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Should the father of the 4 Hoath boys also be charged with manslaughter?

240 replies

Inkyblue123 · 24/01/2025 16:11

Just that really - he abandoned those 4 kids to the care of someone he knew had psychiatric problems and living in filth.once again the judicial system punished a women while overlooking the broader systematic failures and the responsibilities of others.
YANBU - he should stand trial
YABU - he’s not responsible for this tragedy

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JessiesJ99 · 25/01/2025 13:23

Mrsbloggz · 25/01/2025 12:45

There was a previous thread about this case (before the trial) as I remember it the two sets of twins had different fathers?

No, same father. He does have younger children as well with another woman.

BobbyBiscuits · 25/01/2025 13:57

@Fireangels I know about the friend she invented. But in a report I saw it says she went with a friend and it must be on CCTV? So I thought this was an actual person, separate from this 'jade'. If not then I presume it was bad reporting.

Fireangels · 25/01/2025 16:23

BobbyBiscuits · 25/01/2025 13:57

@Fireangels I know about the friend she invented. But in a report I saw it says she went with a friend and it must be on CCTV? So I thought this was an actual person, separate from this 'jade'. If not then I presume it was bad reporting.

I’ve seen cctv footage of her in Sainsburys on the evening of the fire. She is alone.

Marieb19 · 25/01/2025 20:10

The father is unlikely to win any parenting awards, but if social workers beleived the children were safe in the mothers care, then what is the father guilty of?

dynamiccactus · 25/01/2025 21:12

Newbutoldfather · 24/01/2025 18:17

@dynamiccactus ,

‘There is a contractual relationship there as well as legal duties on childcare professionals.’

There are legal duties on all adults who care for children, including parents.

If my ex wife told me tomorrow that she no longer wanted to care for our children 50% of the time, I might not be happy but I would care for them the same as I do now, taking full responsibility all the time.

And, if I failed in this basic parental duty, I would be 100% to blame.

Yes, for failing parents, there should be interventions and help, and clearly lots failed here. And he was a dead beat dad, and can be blamed for that. But their deaths are totally on her.

The pp was trying to equate leaving a child with a childminder with a dad (or mum) dumping the child(ren) on the other parent.

It isn't the same.

dynamiccactus · 25/01/2025 21:15

Marieb19 · 25/01/2025 20:10

The father is unlikely to win any parenting awards, but if social workers beleived the children were safe in the mothers care, then what is the father guilty of?

The fact remains they are his kids as well and it's not all on the mother.

And if he has even more kids, he's even more to blame.

He needs to keep it in his trousers.

However, with all those kids to keep it wouldn't be sensible to lock him up, he needs a job and to pay for the ones he's got left.

HelpMebeok · 25/01/2025 21:16

Unfair to comment on this without knowing all the facts. Social workers had closed the case should they be accountable?

ColdAndFrostyDay · 25/01/2025 21:42

Inkyblue123 · 24/01/2025 16:11

Just that really - he abandoned those 4 kids to the care of someone he knew had psychiatric problems and living in filth.once again the judicial system punished a women while overlooking the broader systematic failures and the responsibilities of others.
YANBU - he should stand trial
YABU - he’s not responsible for this tragedy

I said exactly the same. She is clearly mentally ill, but was left to try and cope and couldn’t. Where was he and all the rest of the family

alwayslearning789 · 25/01/2025 21:43

vivainsomnia · 25/01/2025 12:03

So many assumptions portraying him as the bad guy and her a poor victim of circumstances without any evidence of either.

That's why MN is being accused of lacking Impartiality and being sexist.

Nobody knows the circumstances and what parent either of them were. All we really know is that a mum left 4 children 4 and younger alone to go and buy non essential products. Everything else is pure speculation.

Speculation?

This guy had 7 kids under 4.

7 under 4 just taking that in....

Not sure that shows a great sense of responsibility.

Mum did wrong. Totally. Not arguing with that.

fairycakes1234 · 25/01/2025 21:43

TheThreeCheesesOfTheApocalypse44 · 24/01/2025 16:51

Don't be so fucking stupid.

Honestly 🙄

What???

