To be upset with my boyfriend over this ?

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Hi I 25 f have been with my partner 37m for 4 years now. We’ve both been so busy at work apart from a couple days off at Christmas and it was our first weekend together.

This morning we were on the sofa watching telly and I went to hug him. He said ‘ergh great are you gonna hug me again and kiss me - it’s getting really annoying’ I got up made a tea and went upstairs to our bedroom I was upset. But didn’t show it.

I got a text from Royal Mail saying they’d delivered a gift I got for him. I purchased it last week because I wanted to treat him. It was a big bag of his favourite pick n mix. Anyway I went to get it as they’d left it outside and I came in and said that I’d got him these and he said ‘well it’s not even my birthday , have I had all my birthday presents now? , great’

This may be childish but I just burst into tears and quickly went back upstairs. He followed me up and saw me crying and said ‘Actually do you know what I can’t be bleeped to make you feel better I’m going out for a cigarette and a walk I need space from you, you’re a joke’

I’m really upset I don’t know what to think. He always says he loves me usually and that he’s so happy but now I feel like it’s a lie and I feel he’s secretly always annoyed at me or I get under his skin as he just completely changed today.

Also I never mention this to him but I also see no sign of a proposal . I thought after 4 years he would have thought about it but nothing. I never ask him about marriage or proposals but I have found myself thinking about it. He usually seems really happy with me. He is quite a cold man until you get to know him and then he has a softer side.

Any advice ? I feel sad 😭

thank you xx

You are young, leave him and find someone better, he Dosen’t live you

It might seem like you have invested a few years into this relationship and you should carry on with it but do you really want to potentially spend 60 years with him, unfortunately I think he has gone off you

Dump the arsehole and thank your lucky stars that you are not married to him. Come on Op, where is your self respect? No-one deserves to be treated like this. Give yourself the best start to 2025 and finish with the "37m" tosser.
Keep the pick n mix though.

Get rid. You are only 25 you can do so much better and have loads of time. And I certainly wouldn’t be buying him presents or giving him hugs or kisses anytime soon.

This, and why the hell are you able to post about what an arsehole he is, then talk about wanting to get married?!

OP, I guarantee he is in a relationship with someone a fair bit younger than him because women his own age find him disgusting and won’t give him the time of day. That’s no reflection on you, it’s things we only learn with age and experience.
please chuck him, you deserve a million times better than this clown.

You’re 25, why on earth would you want to get married?

Well, quite!!

That’s the behaviour of a man who has zero love or respect for you. He behaved like he despises you in fact. Dump him, he’s substandard, mean and honestly not worth a second more of your time.

He’s horrible, lovely.

Imagine you were staying with a friend, and she treated you like this. You’d leave, wouldn’t you?

You sound like a thoughtful, caring person. Find someone like you who appreciates you and who treats you like the best thing that’s ever happened to him.

Oh just get rid - he has the humanity of a gnat.

I’d say he could be looking for a way out of the relationship but you are too scared and upset to face up to that possibly. So he steps up his deliberate antagonism hoping you will eventually do what he wants and end it for him.
Does that sound possible OP ? Could this relationship have run its course?
Is this the thin end of the wedge? How much more horrible, humiliation do you feel you will put up with?

Better that you end it on your terms I think but that takes courage to simply walk away instead of begging and pleading and putting up with more and more verbal/emotional abuse until he does the inevitable and cheats.

You don’t deserve to be treated this way, ever. He’s not a nice man. You are young enough to take your time and start over after a break to get your equilibrium back.
Good luck OP.

A 33 year old man dating a 21 year old woman was always going to be a red flag. He’s treating you like shit and you don’t need to put up with it.

He’s a mean little prick.

He’s defo seeing someone else…

put him in the bin and find someone who loves you.

Get the sweeties and a cup of tea and eat them all why you are planning what your next few moves are.

Step one :arrangements to leave

Step two : arrangements to raise your self esteem

Step three : arrangements to enjoy life with or without a man

Which people seem to forget when they are slagging off a 19 year old OW on here

He sounds really cruel. Be thankful you aren’t married. It will be much easier to separate from him.

And btw, he isn’t a “boy” and it doesn’t sound as though he is much of a “friend” either.

What a horrible man. You can do better so get rid - you're young and will meet someone else who knows how to treat their partner.

Wow what an absolute cunt of a man, you are still so young and can do so much better than this, me and my husband have been together 11 years and still very much cuddly and in love, you can have all that too just not with this one. Please don’t even think of marrying him if he ask’s

Dump him. Next time, if what you want is marriage, be more circumspect before agreeing to live with someone without a proposal.

He sounds horrible OP. You can definitely do better. Bin him - this will erode your self esteem over time.

Please let him right now. If you were married to him, had a baby with him and beyond, it would be unbearable. You will find someone much better. Don't think twice. Onward! 💐💐

Break up with this shit bag TODAY.

OP seriously is this the best you think you can do?

he’s HORRIBLE to you. Why are you allowing yourself ti be treated like this?