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JandamiHash · 2025-01-16T17:51:17+00:00

Original thread [[https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5252894-child-didnt-get-a-party-bag?page=40&reply=141398805 https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5252894-child-didnt-get-a-party-bag?page=40&reply=141398805]] To all the baked potato loving legends out there who followed my original thread, I couldn’t resist sharing what I think is a rather funny update. So I’ve been away for a work conference today and didn’t check my phone til 2pm. Amanda had called me again! And messaged to say “Jandami can you call me please when you get the chance so I can find out what to ask this magician?” I assume she means she wants to find out if I’ll pay for a party bag. So I messaged DH (who is fully invested in the drama) laughing about it. I didn’t reply to her as had to go back in the conference (and still haven’t replied only just got home). Anyway at pick up, DH was standing in the playground waiting for DS and Amanda sidled up to him and said “Excuse me Neil? Is your wife’s phone broken?” (emphasis on the ‘is’ apparently). He just looked at her, said “No” and walked off to wait at the other side of the playground 😂 the best bit is - his name is not Neil! I can only assume she’s either micro dosing with hallucinogenics or is genuinely mad. Nobody normal behaves this way. PS jacket potato with pancetta, cheese, soured cream and chives tonight 🤤

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 07:11

Tandora · 18/01/2025 07:04

Yup this 😆

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🤣😳😁

kimchisauchio · 18/01/2025 07:11

HollyKnight · 18/01/2025 07:10

I'll prewarn you. You're about to have a dozen people pile on you to tell you that you are a handmaiden, antifeminist, a wet wipe, a cheeky fucker, the reason why cheeky fuckers exit, an enabler, "making life harder for the rest of us", the cause of all that is wrong in the world, etc. Oh and jealous. Then 4 hours later the OP will respond with something "witty" and people will tell her she should write a book or a script for a TV show. Then something about baked potatoes.

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But @TheMerryCritic i suggest you laugh it off

imagine what they’re like in RL and that should do the trick!

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 07:21

HollyKnight · 18/01/2025 07:10

I'll prewarn you. You're about to have a dozen people pile on you to tell you that you are a handmaiden, antifeminist, a wet wipe, a cheeky fucker, the reason why cheeky fuckers exit, an enabler, "making life harder for the rest of us", the cause of all that is wrong in the world, etc. Oh and jealous. Then 4 hours later the OP will respond with something "witty" and people will tell her she should write a book or a script for a TV show. Then something about baked potatoes.

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🤣🤣🤣 This has all been SO worth it just for this response! And for the life of me I have no clue why she was banging on about baked potatoes 🥔 . Was the meat part (pancetta cubes was it, I can’t recall?) meant to be the punchline? Ooh look I’m normal me, I eat meat and also… (whisper it) full fat butter from cows 🐮!! 😳…though, I’m you know, special and a rebel too obviously, though I do INSIST ON RSVP PROTOCOL this is a CHILD’S PARTY I’m talking ’bout here!! Important stuff!

Tandora · 18/01/2025 07:21

HollyKnight · 18/01/2025 07:10

I'll prewarn you. You're about to have a dozen people pile on you to tell you that you are a handmaiden, antifeminist, a wet wipe, a cheeky fucker, the reason why cheeky fuckers exit, an enabler, "making life harder for the rest of us", the cause of all that is wrong in the world, etc. Oh and jealous. Then 4 hours later the OP will respond with something "witty" and people will tell her she should write a book or a script for a TV show. Then something about baked potatoes.

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You forgot about how cruel you are being to James for trying to deny him life lessons in disappointment and resilience!

