My whole family forgot my birthday

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Kind of light hearted but my brother, my parents and most importantly my DH have all forgotten to wish me happy birthday today. At time of writing it's 14.30.

Just to confirm my birthday is on the 22nd of January... I haven't got my dates mixed up and it's like the 21st today or something??

Also - any ideas on being petty? I feeling like letting them all know at this point needs something big so it doesn't look desperate for attention 🤣

Ok, auld wan here - tell you what you do!

Organise a good old night out with your friends this weekend, and message a photo to your husband and family captioned, "birthday night out"!!!

On the bright side, they probably won't forget again....

I remember my 40th - jeez it feels like 100 years ago now! - and I got a few cards, it was so low key and I was so disappointed! And I was pregnant at the time too! I didn't say anything.

Sunday came and DH took me and the kids to my parents and they had a party with lots of lovely presents. It was so nice, I was grateful and I enjoyed it, but it didn't feel the same because I'd felt sad on 'the day'!

Then I turned 50 and got over myself lol. Insisted on a fuss when I was 60 though!

Belated happy birthday! x

Don't the parents at least get a pass for a few more hours with the time difference? Hubby is in the doghouse unless some flowers arrive at your door very shortly. Happy Birthday.

I don't think there's anything wrong with saying, "Did you really totally forget it's my birthday? You know, that really hurts my feelings."

With your parents/brother, what you neglected to clarify is, do they routinely forget, or is this unusual? If it's usually been like this, it's rather late to start fussing.

What a ridiculous thing to say! It's really not a big ask for close family members to remember your birthday and wish you a happy day.

Did you also forget because I have never met a kid that isn't excited about an upcoming birthday and won't shut up about it lol

Oh yes. We remembered the week before but forgot on the day IYKWIM. It was fine, honestly (and a long time ago).

That shouldn't prevent them just giving her birthday wishes in the meantime though surely?! 🤔
I find it quite strange but OP doesn't indicate if this is normal behaviour for her family but if it is why does she seem so surprised?! 🙄

Thank you! Definitely not a divorcable offence. He's just not thought about it but he is generally very caring.

My parents called at 9pm which was lunch time for them so I let them off. At 10pm I called hubby knowing it was 1am for him and he felt really bad. Turns out I was more upset than j thought. Anyway thanks all for your comments

Definitely forget his next birthday.

That's great your parents called, op. Lunch time is absolutely not in the "forgetting" range.
But your DH sounds awful. My birthday is this weekend and I don't care too much about it in general but if dh completely forgot, of course that would upset me. I don't understand how you can forget the birthday of the closest person to you especially when you discuss it the day before.
That's not on, op. I'm sorry.

So? All the more reason for him to remember.

If he genuinely forgot and feels really bad he can hopefully make it up to you. It’s not nice being on your own on your birthday, and for your partner to forget is tragic. I’m not surprised you were more upset than you thought !
My partner forgets mine all the time, it’s the passcode to my laptop and he has to ask me what it is. I think if he was in a different country he’d probably forget too !

Why is it that when women try to address male behaviour by responding in like that they’re always accused of ‘pathetic tit for tat’?

That is how you train women to always expect nothing, and why there’s thread after thread of women posting that they buy their own birthday and Christmas presents because DH doesn’t bother.

And a party hat, like Rachel in Friends

I’m glad your parents remembered. I don’t know if you mentioned it earlier but I completely missed that they were in a country with such a large time difference. I’m surprised you assumed they forgot so soon, considering it must’ve been about 6am there when you first posted if they’re 9 hours or so behind.

I’m not suggesting divorce but I do find it strange he is that distracted he forgot considering you raised it the day before. You said he was texting you earlier about other stuff so he didn’t sound that busy. I’d wonder is he very worried about something? I agree with the pp it’s not a good sign, if he’s already forgetting at this stage. Do you normally not exchange presents/cards? Or is he waiting until he’s back to give you something?
Hope he makes it up to you!

That is how you train women to always expect nothing, and why there’s thread after thread of women posting that they buy their own birthday and Christmas presents because DH doesn’t bother.

I’ve never understood those posts where the women continues to buy Christmas presents not only for the husband but for their in-laws too, knowing she will be getting zilch from her husband. There was a whole slew of those threads last month.

Im glad he felt bad op. He deserves to feel bad. He should have organised something before he went eg hidden a present and card (or given it to you) to open on the day, sent flowers to arrive, something, anything. It’s not hard nowadays is it when you can everything delivered.

Im so sorry the useless idiot upset you. I hope you let him know you were upset. Obviously, out of sight, out of mind. To me, given where he is and how he’s behaved, it doesn’t bode well.

Asked for presents? I don't think it's unreasonable to expect those closest to you to remember your birthday without having to be hand held through it. I bet OP didn't wait to be asked for presents from her husband on his birthday.