Party bag gate part 2 - enter DH stage left

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Original thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5252894-child-didnt-get-a-party-bag?page=40&reply=141398805

To all the baked potato loving legends out there who followed my original thread, I couldn’t resist sharing what I think is a rather funny update.

So I’ve been away for a work conference today and didn’t check my phone til 2pm. Amanda had called me again! And messaged to say “Jandami can you call me please when you get the chance so I can find out what to ask this magician?”

I assume she means she wants to find out if I’ll pay for a party bag. So I messaged DH (who is fully invested in the drama) laughing about it. I didn’t reply to her as had to go back in the conference (and still haven’t replied only just got home).

Anyway at pick up, DH was standing in the playground waiting for DS and Amanda sidled up to him and said “Excuse me Neil? Is your wife’s phone broken?” (emphasis on the ‘is’ apparently). He just looked at her, said “No” and walked off to wait at the other side of the playground 😂 the best bit is - his name is not Neil!

I can only assume she’s either micro dosing with hallucinogenics or is genuinely mad. Nobody normal behaves this way.

PS jacket potato with pancetta, cheese, soured cream and chives tonight 🤤

I used to work with someone who lived in a high rise flat and had several cats who used the toilet. She claimed it was easy to train them but I can't imagine how you train them.

I need to do this 😱😱😱. Shall add researching toilet training the cat to my ever expanding to do list 😆

It definitely helps but does not eliminate the problem. If you are highly allergic it probably wouldn't work but one of my 2 cats is super triggering ie has loads of this protein and will trigger even mildly allergic people so that stops with this food. But if you were super sensitive then I suspect it would not be enough.

Chocolate. I was in hospital for a heart thing recently. One of my tests was a little lower than ideal. Doc recommended eating chocolate …so it does have l
health benefits 😎I want that doc again

No idea where this has come from, but reported.

When you have mastered the art of kitty toilet training, please let me know. My boy doesn't like going outside when it's cold and I've yet to find a non-stink litter tray.

That’s true and they clatter about and the horns grow and catch on stuff as they run past..plus there are endless raisins on the floor, puddles everywhere and the smell of lanolin is pervasive. Even as lambs, they stop being cute after a month, when the bottle is gone and they eat every expensive plant in the garden .

Indeed. I don’t see why some seem to think that OP needs to ‘smooth things over’ and come to a resolution favorable to Amanda. Let her be stamp her foot 🤷🏻‍♀️

Those in my own social circle would have been more direct than OP too. Funnily enough, not ‘being kind’ according to mumsnet isn’t actually not the social death someone earlier warned of. IME not simpering to people like Amanda only makes you unpopular with people like Amanda, which is an entirely desirable outcome.

I'm sure. I well see why you don't like attention drawn to this behaviour, and that response was predictable.

Expressing a counter view = trolling. Because it is unfathomable that people can have different opinions.

Again, no idea why you are attacking my person, but that’s not what mumsnet is for.

I wonder how these people who can’t cope with alternative POV function in real life.

A sideways thread? Sideways because I proffer a different opinion? Chucking out the ‘bully’ word is the kind of thing bullies do…especially those who feel cushioned by the consensus of the majority. I know nothing about what other posters have said on other threads. Or what has been said in the entirety of this one. I expressed an opinion based on the OPs post, then was warned there would be a price to pay for going against the norm. I actually thought it was all rather light hearted…the OP herself sounds pretty funny! Calling someone out for what I believe is ‘buttoned up’ behaviour (the protocol of kids’ parties) is hardly bullying..the point of Mum’s Net is surely lively debate? I had no clue about her DS’s health or background other than what she told us in the original post, her initial question, which I responded to. ShouId I have waded through 34 pages to get insider info/check what everyone else believes, before doing what everyone else did ie…voice my opinion, as the OP invited us to do? Your po-faced ‘holier than thou’ attitude is misplaced. This is about party bags and pizza! I think the isolated child is to be pitied. I responded to the OP having said that the mother had called her asking for information regarding how she can source a bag for her son, (which seems reasonable to me)… though apparently this meant she expected the OP to pay for it herself ?? According to what evidence? Oh let me guess. The backstory. I appreciate I came in late to the party (! 😁) but I responded to what her post said, not what everyone else has decided by majority vote is acceptable to say, in light of how ever many detailed perspectives of their own. Rather than casually throwing out the ‘B’ word, why not try for some perspective and appreciate that not everybody agrees with YOU? If they did…what would be the point of posters asking for individual opinions? Even…learn to loosen up and have a laugh. Choose your battles. And stop being a bully please.

right. I’m guessing that poster didn’t like my opinions on a previous thread either and is still apparently in a rage about it. but I have no idea what the context is.

At least attention has now been drawn away from bullying the OP.

And the responses illustrate my point far more perfectly than I could ever do.

Plausible deniability. It's transparent.

Oh give over

OP gives as good as she gets anyway.
So are we getting a part 3 then?

I don't think they do. I've never had someone square up to me in real life when I've given a different opinion (which is a shame because a robust debate - or even just a civil conversation - can be interesting). Maybe they save up their anger for the internet.

The OP has enough on her plate with her son's illness, without dancing to the tune of a very entitled woman. Even so she ordered the vegan pizza and gave the CF the magician's contact details so she could order the party bag herself.

Said precisely no one on this thread.

What a juvenile response.

I don't think the OP feels a bit bullied lol. You really think someone who doesn't cow to real-life pressure is going to be upset about strangers on the internet disagreeing with her?

You and Holly have chased down this thread. You moaned about people speaking to OP about snacks, but then started talking about snacks too! See, we can all get along!

@SerafinasGoose is bang on the money.