Party bag gate part 2 - enter DH stage left

[JandamiHash]

Original thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5252894-child-didnt-get-a-party-bag?page=40&reply=141398805

To all the baked potato loving legends out there who followed my original thread, I couldn’t resist sharing what I think is a rather funny update.

So I’ve been away for a work conference today and didn’t check my phone til 2pm. Amanda had called me again! And messaged to say “Jandami can you call me please when you get the chance so I can find out what to ask this magician?”

I assume she means she wants to find out if I’ll pay for a party bag. So I messaged DH (who is fully invested in the drama) laughing about it. I didn’t reply to her as had to go back in the conference (and still haven’t replied only just got home).

Anyway at pick up, DH was standing in the playground waiting for DS and Amanda sidled up to him and said “Excuse me Neil? Is your wife’s phone broken?” (emphasis on the ‘is’ apparently). He just looked at her, said “No” and walked off to wait at the other side of the playground 😂 the best bit is - his name is not Neil!

I can only assume she’s either micro dosing with hallucinogenics or is genuinely mad. Nobody normal behaves this way.

PS jacket potato with pancetta, cheese, soured cream and chives tonight 🤤

Ok the world has now officially gone crazy 🤣 Cool though! (Maybe?)?

What about those hairless cats? I thought they looked weird, but I keep seeing random vids on SM and they’re starting to look cuter (esp the kittens)

Oh god no. I think they’ve been sent to Earth from Satan himself (sorry hairless cats but I just couldn’t)

Also I’ve heard it’s not actually the hair that most people are allergic to, it’s the saliva

I’ve heard that of dogs! But it makes sense as cat and dog hair will be full of saliva

NotNeil once got stratched by a cat, it just wandered by a took a swipe at his leg in the street then ran off, he blew up like a balloon his mum had to call 999

Posts like this just illustrate people haven't read all OP's posts.

Amanda and her H's actions and words and deeds (including about her son's party) illustrate there is no way she would ever apologise for anything. If she was going to apologise she'd have done so when she turned up without an RSVP but instead she was entitle, rude, arrogant and gave OP's DS an insultingly cheap gift (possibly second hand).

OP is just having a laugh on here because this is enjoyable to her.

😂

She's come up against someone who doesn't allow herself to get pushed around.

How do you determine that? I doubt Amanda has even noticed the passive aggression, as it’s been more passive than aggression (except on MN). How does avoiding a person’s calls, and all else, place OP into the Alpha mum domain? Amanda has made no request that went unanswered. The only thing unanswered was the phone. Does that take a strong will?

My DH is insanely allergic to cats. He told me it's some protein in their skin (and also saliva). There must be something to this, as my parents had cats and he couldn't go into their house for some time after the cats had died, despite carpet cleaning, I presume as there was some cat protein in the dust.

I totally agree with your stance OP and thank you for providing some amusing reading, despite the worry that your wee boy’s sickness must cause you. 😸💐

Top tip, OP isn't trying to be an Alpha Mum.

You can never toilet train a sheep either. Shame as a house lamb would be cute.

Yes but Amanda doesn't sound fun so what's the point

This thread is amazing @JandamiHash and I'm going to channel you in all future situations.

Easy solution for the non-RSVP mum... her error, her upset child and her issue to resolve.

You also inspired a jacket potato dinner this week

You think if YOU don't post, that the thread will die??

😂😂😂

Main character syndrome alert

Apparently so.

But Alpha level would be working up the nerve to ask for her £10 back.

1 Not replying to an invitation RSVP = rude
2 Turning up to a party when you haven’t confirmed you will attend = rude
3 Expecting the host to provide food for a dietary choice with no notice = rude
4 Expecting a party bag to be provided when you turn up unexpectedly = rude
5 Complaining when your child doesn’t get said part bag = rude

Anyone who thinks it’s not rude or cheeky to do any of the above just baffle me.

Some of these posts demonstrate the social consequences of not womaning properly. My mil would be in tears wringing her hands over this.

A house lamb would only be cute for a few weeks and then it would grow into a giant sheep taking up the whole sofa.

That's true. And it might try and get me to form a flock with it and I've got enough to do.

You people participating in this 'entertaining' little sideways thread are sounding very like bullies yourselves. If you realised it, your own behaviour is uglier than failing to provide an unexpected attendee with a party bag.

And some of you have form. These user names are familiar because you've done this numerous times on other threads, usually with the objective of putting other women in their place (silence, conformity, nurturing, non-confrontational) with your predictable, mealy-mouthed 'be kind' schtick.

It's all about plausible deniability with people like this. Maintaining a picture of wide-eyed innocence whilst putting the boot into someone else is cowardice, did you realise? If this is your idea of kindness, then you have a strange, arse-about-face notion of what this actually means.

It's completely transparent and more than a little pathetic.

I'll chime in on that!

-5 is generally pleasant, bitter cold but dry and sunny. The ground becomes solid so clean, its probably good for sleging too. You can wrap up against cold.

Around 0 is very often damp, high humidity, dull, dreich and miserable. Nobody likes it!
The ground becomes muddy any snow is slushy and not fun.
Even people's dogs look miserable on a dreich day.

Scotland has a maritime climate and very changeable weather patterns. Theres a reason the weather is a topic of mundane conversion. We also get driving rain, which again makes people miserable, not like nice fluffy snow.

Nobody in their right mind would plan a outdoor party in Scotland, even in summer without a Plan B, (gazebos or ability to move indoors)

It's transparent, and it needs daylight shining on it because drips with the kind of deep-rooted misogyny that's been infesting this site for years.

It's a repetitive (and really boring) theme. Some of it is coming from MRAs, some from handmaidens (no apologies for that term) who have internalised their BS.

It helps other women to know that some of us have seen it and know it for precisely what it is.

Completely agree.
They are a passive group.

In my very MC circle you have been fileted for such rudeness.
Not a chance it would be tolerated.

The OP has handled things with great patience and likewise her husband not entertaining this awful woman.

I wouldn't give a single thought to not invited her child to anything every again.

handmaidens 😆 you called it @HollyKnight

What about Amanda? Did she fail to “woman” properly?

Added to the fact that lambs stay heart-meltingly cute for a matter of only a few weeks, after which they become really really ugly buggers.

I don't mind a cute lamb snuggled up on the sofa, but once the ugly bugger phase arrives, that's it, get yer sorry arse out of my living room 🤭