To think couples who can’t afford IVF shouldn’t try to crowdfund it?

[DearOpalFinch]

Having a baby is a personal choice. Is it fair to expect strangers to pay for it?

Was it really worth bumping a nine month old thread to say that?

Well the OP clearly has an ignorant attitude and I just saw the post. Was your response to me really worth it?

Crowdfunding doesn’t need to be fair. If you don’t want to contribute, don’t. It’s a weird thought that you get to police what people can crowdfund for and what they can’t.

As someone who has two children through IVF I feel deeply privileged that we were in a position to be able to afford to go through three rounds of IVF plus surgery for my husband and multiple embryo transfers to get to where we are now.
We regularly discuss how hard it must be for people who do not have enough disposable income to be able to afford the incredibly high costs of fertility treatment.
It was impossible for us to have a family without IVF due to the nature of our diagnosis - no "accidental babies" or "just relax" would have worked, so I can absolutely see that for people in our situation who are not financially well off, crowdfunding would feel like perhaps their only option. And why should we gatekeep that? Having children is of course not an essential part of life, but one that is rich, joyous and fulfilling and I would have been devastated to miss out on had I been unable to afford the exorbitant costs.

To be in a position to critique this is very lucky. To have lived it is agonising and I could never judge anyone for asking for help when you never know if it will work out for you.

Very well said. Why should people crowded for repatriation, fir example, just because they haven't bothered to take out travel insurance or lied on their application?