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Making a slight bag rustling sound in a fast food restaurant

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Augustinian · 22/01/2025 07:08

My DH and I are on holiday. We were doing some shopping and fancied a break so stopped at a fast food restaurant as it was the easiest option (this is a busy spot). This country is his favourite country by the way, he wants to live here (we live in the UK). So we sat down, it’s busy but not quite full and we find a table. On one side is a man sitting on his own using his phone. While we wait for our food, I begin to take out a phone bag I had purchased as we are constantly having to use our phones for the train and I don’t have good pockets so it’s been quite a hassle getting it in and out. I want to get it ready for the journey home. The plastic shopping bag is making a slight rustling sound as I rummage around in it. The fast food place is full of chatting people, people unwrapping their food, etc, not exactly a museum or library atmosphere. As I’m reaching into the shopping bag to put the rubbish from the bag in it after unwrapping the phone bag, the bag rustles again. He gives me and then the bag a disgusted nasty look. He’s not a confrontational person so I’ve learned to read his facial expressions quite well after being married 10 years, and this one was clearly ‘you’re being loud and annoying and embarrassing me in front of my favourite country’s people by making too much noise’. I got pretty pissed about this (not loudly, I moved away from him to an empty seat and ate on my own). I have refused to travel back with him to the hotel and told him I won’t go back with him so to just finish his meal and leave. I’m now sat here wondering if I’ve over reacted but it really pissed me off. I do realise this is not a massive deal but it just made me feel a bit shit.

OP posts:
Bangolads · 26/01/2025 19:13

You need to apologise!!

CrayonCritic5 · 26/01/2025 22:17

OP please dont listen to the people who dont get it. Sometimes you just have to be in the situation to know how it went down, and only you know what he’s like. And his previous behaviour has clearly ground you down.

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 01/02/2025 14:02

I think maybe you need some counselling on communicating better tbh. It seems a massive over reaction because of a look, to move tables, silent treatment him and not accompany him to your hotel. However, perhaps this is because he doesn't articulate himself and instead uses passive aggressive looks instead of being upfront about what's annoying him, which I can see would be tricky to deal with as you can't actually have a conversation about what's going on. If he'd have said "that rustling and faffing about with the bags is really irritating, would you mind leaving it a minute" would you have been as annoyed?

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