Trying to figure out if I'm being unreasonable.
Long story short - blended family situation. Living together 8 years. DCs from both me and him. 50/50 childcare split with other parents.
Financially big difference, I earn a 3rd of what he does. House has gone through lots of renovations which still not finished and has cost me a fortune.
DP loves travelling, doing nice things etc. As do I but money is a barrier. I also like to pay my way and not ask for financial support.
He's been away a lot over the years with his parents and siblings - it's their thing. We went on holiday last year with his fam and all DC.
Then his parents and siblings decided to plan a holiday for start of Jan to Hawaii. He wanted to go - but DC couldn't because of school and neither me because of work and obviously DC. I felt really annoyed about this, more so because I would love to go to Hawaii, dream holiday, but I'd want to go with DC and finance limited.
He booked anyway and said it's because his parents getting old and he was to take opportunities to make memories, reconnect etc.
I just feel so miffed by it all. He was also sending me messages telling me he was having a terrible time because I was making him feel guilty. I've bit my lip and sent nice messages to him so I don't ruin his trip. It's also been freezing here and our CH packed up.
Am I being a nob? I don't usually care, he's done trips before but this time I'm upset and annoyed. I guess it's because I'm really struggling with money atm. Plus I'm not going to be happy if he sends pics of himself and his fam on the beach when it's so miserable here!