YourSnugHazelTraybake · 18/01/2025 07:23

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 06:55

Frankly I would never rely on RSVP, if I/my child wanted guests at their party I’d check with the ones who hadn’t yet confirmed. Surely that’s obvious? In particular if you’re ordering customised anything (in this case party bags, which everyone knows kids love), make sure you know who’s attending. From your attitude (she didn’t RSVP…shock horror!), I’m guessing she’s the only one who didn’t reply? Or did other, more favoured mothers receive a reminder? If she WAS the only one who didn’t, then at point of ordering pizza and bespoke party bags…you ask her if her son is coming or not? It’s one phone call or just ask the woman herself at the school gates. The kid was being punished for his mother’s oversight. I suspect the OP (and her DS) were not too bothered about whether her son came or not, in which case…don’t be a hypocrite and lay all the blame onto her. And this general assumption that vegan = crank is so outmoded. She was wrong not to offer to pay for a specialised pizza, but tbh I thought pointing out they took it home with them is petty and ridiculous. Did you want to eat the ‘weird’ vegan leftovers yourself OP? Did erm…Neil? (😊). And presumably as you paid for all the others and you invited her son to partake, she assumed you wouldn’t resent getting him a pizza too? Oh and has it occurred to you she may have been calling to get the magicians details in order to source (and pay for) the precious party bag herself? (hopefully complete with the kid’s initials 🙄). Her child has been left out. You said he struggles to make friends. Why not help his mother get him the thing all his friends got at the birthday party, apart from him? People find this so hilarious (and admittedly there have been some funny responses …like the spy, the pizza crust and the parrot 😁) …but I think you’re being petty and and so is your DH. Someone needs to give that poor child a break (or a decent party bag). Leftover cold veggie pizza in a sodden box, …big surprise…is in no way a good substitute for the customised magic party bags all the other kids got. Have some compassion OP instead of laughing at their expense and enable the woman to source one herself …let’s face it, you begrudge the ‘bespoke’ pizza the kid got, but not the bespoke party bags (or regular pizza) the others all got. Clearly you just don’t like the woman, and your DH sounds just as mean as you. She approached him in the playground, where he left her standing after brushing her off? Very appropriate setting for his behaviour.

Oh dear, I can understand not reading the whole thread (or the first), but you probably should at least have read ops posts. There were four who didn't respond, the other three didn't get party bags either, nor did they turn up to the party. Had op known the child would be there, then she could have catered rather than having to take time out of her son's party to order specially for that child. Op provided the magicians contact details and information on the party bags as soon as Amanda messaged her about it. As far as husbands behaviour being inappropriate, Amanda had tried to phone whilst op was at work, so couldn't answer the call even if she'd wanted to. What exactly was inappropriate about husband answering 'No' when asked if ops phone was broken?.

Spirallingdownwards · 18/01/2025 07:23

The reality is Amanda fucked up. As soon as OP said she wasn't expecting James and therefore there wasn't a personalised party bag for him Amanda should have graciously said that's OK I will explain to James. Eaten the extra pizza that OP hurriedly ordered to ensure there was suitable food for him. Enjoyed the party and gone home. If Amanda/James would like a bag then they now have the details to order one.

And that should have been it.
The number of people on here saying OP should be rushing around to sort a bag now or should have had spare bags for extras (unexpected guests who hadn't RSVPd or gatecrashing siblings) simply indicates the number of rude CFers there are nowadays.

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 07:24

Tandora · 18/01/2025 07:21

You forgot about how cruel you are being to James for trying to deny him life lessons in disappointment and resilience!

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This just gets better…🤣😁 (Oh and I’m trembling in my boots mindful this is just the calm before the storm) …🤔🤯

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 07:26

YourSnugHazelTraybake · 18/01/2025 07:23

Oh dear, I can understand not reading the whole thread (or the first), but you probably should at least have read ops posts. There were four who didn't respond, the other three didn't get party bags either, nor did they turn up to the party. Had op known the child would be there, then she could have catered rather than having to take time out of her son's party to order specially for that child. Op provided the magicians contact details and information on the party bags as soon as Amanda messaged her about it. As far as husbands behaviour being inappropriate, Amanda had tried to phone whilst op was at work, so couldn't answer the call even if she'd wanted to. What exactly was inappropriate about husband answering 'No' when asked if ops phone was broken?.

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Oh dear

thepariscrimefiles · 18/01/2025 07:34

tinselstead · 17/01/2025 21:52

don't get me wrong, Amanda is in the wrong. I sense that her crazy behaviour stems from her thinking that somehow her DS has been wronged. I'm sure she is very annoying and hopefully OP can have no or minimal contact with her in future. My opinion is still though, that being the bigger person does not put you at a disadvantage, but the reverse - heaping coals of fire and all that.

Heaping coals of fire , i.e. showing kindness and forgiveness to someone who has wronged you is supposed to make them feel ashamed and see the error of their ways. Giving Amanda what she wants, no matter how unreasonable, is only going to reward her entitled behaviour and she will have absolutely no incentive to change her ways.

