My whole family forgot my birthday

[Oopsadaisy92]

Kind of light hearted but my brother, my parents and most importantly my DH have all forgotten to wish me happy birthday today. At time of writing it's 14.30.

Just to confirm my birthday is on the 22nd of January... I haven't got my dates mixed up and it's like the 21st today or something??

Also - any ideas on being petty? I feeling like letting them all know at this point needs something big so it doesn't look desperate for attention 🤣

Another, wishing you a happy birthday 😘
could you go tomorrow and buy a Colin the Caterpillar cake and send your family a photo of you with Colin, your hot date ? The best birthday evening EVER! 🤣

Totally agree!! If you're going to throw a surprise party for someone, do it before the day so there's no 'pretending to forget' nonsense.

Oopsadaisy92

Did you get any birthday messages from your parents or DH in the end?

Happy Birthday @Oopsadaisy92 - did you hear from anyone in the end?

Hope you’ve had something special, OP, either from DH or something you’ve done for yourself. Some brilliant suggestions on here. Happy birthday 🎂

Is that what you say to your kids on their birthdays. 'well you should have said something?'

I was hoping to read they had remembered by now..I'm sorry man. Happy birthday OP. Hope you treat yourself.

Let hour bloke know that it's pointless doing birthdays if one of you forgets, so just forget it for both from now on. Add Christmas on if he's a dick about it.

I once spent the day of my birthday with my parents and siblings and none of them had remembered. Its shit and marks your soul in how you feel about them. Just a little nick, but they add up.

Are you serious?? That would have scarred me for life!

happy birthday OP! 🎂
I’m sorry your family forgot - that is really poor of them all. I think you do need to raise this with them - even if you are able to not be too upset by it it is thoughtless.

What photo?

ODFOD. Why should anyone have to remind their parents and spouse when their birthday is?

I was wondering that. I hate it when someone comes on here telling a tale of woe, getting our support and sympathy but then not telling us the outcome! I was totally on board with the disappointment she felt until she didn’t have the courtesy to tell us what transpired. I have lost interest now!

Hopefully she’s in a cocktail bar with her mates.

are you serious? She posted today. Maybe she is out celebrating her birthday. Or gone to bed. Maybe she will satisfy your curiosity tomorrow.

I would never just assume my DH would remember my birthday every year. He's so busy even if he had it in his reminders I would still not take offence if he forgot. We would both feel bad if we forgot each others but neither of us would take offence.Our strategy is to jokingly bring it up a few days before. On one occasion I still forgot but made up for it on the day.No harm done imo

Yeah it’s such a shame that you can do only one thing to mark a birthday and so have to decide between sending a text to let them know you’re thinking about them or meeting up with them later……..

Surely at home you wish your spouse happy birthday first thing even though you’re doing something together later? Surely?

I actually can’t belive there are people who when working away wouldn’t even text happy birthday as their first text of the day. People who just cannot lift a fucking finger for anyone else.

Say what? Since when do you have to “ask for presents” from loved ones on your birthday? 😂

You think she's to blame for her husband and family not remembering her birthday? Seriously?
This performative anti birthday thing on mn is so tedious

Would you suggest DHs work colleagues remind him of every occasion, that the travel agents phone to tell him what day to go on holiday, that the shops phone to tell him he needs ro pay for groceries? Why is his wife nor jmportant enough to remember the date?

Agree. I saw a video where a girls friends all made her feel they'd forgotten her 30th then all turned up

Why?

I’d’ve been in bits and wouldn’t’ve enjoyed the party.

Great reaction. It's so easy to have a blank on the date especially if extremely busy & the days are flying past then before you know it the birthday has arrived. It's why so many people say to each other eg is this Tueday or Wednesday. It happens.

Yeah it’s early days for her to update. She probably got chatting to some other people who did remember her birthday and just trying to enjoy the rest of her birthday night. Or she may be feeling really crap and is mentally unpacking and processing everything or didn’t feel there’s anything to update.

The fall out from this will probably happen tomorrow when she reminds her husband and parents that they forgot - unless of course they did manage to remember in the last few hours of her night.

Hopefully OP is ok and will likely update tomorrow.

Meant to quote @azaleahead a great reaction😁

Why? Sometimes shit happens. It was a really exhausting week and they forgot. I love them, they love me.

Sorry but had to say it - lucky bastards!!!!!

DH and I are early 60s, kids 27, 25 and 21 and still working FT grrrr!

Maybe they're less organised because they're not working and dates don't mean as much?!