My whole family forgot my birthday

[Oopsadaisy92]

Kind of light hearted but my brother, my parents and most importantly my DH have all forgotten to wish me happy birthday today. At time of writing it's 14.30.

Just to confirm my birthday is on the 22nd of January... I haven't got my dates mixed up and it's like the 21st today or something??

Also - any ideas on being petty? I feeling like letting them all know at this point needs something big so it doesn't look desperate for attention 🤣

I just wanted to say Happy Belated Birthday to you. 🎂 🥳 🎉 🎈 🎁 🎊.

Of course it makes you feel sad when no one remembers, whatever birthday it is.
Totally natural to feel that way!!
I hope you took 28andgreat's advice and went out and bought yourself a birthday cake and candles and sang "Happy Birthday to me" because that was, definitely, the best advice.
But I wouldn't hold a grudge and do the same to them. I think it's quite cruel to just ignore someone's birthday. People can forget when they have a lot going on.

I hope your day turned out better, and hopefully they will never forget again !!

You read my mind. I was going to say the same. If you have access to an online greeting site send a happy birthday to yourself use the emails to all who forgot.

When I turned 19 I was a university student and still living at home. I came home in the evening after having a drink with friends - only one beer but my mom smelled it on my breath. She slapped me in the face yelling how dare I. I yelled back that at least my friends had remembered my birthday. (My dad came home much later and had a present for me, he hadn't forgotten.)

So parents did R.E.M. as they are behind in time

lunchtime their time is fine tho get it’s late for you

what is their time diff. If you wanted a 8/9am text happy birthday - what time would it be there

where as dh did forget and the whole birthday was gone in his time

sorry you were upset @Oopsadaisy92 but fair enough

happy birthday 💐🍸💐🍸

I find it very odd that anyone would forget the birthdays of their closest relatives. In the last week we've had mine, my sister's and father's, cards were the usual messages were sent before and on the day. With immediate family it should be hardwired into the long term memory given you have been acknowledging it every year. I was a little surprised my birthday wasn't mentioned at the Rotary meeting last week (it was the day before) as they do acknowledge the birthdays of members, but I have only been a member for about 14 months so I can let them off.

I bet you're a delight at party's 🙄🥳

True @BePinkUser

I was just thinking I'd say a time diff and they wake up at 9am their time then text/call 10am which will be late for op

Still not sure how anyone can't forget an 18th 🥲

I had that one year, I was living in Australia so I guess with not being around they forgot. Also nothing to do with time difference, I spoke to my dad on what would have been the morning of my birthday, and I was out for evening meal with friends, and he didn't realise why that would be

“People can forget when they have a lot going on.”

It’s a pity that mobile phones don’t have an app (could call it Calendar?) where users could enter important dates. If I were a developer, I’d make it so you could have reminder alarms, say, 2 days before, a week before etc.

Another great feature would be the ability to repeat the event year on year.

Swimlyn ....forgive me for trying to make this person feel a little better about the situation, and the possibilities.
Older people, especially, do not use all the facilities on a smart phone, that's even IF they own one. My own mum doesn't. She has a mobile, but not a smart phone and uses it only to answer calls and nothing else. You'd be surprised what people forget when they are unwell, stressed or just distracted for whatever reason. It IS a possibility.
Besides....you just never know what is going on in someone's life, esp if you don't live close by. If your relative had just been diagnosed with a serious illness, would you find it so unreasonable that calling you to sing happy birthday was not up there with 'things I must do today'

Any update on them remembering?

WTF?! You set the bar bloody low!

How about a 'Yay - it's my birthday' post on your family WhatsApp/multiple texts to all the offending parties/instagram or other social media. I have, once, had to ring SMIL to get her to remind FIL about DH's birthday. Super unimpressive if you ask me so my advice is as follows:
Buy yourself some flowers and a cake;
maybe ring or text DH to 'check' where he's taking you for a birthday dinner;

Maybe ask for takeaway tonight and sort out another weekend day for dinner and a 'birthday trip out';
Ask if you can have one 'really nice present' rather than lots of little ones.

I could go on.

They must not get away with this, it would be bad for them.

Sounds rubbish.

What has it come to when you have to actually hint let alone tell your family that its your birthday! I feel so sad for you and frankly the person that thinks its your fault for not asking for presents left my jaw dropping. I buy myself a cake every year as its me who makes all the family birthday cakes but if I didn't get so much as a card I would be devastated.

Doesn't sound rubbish at all but sounds expensive 😊

Why? To be acknowledged on your birthday by your nearest and dearest is a normal expectation. You shouldn't have to ask for loads of things for that to happen. (My mum has forgotten mine and my brother's birthdays (her only two children), and my children's birthdays (her only two grandchildren) loads of times and it is hurtful.)