HollyKnight · 18/01/2025 07:44

Tandora · 18/01/2025 07:21

You forgot about how cruel you are being to James for trying to deny him life lessons in disappointment and resilience!

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Oh yes, you shouldn't be kind to children because it deprives them of life lessons. This actually makes you the unkind one. It's better to be cruel to children so they will become resilient adults who will - most important of everything - RSVP on time.

Applecrumble32 · 18/01/2025 08:00

@JandamiHash thank you for these brilliant posts. They’ve kept me entertained and I’m now fully invested in the Amanda- party bag saga.

MN never ceases to amaze me and the, quite frankly, bizarre suggestions that you should have bought him a party bag, brought contingency party bags, should have held the party in a puddle and catered for every dietary requirement are a load of crap! Is anyone asking why Not- Neil didn’t do those things. Thanks MN for adding even more tasks to the mother’s load!

To be honest, buying him his own pizza is further than I would have gone to accommodate this woman!

The idea that this child is traumatised by not having a party bag and this should be rectified with a party bag by anyone, never mind the OP, is why we hear of the current generation looking for work taking their parents to their job interviews! Life has challenges, build resilient kids!

Coincidently, my child has recently received a party invite from, and I don’t use this term lightly, a horrible child who has bullied most of the children in the class and made my child’s primary experience terrible. The mother is an off-scale-Amanda who has managed to make herself the head of the PFA. She’s a dreadful woman! Unfortunately, it’s a roller skating party and my child is desperate to go.

The invite was followed by a text stating presents were not welcome, only cash! That child will be getting a £5 book voucher!

thepariscrimefiles · 18/01/2025 08:05

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 06:55

Frankly I would never rely on RSVP, if I/my child wanted guests at their party I’d check with the ones who hadn’t yet confirmed. Surely that’s obvious? In particular if you’re ordering customised anything (in this case party bags, which everyone knows kids love), make sure you know who’s attending. From your attitude (she didn’t RSVP…shock horror!), I’m guessing she’s the only one who didn’t reply? Or did other, more favoured mothers receive a reminder? If she WAS the only one who didn’t, then at point of ordering pizza and bespoke party bags…you ask her if her son is coming or not? It’s one phone call or just ask the woman herself at the school gates. The kid was being punished for his mother’s oversight. I suspect the OP (and her DS) were not too bothered about whether her son came or not, in which case…don’t be a hypocrite and lay all the blame onto her. And this general assumption that vegan = crank is so outmoded. She was wrong not to offer to pay for a specialised pizza, but tbh I thought pointing out they took it home with them is petty and ridiculous. Did you want to eat the ‘weird’ vegan leftovers yourself OP? Did erm…Neil? (😊). And presumably as you paid for all the others and you invited her son to partake, she assumed you wouldn’t resent getting him a pizza too? Oh and has it occurred to you she may have been calling to get the magicians details in order to source (and pay for) the precious party bag herself? (hopefully complete with the kid’s initials 🙄). Her child has been left out. You said he struggles to make friends. Why not help his mother get him the thing all his friends got at the birthday party, apart from him? People find this so hilarious (and admittedly there have been some funny responses …like the spy, the pizza crust and the parrot 😁) …but I think you’re being petty and and so is your DH. Someone needs to give that poor child a break (or a decent party bag). Leftover cold veggie pizza in a sodden box, …big surprise…is in no way a good substitute for the customised magic party bags all the other kids got. Have some compassion OP instead of laughing at their expense and enable the woman to source one herself …let’s face it, you begrudge the ‘bespoke’ pizza the kid got, but not the bespoke party bags (or regular pizza) the others all got. Clearly you just don’t like the woman, and your DH sounds just as mean as you. She approached him in the playground, where he left her standing after brushing her off? Very appropriate setting for his behaviour.

OP has given Amanda the details of the magician so that she can order a personalised party bag for James. It is her choice not to do this, but to continue to harass OP and her DH. If it was just about getting a party bag for James, she would have just asked OP for the magician's details in the first place. They are a wealthy family and could easily afford it, particularly after only spending £2 on OP's son's birthday gift.

In terms of OP leaving a child out, OP's son (who has a life-long illness causing chronic pain and requiring frequent hospital admissions) wasn't invited to James's party and James's dad told OP that her son wasn't invited as there were limited numbers. That is actually leaving a child out.

