Grammarnut · 25/01/2025 12:21

thepariscrimefiles · 25/01/2025 11:53

The majority of people in the UK don't want the abortion laws changed.

There is support for lowering the upper limit to 22 weeks for the reasons Farage gives.

Rosscameasdoody · 25/01/2025 12:21

Fairyliz · 25/01/2025 12:15

Yes any photos of nazis carry out this salute, they are standing very straight with their head upright and only their arm raised. Not with their head tipped to one side like Elon Musk.
Taken to extremes is Usain Bolt’s gesture a nazi salute?

The Nazi salute was derived from the fascist one used by Mussolini, who stopped using it when the Nazis adopted it. The fascist salute was more like the one Musk did - more to the side. Not sure about the click of the heels that normally accompanies the Nazi salute.

Winterskyfall · 25/01/2025 12:21

I think you are reasonable. I can't stand the whole you don't agree with me therefore you are an extremist & a Nazi. This is said by people who don't believe in free speech and aren't intelligent or educated enough to argue their points.

Grammarnut · 25/01/2025 12:22

nfkl · 25/01/2025 11:53

I think the Left is the one making the larger use of what they denounce as far right practices:
restrictions to freedom of expression, check
authoritarianism, check
discrimination and favouritism based on race, religion, etc., check

The big difference is that their ideological enemy is the local population and the local culture

This. Very much so.

ilovesooty · 25/01/2025 12:23

ShirkingFromHome95 · 25/01/2025 12:01

No doubt.

Fact is, no party is able to deliver those pledges in reality, but Reform are the only one seen to be 'telling it straight' and that speaks to the type of person that's had enough of our softly softly approach where we'll turn a blind eye to mass sexual assault and rape rather than risk offending the cultures/communities the perpetrators originate from.

If people looked at that blurb critically they'd know that Reform can't deliver on those pledges. It's easy enough to promise things when you aren't anywhere near government. What needs to happen is for their policies to be put under the spotlight and them being forced to justify them.

verycloakanddaggers · 25/01/2025 12:23

I think you sound pretty central.

People should at least try to learn the basics about politics before posting.

You can't just redefine the centre as 'the things I personally agree with'.

carrit · 25/01/2025 12:23

Coffeelovr · 25/01/2025 12:17

We're all far right now

The guy who drew that is an "anti-woke" extremist who's on a bit of a crusade about it, to the point of embarrassing himself with bold proclamations on topics he knows nothing about.

Isitme245 · 25/01/2025 12:24

@TankFlyBossWalkJamNittyGrittyIAmFromAMidSizeCity
It's not like I came to her with views. She asked me my opinions and I responded with what I know, hence me making this post and wanting to hear people's views and learn more

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scorpiogirly · 25/01/2025 12:24

I haven't read the whole thread.

I agree. Your friends views are not mine. It baffles me how some people can think this way. Having no issue at all with unregulated immigration. Huge Labour supporter? How? In what world.

I bet she's happy to share women's spaces too with men who claim to be women.

I've lost friends this way too. It's gutting at times, but when it comes to it, it's fine.

Grammarnut · 25/01/2025 12:25

TankFlyBossWalkJamNittyGrittyIAmFromAMidSizeCity · 25/01/2025 11:57

That's exactly what's happening, he just needs to get enough support by starting off with less extreme plans first.

When would you start fighting, you're OK with 24-22, what about 22-20? 20-18? Under 18 weeks?

There is support for lowering the limit to 22 weeks. Not only Farage has suggested this. I don't like or trust Farage and would never vote Reform, but lowering the abortion limit is not a far right policy.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 25/01/2025 12:25

ShirkingFromHome95 · 25/01/2025 11:44

I'd say she's woke/bonkers and you're a rational person. What does she think about the many sexual assaults committed by asylum seekers, like the NYE where 1200 sexual assaults happened in Germany on one night alone?

Does she think we should just let anybody in and women should have to bear the cost? That the rights of foreign men from misogynistic cultures trump the rights of women already living here?

Edited

I don't know where to start with this racist BS.
Hmm

Bubblyb00b · 25/01/2025 12:25

This feels like such a goady post, like - "look, this lefties says I'm nazi for being completely reasonable".

You can say whatever you want but what Musk did was a nazi salute, there is not other ways to "interpret" it.

Katypp · 25/01/2025 12:26

TheKeatingFive · 25/01/2025 11:43

I second this

I third it

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