Not to like being called posh?

[Stillwearinggloves]

What point is a person trying to make by saying someone else is posh? This comment has been made to me or about me a few times recently by so-called friends. AIBU to think it’s rude and not to like being singled out in this way?

I really hate this ~ if it's the way some ex-friends said it about/to me, I'd be worried what they're saying behind your back! Maybe time for some new friends.

Yes, I’ve stepped back a bit - partly worrying about what else people are saying. Just wanted to make sure I wasn’t being oversensitive.

Who is saying it? Are they a bit common? In which case I wouldn't mind.

I've been teased for having a "posh" name (I'm named after my great grandmother) just let it run off like water off a ducks back

If its only been made recently by your friends, has something changed in your life? New home? Buying more high end things? It seems unusual for several people to suddenly start calling you posh. The usual things that earn you that label tend to be related to accent, wealth or background- things they would always have known about you.

I was called posh for naming my children certain names. I was definitely not posh. I am from a working class background and at the time I was a single mum on benefits.

My point being that be called posh doesn't mean you actually are.

I'm fact out of all the things I was called as a kid "posh" is one of my favourite, yes I am a little lady deal with it 😉

Why does it offend you

I totally agree.

I’ve stopped using my title, I swapped the Land Rover for an Audi, and I only meet the school mums in the groundsman’s cottage now. But still they call me posh!

Hello mother?

My mother definitely had her financial struggles (thanks dad) didn't stop her giving us bougie names

I’d be delighted to be called posh.

They aren't 'bougie' names though. They're very ordinary names, think Elizabeth and Harry

Hmm whats a bougie name 🤔

I used to work somewhere in the north west where most of my colleagues were very local and had a very, very strong accent, I don’t. It was assumed I was privately educated (I wasn’t) and that I was “posh and up myself”. When I asked them to explain it was that my accent wasn’t local (I’ve been in the NW most of my life but was born down south so it’s not a very strong northern accent) and I pronounce words properly. Okay then.

It's never meant as a compliment, even if people like to pretend it is.

Why? It’s not rude, is it?

It’s not a bad thing, unless you’re one of those working class hero types who tags their self worth to being a (wo)man of the people.

I’m posh compared to some of my friends and a serf compared to others. It’s not a big deal.

Did someone call you it to your face in an insulting way. As if to say you were snobby, stuck up, elitist, rude, cold, classist?
Or were they just observing it because maybe you have the trappings of success and mannerisms they associate with upper middle class people?

How do you define posh?

I speak well so it’s probably that but I’ve spoken the same way since school. I haven’t seen the friendship group so much recently due to work. The last three times I’ve socialised with them, one or two of them (the same ones) have made this comment. It makes me feel uncomfortable and I do wonder what else they’re saying. I don’t feel I should have to say I’m not - I just think they shouldn’t make the comment!

I don't really want to say my real name on here haha I've posted way too much personal info on this site. I did get mercilessly teased for having a "posh" name though I still love my name anyway

But there is no such thing as a 'posh' name.

Except Bunty. And Jonty. And probably Crispin and Eustacie.

This.

You'd never call someone chavvy, or poor to their face (or hopefully behind their back). Posh has similar, classist negative undertones.

Sure I do agree anyone can name a kid what they like. I'm just saying I was called posh because of my name a lot. It doesn't bother me at all though

I feel they’re trying to make be out to be different, and it alienates me. I just wanted to have a group of friends and to be myself, without having to worry about judgements being made or that perhaps they don’t really think of me as a friend.