If leftover cold veggie (it was actually vegan) pizza in a sodden box is so awful, why didn't Amanda just leave it there?

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JandamiHash · 18/01/2025 08:07

Mumtobabyhavoc · 18/01/2025 02:05

I respect your position. I disagree with the shit parent label, though.

I had a friend, an acquaintance at the time, drove a high-end SUV, lived in a house she and husband built in an expensive area, husband ivy-league educated, pulled in 7 figures a year, ... you get the picture. Friend was gorgeous, smart, own business. Any get together, or when we met weekly for our hobby group, she was usually late. Annoying. But, figured high-end life must be busy. Also, forgetful of plans, etc. I got to know her better and learned: she suffered from significant anxiety which made it difficult for her to commit, respond and show up. Also learned her husband has bi-polar and at least one weekend a month was spent with him in hospital or calling crisis intervention. She was working to keep up appearances though and deal with spouse alone. She also suffered from chronic pain and was iver medicated which was why she was so thin, not exercise, diet, good genes.
So, my point is that you never know what's going in with someone else's house.
I think OP did the right thing when the woman showed up with her kid. I also think there's been far too much glee taken about how to "punish" the other mum. It's a scarlet letter mentality, really.
This thread reeks of mean girl behaviour to the nth degree.

It's a scarlet letter mentality, really.

Yes I’m sure Nathaniel Hawthorne would be writing a sequel right now based on this thread 🙄

I understand your point about “you don’t know what goes on in people’s lives”. However, I have a bit of a problem with this mentality in general. In that it goes both ways and it doesn’t mean bad behaviour doesn’t impact others. I’m not sure if they’re aware of DS’s condition as we don’t exactly advertise it, we’ve told parents of friends he’s close to when they’ve been concerned he’s not been in school etc. But I guarantee they don’t have an iota of understanding of the scale of our lives (and everything else we deal with that I haven’t posted on here). so if I pulled the “we’re dealing with a lot in the background” card and said that the nagging me about a party bag could have been putting a lot of stress on me (which if we were in the middle of one of DS’s Bad Weeks, most certainly would) then who wins? Wouldn’t it be easier if everyone just had good manners?

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Matronic6 · 18/01/2025 08:08

I don't understand why so many people think it's OP's responsibility to consider the poor left out child when it is pretty simple for the other mother to sort it. OP has given her the details she needs, she hasn't gate kept them.

The other mother is clearly more than capable of standing up for herself. She essentially demanded OP buy her vegan pizza then took it home!!! She also has no problem blaming OP for the lack of a party bag. The only reason there was no party bag was because she didn't reply to confirm she was going.

The child is 8 years old. Unless they have a special needs they are more than capable of understanding why they don't have a party bag. It was not because they were being left, their mum made a mistake.

The other mum has made it a big deal. If I turned up to a party and it turned out I had genuinely forgotten I would be so mortified and apologetic. I would not have insisted on pizza and I absolutely would not have given the host a hard time for not having a party bag. I can't imagine the level of entitlement that someone must have to do that.

Fair play to OP for standing up to her.

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JandamiHash · 18/01/2025 08:10

kimchisauchio · 18/01/2025 06:44

In real life though, I imagine that it’s the OP that is sidelined and scorned and mumsnet is an outlet

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Sorry to tell you but no. I have lots of friends, and some very good friends of mums at the school who I’ve met through my kids and have a good life bar having a sick child.

I am also disliked I’m sure by some people/mums but c’est la vie, you can’t win them all!

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JandamiHash · 18/01/2025 08:12

Tandora · 18/01/2025 02:15

Omg this almost made this thread worth it!!

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It’s a top ti0! No more spending an hour waiting for it to cook in the oven only to find a slightly hardened centre.

I’ll be buying Borsin today to try. I’ll be turning into a baked potato before long, as I tell my kids!

