Not to like being called posh?

[Stillwearinggloves]

What point is a person trying to make by saying someone else is posh? This comment has been made to me or about me a few times recently by so-called friends. AIBU to think it’s rude and not to like being singled out in this way?

I like being described as posh, but for years it was used as a put down by the low class.

But private school is by no means reserved for the ‘posh’. If you can pay, you can attend. All the fact that you attended an expensive private (or indeed public) school means is that your parents could afford it, and you met whatever other entry requirements there were, if any. (Or you had a scholarship or whatever, obviously.)

Low class? I think you should be described as a snob rather than posh.

@Illegally18 You may not think that is posh. Someone like me does

@Rosesgrowonyou I think you misunderstand my comment.

I speak nicely and was labelled posh as a way of putting me down. Surely it's a low class approach, to put someone down for speaking nicely?

And Arabella and Hubert.

Reverse snobbery is still snobbery

Why would you get worked up about this?

I get called posh a lot because I don’t have a regional accent from where I live and was brought up in a (poor part of a) wealthy area. I’m not remotely posh but if people think I am that’s OK, they’re not insulting me, they’re teasing me about my uniqueness in our social circle

Having a lot of money and going to private schools IS posh to a lot of people

It is posh to me

@Penguinsmum 'So the last time one lady said it, I replied well I suppose I am posh compared to you!'
This is very good, thank you! Add a tinkly laugh and we're all set 😁

Yeah why not be a snobby bitch, that will go down well.

They don’t say it nastily. My issue is that they say it at all. It’s to make a point. I just don’t know what point. I think any of the reasons given by PPs could be the reason. Maybe it’s a mixture of them.

If it is because I speak well and have good manners, I would actually prefer them just to say that rather than say I’m posh! At least I’d know what I’m dealing with, and I could just say thanks in response.

@JoyousGreyOrca sorry, what's the correct answer to 'you're posh', according to you? I'll be waiting. (no swear words 🤗🙏)

You're right about the snobby thing though! If someone says you are posh they really are telling you how rough they are, aren't they?

You see you are still being offensive calling people rough.
You would call me rough with a tinkly laugh of course.

You're posh is simply a way of people saying you are rich. Just say thanks, yes I am.

I don’t think I’m worked up about it. I’d just rather they didn’t single me out by using a label that has lots of different connotations and reasons for use. I don’t think that they’re complimenting me. I don’t necessarily think they’re trying to insult me. However they’re definitely saying something when, in my view, if everyone’s friendly, nothing needs to be said at all.

True.

Yes, I understand they they may be posh to you, (and I don't want to sound condescending), but I find them a bunch of pretentious, twattish rich kids. Though I imagine they're hamming it up for the camera and the audience ratings.

I’ve been called posh many times and it’s funny how much I do not fit the description of posh. Usually it’s insecure working class people with inverted snobbery complex. You wouldn’t go around calling some people rough you’d probably get punched although there’s an irony to that..:

New into a job I was chatting to a work colleague at the printer talking about the school holidays. She soon realised, from my kids’ holiday dates that they weren’t at state school and responded with ‘Oh, so yours are at posh school then?’
Just piss off.

@LittleRedRidingHoody You are wrong. People are quite willing to make it clear they consider you chavvy or common.

Well they shouldn't 💁‍♀️ I've heard far more derogatory comments about being 'posh' than I have being 'chavvy' or 'common' (I don't think I've actually heard these two in person!) but all of those comments come from judgemental, insecure or jealous people.

@LittleRedRidingHoody I suspect it is like white people saying they never hear racism

They don’t, you know. They’re highly unlikely to be said explicitly to your face, but some UC types makes it extremely clear that you are not PLU. Or NQOT. Not out of any kind of insecurity or jealousy.