You think they want to?! Do you think that putting your personal affairs out there so publicly is easy? It is unfair that anyone is in a position whereby they have to pay thousands and thousands of pounds to achieve something which comes so easily for the majority. That is the first pill that is hard to swallow. The desperation that leads people to publicly appeal for money to help them have a baby is heartbreaking.
We had IVF, we were fortunate, we had the funds for one round and it worked first time (we didn't qualify for NHS). I know of others who have had 4,5, 6 rounds, long exhausting the number of rounds you get on the NHS, and still have no baby. They are desperate, they are exhausted, they are devastated. So no, I wont judge them for trying any means necessary to get their much longed for baby.
Why should IVF be a private matter, it's not a taboo subject? Yes having a baby for most is a personal choice. However, for some of us, it isn't actually a choice in the same way as it is for others, it comes with putting your heart and your finances on the line over and over again. People shouldn't be shamed into not sharing their story or appealing for help with their struggles for fear of making the fortunate majority uncomfortable. No one is forcing anyone to donate to crowdfunding or gofundme pages, if you don't want to donate, then don't, but I cannot understand how on earth there is ANYTHING wrong with people trying? There are no blurred lines here, wanting a child, something which most people can have without much effort, is in NO WAY the same as wanting an extravagant holiday or a wedding.
Pick on the people who decide to risk not getting travel insurance and then crowdfund to pay their extortionate medical bill, not the people who are desperate for a baby. Jesus Christ.