Not to like being called posh?

[Stillwearinggloves]

What point is a person trying to make by saying someone else is posh? This comment has been made to me or about me a few times recently by so-called friends. AIBU to think it’s rude and not to like being singled out in this way?

When I worked briefly for a homelessness charity in London my manager kept saying things like 'You are too posh for us' or 'you look so posh with this dress'...

Frankly it was really annoying and I took it as a dig that I did not really belong in that team. Another team member never even said hello to me or responded to my morning greeting when I cam in and ignored me for the entire time I worked for that charity.

I was always called common as I had an Easex accent (moved to the Mkdlands as a teenager).and my mum was a single parent.

People are twats!

Dh's family consider me posh for buying cheese from a cheese counter 😀

I think you’re absolutely right about the ‘not really belonging’ feeling it results in.

I wouldn't mind being called posh.

Proper fancy! 🤣

I’ve been told I sound posh enough times by enough people to believe it, even though I can’t hear it myself. Close friends who I’ve known for several decades have teased me about it. More often it’s that people will tell me, after they’ve known me for a while, that they thought I was posh when we first met. I get the impression they were expecting me to look down on them, and we’re pleasantly surprised when I didn’t. I’m definitely not posh. I’ve never felt anyone was meaning it in a negative way. I just figured that I probably do sound posh 🤷‍♀️

People think I’m posh because of my name. Someone once said it was ‘horsey’ 🙄.

I wouldn’t bother calling them out on it but I do think there is an element of jealousy behind it
If it is the odd comment I would ignore, if it is a frequent thing then I would question the friendship
How do you respond to them?

It comes from a place of insecurity though

Well, what about 'Venetia' or 'Camilla'?

So true!

Tarquin

I have a name that is considered posh in some places, although it was not posh when I was growing up.

I haven’t responded to them really. The first time the comment was made, the person (actually someone else I haven’t mentioned before) was drunk and there was no point. The second time I ignored it. The last time - when it would have been the right point to question it - I was at a party so it was definitely the wrong time to challenge. If or when someone next says it, I had just planned to ask what they meant by saying it, and go from there.

When you use the napkins in a restaurant for dabbing the corners of your mouth, rather than wiping beans off the front of your dress.

I would take it as a compliment.

I’ve yet to meet a working-class Rupert, and the one I knew had a half-blue in croquet and a family art collection so extensive they had their own private curator who lived in the former gamekeeper’s house on the estate. Alas, he was a third son.😀

Bridget?!

If we were playing Upstairs/Downstairs with names, Bridget wouldn’t be upstairs.

I grew up with a Rupert. We were both from very working class families.
He always went by Roo though, I didn’t realise his full name was Rupert until we were older

edited to correct typo

When I was at school you were called "posh" if you did your homework and didn't tell the teachers to fuck off.

I have a posh name but I’m not posh

I get called posh all the time because I'm well spoken. I just roll my eyes and carry on. Commoners!!

It is a comment to say you're not one of us. Beneath it you will find the ugly face of common jealousy.

1. Get some tattoos on your face.
2. Wear a T-shirt sporting a large red cross and the word Engerland (sic) on it.
3. Drink to the point of vomiting in the street.

And Voila! You won't be called 'posh' anymore.