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PeppyGreenFinch · 18/01/2025 08:13

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 06:55

Frankly I would never rely on RSVP, if I/my child wanted guests at their party I’d check with the ones who hadn’t yet confirmed. Surely that’s obvious? In particular if you’re ordering customised anything (in this case party bags, which everyone knows kids love), make sure you know who’s attending. From your attitude (she didn’t RSVP…shock horror!), I’m guessing she’s the only one who didn’t reply? Or did other, more favoured mothers receive a reminder? If she WAS the only one who didn’t, then at point of ordering pizza and bespoke party bags…you ask her if her son is coming or not? It’s one phone call or just ask the woman herself at the school gates. The kid was being punished for his mother’s oversight. I suspect the OP (and her DS) were not too bothered about whether her son came or not, in which case…don’t be a hypocrite and lay all the blame onto her. And this general assumption that vegan = crank is so outmoded. She was wrong not to offer to pay for a specialised pizza, but tbh I thought pointing out they took it home with them is petty and ridiculous. Did you want to eat the ‘weird’ vegan leftovers yourself OP? Did erm…Neil? (😊). And presumably as you paid for all the others and you invited her son to partake, she assumed you wouldn’t resent getting him a pizza too? Oh and has it occurred to you she may have been calling to get the magicians details in order to source (and pay for) the precious party bag herself? (hopefully complete with the kid’s initials 🙄). Her child has been left out. You said he struggles to make friends. Why not help his mother get him the thing all his friends got at the birthday party, apart from him? People find this so hilarious (and admittedly there have been some funny responses …like the spy, the pizza crust and the parrot 😁) …but I think you’re being petty and and so is your DH. Someone needs to give that poor child a break (or a decent party bag). Leftover cold veggie pizza in a sodden box, …big surprise…is in no way a good substitute for the customised magic party bags all the other kids got. Have some compassion OP instead of laughing at their expense and enable the woman to source one herself …let’s face it, you begrudge the ‘bespoke’ pizza the kid got, but not the bespoke party bags (or regular pizza) the others all got. Clearly you just don’t like the woman, and your DH sounds just as mean as you. She approached him in the playground, where he left her standing after brushing her off? Very appropriate setting for his behaviour.

Oh and has it occurred to you she may have been calling to get the magicians details in order to source (and pay for) the precious party bag herself?

That’s the whole point. This woman has the magician’s details because OP texted them to her. She can sort this herself.

And OP says her husband would have eaten the pizza.

Tandora · 18/01/2025 08:14

HollyKnight · 18/01/2025 07:44

Oh yes, you shouldn't be kind to children because it deprives them of life lessons. This actually makes you the unkind one. It's better to be cruel to children so they will become resilient adults who will - most important of everything - RSVP on time.

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Here we are again!

The idea that this child..should be [given] a party bag…is why we hear of the current generation looking for work taking their parents to their job interviews! Life has challenges, build resilient kids!

Destroying the next generation of the workforce! One bleeding-heart party bag at a time!

🤭

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 08:15

thepariscrimefiles · 18/01/2025 08:05

OP has given Amanda the details of the magician so that she can order a personalised party bag for James. It is her choice not to do this, but to continue to harass OP and her DH. If it was just about getting a party bag for James, she would have just asked OP for the magician's details in the first place. They are a wealthy family and could easily afford it, particularly after only spending £2 on OP's son's birthday gift.

In terms of OP leaving a child out, OP's son (who has a life-long illness causing chronic pain and requiring frequent hospital admissions) wasn't invited to James's party and James's dad told OP that her son wasn't invited as there were limited numbers. That is actually leaving a child out.

If leftover cold veggie (it was actually vegan) pizza in a sodden box is so awful, why didn't Amanda just leave it there?

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‘It was actually vegan’ 🤣🤣

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 08:17

Tandora · 18/01/2025 08:14

Here we are again!

The idea that this child..should be [given] a party bag…is why we hear of the current generation looking for work taking their parents to their job interviews! Life has challenges, build resilient kids!

Destroying the next generation of the workforce! One bleeding-heart party bag at a time!

🤭

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Anarchy!!! 😳😮

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 08:20

PeppyGreenFinch · 18/01/2025 08:13

Oh and has it occurred to you she may have been calling to get the magicians details in order to source (and pay for) the precious party bag herself?

That’s the whole point. This woman has the magician’s details because OP texted them to her. She can sort this herself.

And OP says her husband would have eaten the pizza.

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Whose husband? OPs? Was he desperate for a vegan treat? Shame he had to make do with all the regular, ‘strictly accounted for’ pizza. Oh hang on…there wasn’t any to spare!

