They showed up announced?!

[Snowedon]

Heavily pregnant. Missed a midwife appointment a couple of days ago that has been re-booked (just a standard check up at GP) and was meant to start home testing for GD but have been ill with what we think was COVID since Christmas. Been utterly wiped out but tried to do some readings. Failed miserably, communicated all this to the team at the hospital.

I was in bed feeling ill, trying to rest when the door went. It was two midwives. A household member let in confused. I was equally as perplexed since nothing was booked nor mentioned to me. Basically I felt the whole time they were condescending and rude. They spoke to me like a little child telling me off, reminding me of the danger I'm putting my unborn child under, and to remind me and household members to do a "better job of taking care of me". The appointment missed was genuinely the first time I've done something like that and it simply went under my radar since I'm under 4 different teams for different things and appointments are becoming confusing and overwhelming with cancellations and changes. I explained that I had already spoken to the hospital about my troubles with my testing to which they demanded I showed them my phone for "proof". I tried to explain how ill I've been and they belittled it by saying "yes a COLD is going around at the moment" and then kept referring to it as a cold.

Surely they can't do this and need permission first before showing up announced. I would never put my child in harms way, but regardless am I wrong for thinking it's my body and I have a right to not show up/decline things when I want (not saying I am) but regardless. That then doesn't give them the green light to come to my home and bully me surely? I maybe overly sensitive to all of this since I've been ill for 3 long weeks now, really pregnant, but I do feel like as I'm quite young that I've had a major history of being not taken seriously and treated in a patronising manner during this pregnancy. This isn't my first and I know what I am doing. I'm listening and taking things onboard, I am trying. But my god I am getting fed up of this treatment by everyone and it's racking my confidence going forward for birth.

That sounds OTT. More concerning is how you said it was covid and they called it a cold. These are people dealing with pregnant women and babies. Wtf is the matter with them and how dare they endanger others they are meant to be looking after just because of their ignorant attitude.

You could have just showed them the COVID test?

Yeah and fewer women and babies die as a result.

This!
Perhaps the midwives were running ahead of time and passing your way. GD is dangerous to you and your unborn baby, imagine if one of you was critically ill and nobody had bothered. I think you should be grateful.

Cold calling patients is a lazy way of working. Consent is maybe overridden by worked Ng this way.

I live in the US. You get nothing unless you pay a huge amount of money up front. You go to the cashier desk before every medical appointment. The truly evil health insurance companies stand between the patients and doctors raking in billions looking for every opportunity to deny you health care.
If someone turned up on my doorstep and wanted to check on my health I think I would cry with gratitude.

I think it's a good thing Midwives are doing more, were concerned, checked on your unborn baby and your health. It's not just about you now.

Too many women slip through the net.

Wow why you accusing her of ghosting and lies

I’m sorry this happened to you OP.
No they can’t treat you like that.
You were more than well within your own rights to ask them to leave.

You are doing what’s most important, looking after yourself.

Hope you feel better soon 💐💜

I think the poster means because you said you would get another household member to say you were out.That would be telling a lie,if you weren't actually out. Wouldn't it?

I once had a very condescending doctor I went to about what I could tell was becoming a chest infection. he absolutely condescendingly explained to me that I can go to a supermarket or chemist, and buy a decongestent liquid medicine to help with the coughing. like I was too stupid to know what cough mixture was, and too stupid to have thought of that already.

I requested a change of midwife after receiving unsympathetic and condescending behaviour. I told the manager who followed up exactly why and she said, no problem, she would follow me up herself. She was non-commital about my report but I had a good relationship with her and it was definitely the best thing to do.

YANBU I would file a complaint. I complained about a midwife when I was pregnant with my first son. My husband has Spanish heritage so has a very Spanish name, however was born here and is English. She asked me if there is a language barrier between us (clearly
not as he is English) and couldn’t spell his name despite me spelling it out and basically said ‘what a stupid name you’ll have to write his name because I can’t be bothered’

then she asked if i had any problems with mental health in the past, unfortunately I have always suffered panic attacks and anxiety so I’m medicated for that successfully and her exact words ‘maybe you should have sorted that out before you decided to start a family’.

same midwife coincidentally was assigned to a friend of mine some months later who sadly had to have a medical termination. She wasn’t sure whether to attend the following midwife appointment so she rang the surgery to confirm. Said midwife ‘LAUGHED’ and said ‘well obviously not if you’re not pregnant anymore??’

she was awful.

Agree

You say you're under 4 different teams, without knowing what that involves, I'm wondering if they are considering your pregnancy 'high risk'? Tbh health professionals are damned if they do and damned if they don't. I would be grateful to have midwives looking out for me and my unborn child but we're all different with regards to what's considered intrusive. All the best with your pregnancy 😊

Midwives aren’t leaving because of the patients.

Libre take 3 days from
Abbott you can request it yourself online