DS has quit his job to go travelling with a girl he just met

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I'm thinking I'm going to be told it is none of my business and to just be happy for him, but I am concerned so need some others views.

DS is 24, he has always been quite shy and kept himself to himself, more so since we moved to Australia when he was 11 as he was a confident child and lost it in his teens. He went to uni, he now has a good job and seems settled. In November he met a girl, she's 22, on her gap year. He had a relationship in his teens but nothing since. It has been like this girl has brought out a whole new side to him, he seems much more confident and relaxed.

Today he told us he has quit his job and they are going to finish her gap year together, mainly with those companies that organise gap year group tours, he seems excited. He is leaving next weekend, February, March & April SE Asia. May & June South America, July Central America then they will see what they feel like after.

TBH I am really apprehensive, this is very out of character and he doesn't really know this girl very well. DH thinks he has made a mistake quitting his job.

AIBU to be worried? Or as he is an adult is it on me to just leave him to it?

@Clarabell77

I think this advice is more about randoms you’ve met on holiday, not long term partners ffs.
Hardly long term. They met in November. That's at the most 8 -10 weeks

Recruiters generally firm a quick relationship with mules. They gain their trust. Not saying that is what has happened here but you are naive if you think it's not possible. I've lived in SE Asia. It happens way more than we hear in the news.

Do not carry anything for anyone you don't know well and even then check it out thoroughly. A few weeks is not a long term relationship ffs

Sometimes you've just got to go for it and he is. Be there for him but let him follow his dream, we can only learn from our own mistakes if it goes wrong. Xx

She asks him to carry some stuff as 'it doesn't fit' in her suitcase.

@changecandles Except she hasn't though, unless I've missed something? HE has JOKED that he's going along to carry her luggage.

I don’t even think the girl has asked him to carry anything, it was a throwaway comment he made. It’s a long term relationship rather than a one night stand, holiday romance, that sort of thing, indicated by the fact that they’re going travelling together.

The drama on here! 🤣🤣

I'm not specifically responding to the OP. I'm responding to people saying it's crazy to worry about this sort of thing. It's not.

Are you sure?

At that age? Go for it! It’s the age to experiment and make mistakes…

There is no better time in life to travel and spend quality time with someone you really like. He can't do this later, it won't be as good. What a fantastic way to spend your prime. If he was my son I'd let him know that I would bail him out if he needed me to, but I would be really happy for him

All the signs seem good ones 'bringing out the best in him' etc. As mum you have a right to be concerned/apprehensive but as mum you don't have a right to let him know that. Wish them luck and be positive, he knows that you will be there for him should he need you.

Support him. Be excited for him.
This could be the life-changing boost he needs. Sounds like he’s had a rough few years - let him fly.

That wouldn’t be your concern. That would also be none of your business.

@changecandles @endofthelinefinally True & sensible.Some people live in a utopia where they think warning young people about the atrocities that do & always will happen while backpacking across the world is spoiling their fun & taking away from their 'magical' experience. They need to face reality & ensure young people with little life experience are aware the world isn't all milk & honey & it's important to be on their guard 24/7 while still enjoying the experience.

The day I take the attitude my families decisions are none of my business is the day if anything happened to them that I could have warned them about & prevented is the day I would have failed in my role as a mother.

Gosh that is really rude.

It's not a stretch and I think that shows your naivety to this situation. I have travelled the world and have seen some incredible things. Best time of my life, but I was conned, blackmailed by police, taxi driver tried to assault me down a back alley, conned a number of times financially and twice put in dangerous situations with guns (oh and three crocodile stories)

Saying that of my daughter wanted to go, I'd support her whole heartedly it's the best time of my life. But I would ensure she knew the dangers that awaited her and the number one rule is you carry no one else bag!

I think he said that as a joke????