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JandamiHash · 18/01/2025 08:21

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 06:55

Frankly I would never rely on RSVP, if I/my child wanted guests at their party I’d check with the ones who hadn’t yet confirmed. Surely that’s obvious? In particular if you’re ordering customised anything (in this case party bags, which everyone knows kids love), make sure you know who’s attending. From your attitude (she didn’t RSVP…shock horror!), I’m guessing she’s the only one who didn’t reply? Or did other, more favoured mothers receive a reminder? If she WAS the only one who didn’t, then at point of ordering pizza and bespoke party bags…you ask her if her son is coming or not? It’s one phone call or just ask the woman herself at the school gates. The kid was being punished for his mother’s oversight. I suspect the OP (and her DS) were not too bothered about whether her son came or not, in which case…don’t be a hypocrite and lay all the blame onto her. And this general assumption that vegan = crank is so outmoded. She was wrong not to offer to pay for a specialised pizza, but tbh I thought pointing out they took it home with them is petty and ridiculous. Did you want to eat the ‘weird’ vegan leftovers yourself OP? Did erm…Neil? (😊). And presumably as you paid for all the others and you invited her son to partake, she assumed you wouldn’t resent getting him a pizza too? Oh and has it occurred to you she may have been calling to get the magicians details in order to source (and pay for) the precious party bag herself? (hopefully complete with the kid’s initials 🙄). Her child has been left out. You said he struggles to make friends. Why not help his mother get him the thing all his friends got at the birthday party, apart from him? People find this so hilarious (and admittedly there have been some funny responses …like the spy, the pizza crust and the parrot 😁) …but I think you’re being petty and and so is your DH. Someone needs to give that poor child a break (or a decent party bag). Leftover cold veggie pizza in a sodden box, …big surprise…is in no way a good substitute for the customised magic party bags all the other kids got. Have some compassion OP instead of laughing at their expense and enable the woman to source one herself …let’s face it, you begrudge the ‘bespoke’ pizza the kid got, but not the bespoke party bags (or regular pizza) the others all got. Clearly you just don’t like the woman, and your DH sounds just as mean as you. She approached him in the playground, where he left her standing after brushing her off? Very appropriate setting for his behaviour.

Frankly I would never rely on RSVP, if I/my child wanted guests at their party I’d check with the ones who hadn’t yet confirmed. Surely that’s obvious?

Well not really because I’d got enough responses that I was happy with the numbers and the amount of kids there. Maybe if I’d had no RSVPS I’d chase up. If someone isn’t even bothering to send a “I can’t come” text I assume they will not be there.

In particular if you’re ordering customised anything (in this case party bags, which everyone knows kids love), make sure you know who’s attending

I did.

I’m guessing she’s the only one who didn’t reply? Or did other, more favoured mothers receive a reminder?

Shes the only one who didn’t reply. Even the ones who couldn’t make it dropped a text to say so. And nobody got chased.

From your attitude (she didn’t RSVP…shock horror!)

Im guessing you’re someone who thinks an RSVP is an added nicety rather than a requirement? Do you not RSVP then turn up?

don’t be a hypocrite and lay all the blame onto her

It is all her fairly. She’s not a baby, she knows how to RSVP

Oh and has it occurred to you she may have been calling to get the magicians details in order to source (and pay for) the precious party bag herself?

No because I sent her his details already.

Leftover cold veggie pizza in a sodden box, …big surprise…is in no way a good substitute for the customised magic party bags all the other kids got.

Well perhaps his mother should have thought about that.

Have some compassion OP instead of laughing at their expense and enable the woman to source one herself

She can source one herself.

She approached him in the playground, where he left her standing after brushing her off?

Yes and I’m very proud of him for doing so. Snarky passive aggressive comments deserve, at most, a brush off

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PeppyGreenFinch · 18/01/2025 08:22

TheMerryCritic · 18/01/2025 08:20

Whose husband? OPs? Was he desperate for a vegan treat? Shame he had to make do with all the regular, ‘strictly accounted for’ pizza. Oh hang on…there wasn’t any to spare!

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Do you now see that the mum has the magician’s details and can sort out a party for her son?

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JandamiHash · 18/01/2025 08:22

Isn’t it odd that all the posters who think IABU were here at 7am on a Saturday morning telling a new poster to “brace herself” 🧐

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jwoo23 · 18/01/2025 08:24

This has been such a fab thread! All power to you OP for standing up for yourself! 🙌👏