HappyApper · 25/01/2025 21:47

The Judge stated she suffered domestic abuse. A totally distressing event all round. The step grandmother crying on tv hardly had anything to do with them. She has gone after the mother without looking at their own door and her step
son. Like people have mentioned before. All over her face book. Scummy family indeed.

vivainsomnia · 25/01/2025 21:48

Not sure that shows a great sense of responsibility
Again, assumptions. We don't know. He might have paid for all and seen his 4 eldest regularly.

Or not....but we don't know and assumptions remain just that. Let's not turn them into facts.

mathanxiety · 25/01/2025 22:20

JessiesJ99 · 24/01/2025 16:27

The father didn't leave them in the house on their own with candles on.

The father was not in the house all the same...

mathanxiety · 25/01/2025 22:21

MJconfessions · 24/01/2025 17:06

I disagree in that she clearly was a poor mother and was rightfully punished. Like there’s a difference between a struggling single mum and being neglectful

She was clearly struggling and had actually tried to get help.

mathanxiety · 25/01/2025 22:25

alwayslearning789 · 25/01/2025 21:43

Speculation?

This guy had 7 kids under 4.

7 under 4 just taking that in....

Not sure that shows a great sense of responsibility.

Mum did wrong. Totally. Not arguing with that.

It would be interesting to find out how many night time feeding or nappy changes this stud has done in the last seven years.

mathanxiety · 25/01/2025 22:28

Hoppinggreen · 24/01/2025 21:19

I don't know enough about the case to say how culpable he was in allowing his sons to live in such circumstances but I do wonder if he and his family could have done more to protect them.
However, he is not responsible for their deaths

Legally responsible isn't the same as morally responsible.

I'd definitely say he was morally reaponsible.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 25/01/2025 22:29

Ridiculous question.

TheignT · 25/01/2025 22:29

MumonabikeE5 · 24/01/2025 16:19

I don’t think the law can do that. But wish the judge could have added a pithy, shame inducing observation about how the father was absent having fathered 4 very young children, and that perhaps with his more active involvement their lives might have been saved.

The judge did say the grand parents, great grandmother and the father were helping to care for the children.

I think if you choose to be the RP you have to accept the responsibility just like the NRP does when they have the child/children in their care.

Pussycat22 · 25/01/2025 22:30

MumonabikeE5 · 24/01/2025 16:19

I don’t think the law can do that. But wish the judge could have added a pithy, shame inducing observation about how the father was absent having fathered 4 very young children, and that perhaps with his more active involvement their lives might have been saved.

You're right,it's easy to 'father'

TheignT · 25/01/2025 22:33

Fireangels · 25/01/2025 16:23

I’ve seen cctv footage of her in Sainsburys on the evening of the fire. She is alone.

I read she was on the phone chatting to a friend as she went shopping. Maybe that is the confusion?

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 25/01/2025 22:35

Who has 4 kids and leaves them? If I had 4 kids that age I would not have coped. Lock him up as well.

TheignT · 25/01/2025 22:37

Luddite26 · 24/01/2025 21:25

I have experienced good relationships with health visitors many times but I think in 2021 they weren't getting face to face meetings etc due to COVID restrictions/backlog. Even just the basics have broken down in this country.

Her health visitor was concerned but she retired a couple of months before the fire and no one else had picked up the case.

TheignT · 25/01/2025 22:40

purpleandcoral · 24/01/2025 20:14

They can't but surely if he was involved enough he would have been aware of the conditions in the house from collection. If there were as described, the chances are that the children themselves were also not clean and looked after. They hadn't attended school for weeks. So he either knew there was an issue and did nothing which is neglect, or his own absence meant he didn't know the conditions his own children were living in, which is also neglect.

I can't help but feel if the roles were reversed, the responses would be very different

Social services knew about the conditions and they'd been in the house. The teacher said the kids were clean and well turned out. Maybe it wasn't as obvious as we might think.

LuluBlakey1 · 25/01/2025 22:46

I can not understand soc services allowing a woman with 'very complex psychiatric problems' to have residential care and responsibility for 4 small boys. I just can not understand it. They clearly had ongoing concerns about her over a significant period of time. Most people with good mental health and a stable relationship and support would find managing 4 small boys full-time a challenge.

LuluBlakey1 · 25/01/2025 22:49

The father sounds hopeless and feckless- 7 children under 4 is not the sign of a responsible adult- but he did not cause the fire that killed them. He did not leave them alone with a candle burning. She should be locked up for life- secure hospital or prison.