Estranged son asking for large amount of money

[Friartruckster]

Wants the money for a deposit for a house.

States is entitled to money I have inherited, set aside for him.

Hasn’t spoken to me in 7 years. Will walk past me in the street and blank me.

States I am toxic and hence no contact.

I am posting because it’s such a dilemma. I desperately want to help him get on the property ladder, but being estranged has had a massive effect on me. It’s a huge amount of money to handover. The fact we are estranged means I have no close family now. Things like adapting to Christmas alone. Feel that money represents my security as I near retirement.

Sounds like extortion attempts trying to play on your emotions.

Tell him you don't have any money left, are in huge debts, and ask if he can help you and lend you money.... 😁

I would frankly continue to not be in contact with him, if I was in your shoes.

You can't buy his affection.
He's bullying you.
Unless you are legally obliged to give him the money(sounds not) then do what you like with your money.
If you are determined that he doesn't receive a penny then add a clause in your will stating why not... estranged since....etc
Otherwise he might challenge the will after you go

I’m only a stepgran - never an adoption, because dh’s kids were adults when I married - so thought that the wedding exemption didn’t apply to me.

"Sorry mate, who are you?"