My whole family forgot my birthday

[Oopsadaisy92]

Kind of light hearted but my brother, my parents and most importantly my DH have all forgotten to wish me happy birthday today. At time of writing it's 14.30.

Just to confirm my birthday is on the 22nd of January... I haven't got my dates mixed up and it's like the 21st today or something??

Also - any ideas on being petty? I feeling like letting them all know at this point needs something big so it doesn't look desperate for attention 🤣

Whaaat
I find this a bit bizarre tbh, even if they have a surprise planned. I'd expect at least a message by now!
Hope you have a lovely evening...get some cake and wine!

I wouldn’t say anything today, it lets them off the hook.

Tell them tomorrow that it was your birthday and they forgot.

And then make sure you deliberately forget ALL their next birthdays.

Don’t listen to anyone telling you to be the bigger person.

Happy birthday OP! Go buy yourself a treat.
I wouldn't say a word but I would forget their birthdays this year.

Happy birthday OP. Is this usual for them? If not then it’s really odd. I’m with the posters who also don’t like it when people pretend to forgot because there is a surprise coming. I hope everyone bucks up their ideas for a bit, but frankly I would be taking myself out for dinner and just enjoy some alone time.

@marriednotdead’s post is so lovely, what a sweetheart you are! Happy birthday to your daughter too!

Happy Birthday

@Oopsadaisy92 order yourself a bouquet of flowers and put it from an old childhood friend your dp has never heard of! get it delivered late this afternoon so they see it when they come in from work! make them feel guilty!

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This happened to me last week! I'm sorry OP, I know how crap it feels.

It's shit and you don't deserve to be forgotten. I would take yourself off for a lovely dinner and then ignore their next birthday. Possibly divorce your shitty husband.

Happy Birthday @Oopsadaisy92 🥳🥳

Happy Birthday OP!!!!

I hope the day improves

Happy Belated Birthday 🎈!!!!

Happy birthday OP and Happy Birthday for last week to @EmbraWumman

I'm not overly sentimental about birthdays or doing huge things to mark them but having your parents and spouse acknowledge and mark it in some way, whether that is just with tea and cake at home or a phone call and card is the very least that someone can expect.

It's rubbish if you are expected to remind people who are supposed to care for you in advance that you have a birthday. It's not hard to remember that your child or spouse was born in January

It was my partner's birthday on Sunday. As we did last year, we've come away for the week to a lovely holiday cottage because (a) January birthdays can be a bit shit and (b) I love her and want her to have a really nice time. I had a bagful of gifts for her that I'd carefully chosen and a card I knew she'd love and we had a special birthday dinner with her favourite fizz.

How can anyone 'forget' their loved one's birthday (apart from if they have memory loss, obviously)?

You could hold a surprise birthday for yourself. Buy a cake, candles and a gift and invite them all over and come out yelling “surprise” and singing “Happy Birthday to Me”

Happy Birthday and I’m sorry. Maybe they’re just all coincidentally a bit disorganised this year. X

Unfortunately not im working london and DH is out of the country on work but Is texting

Hah! I'm certainly planning on holding it against them all for the next 20 years!

My parents and family totally forgot my 8th birthday. I was a very loved child. Sometimes things are forgotten.

Just buy yourself a nice cake and eat it in front of them later. When they ask why you have such a cake, say, it's my birthday! You could text them all saying it's my birthday today?! Happy birthday 🎂 🥳 If it's any consolation, I usually have to buy my own present and cake every year, because my husband forgets. Last year they actually remembered for the first time! Which was lovely. Think it's because I've started to remind them when my birthday is, the week before. Maybe that's a good plan? Gives people time to shop and get presents & cards. Get yourself a takeaway and enjoy it!

I grew up in a culture where the norm is that the birthday person when adult makes the celebration. The level of input I was allowed grew from when I was a child, as I became a teenager. It was a major market of my growing into an independent adult has I had more control each year

As adults, this would encompass bringing cakes into work, buying a round of drinks to hosting dinner or even greater event to celebrate.

This might be why the idea of relying on other adults to facilitate my birthday celebrations seems so infantilising. And if MN is anything to go by, the source of so much angst and disappointment. It also means that I get to set the budget for each birthday celebration. I've had b v cheap ones to quite full blown events.

I commend to you this way of celebrating.

Don’t divorce your husband - I think PP got her trending threads mixed up.

Just replace him for the day with these guys…

Tbf my mother forgot my 18th 🙃 so the form is there...

That sucks! I get friends sometimes forgetting but your life partner shouldn’t! I’d be the most offended at that for the fact you share a life/house together.

It’s a bit unfortunate that this year your husband , brother and parents have all forgot. You’d think at least one would remember if the other forgot.

Are you someone who is expected to do a lot for others but don’t get much back? I’d nip this in the bud and raise it with your husband when he gets back so hopefully everyone knows you’re not happy about this and they can do better next time.

Happy birthday for last week!

Does DH have form for being inconsiderate OP? Im sorry, I really dont think this kind of thing is funny, its mean if he truly forgotten and not making you think hes forgotten. Hope he's planning a big surprise for when you get home