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To think DH should provide childcare during my medical appointment?

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Pogeatsalltheburgers · 06/01/2025 20:48

I have a minor medical procedure tomorrow. It was the only date and time they had, due to someone else's cancellation. They gave me the appointment this afternoon so no time to plan. It's not a complete emergency but the problem could get worse if left. So I did not want to refuse the appointment.
I have a 9mo baby.
AIBU to think my DH should take a couple of hours off work to hold the baby whilst I have the procedure?
Unfortunately i have no one else who can help.
My DH works in the community in this area so drives around for work.
I know he'd make it work if the appointment was his but he's saying to me 'that's not enough notice, I might not be able to do it' etc and got quite cross with me.
From my perspective he could easily sort things out so he could be there to help me. He's whinging on about how he will have to finish late if he does it and it's made me quite angry tbh...
Am I being unreasonable to expect him to rearrange his work day to be there for a couple of hours? I will not be able to have the procedure done if no one can hold the baby.

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Wildwalksinjanuary · 09/01/2025 10:38

BettyBardMacDonald · 09/01/2025 02:08

If this procedure didn't require sedation or involve life-threatening urgency, it was not an emergency. Babysitter is preferable to the breadwinner missing work.

This is completely wrong. You can’t make medical care conditional on a made up set of rules! It’s his child and sometimes he will have to parent when he doesn’t expect to!

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