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Think ive upset my neighbour

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KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

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OhYeahOhYeah · 07/01/2025 18:52

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

lol, as others have suggested, knock on the door, explain what happened and say you died a thousand deaths when you saw them, and apologise for being a nit and having the old verbal vomit

PonyPatter44 · 07/01/2025 18:57

I'm sorry, that is hilarious. I can understand how mortified you must feel, but its like something out of a sit com. Take her a bottle of wine and apologise for your total bonkersness.

Sunnnybunny72 · 07/01/2025 19:02

The 'well, not now' gets me 😂😂

WeCanOnlyDoOurBest · 07/01/2025 19:13

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

I would be mortified and embarrassed too, I’d play the scene over and over in my head 😖
Pop round and tell her the truth, you were a rabbit caught in the headlights and came out with the first sentence that came into your head to cover your embarrassment… a normal human reaction. In reality you were looking out for your neighbour because you thought someone was poking around in her garden. If you don’t explain your side of things it’ll haunt you, you did nothing wrong, you had your neighbours best interests and safety at heart, and you need to let her know this.

Hazey19 · 07/01/2025 19:14

This actually made me laugh out loud. If I was the neighbour I would think this hilarious don’t worry it sounds like she has a sense of humour 😂

Justanotherusernameagain · 07/01/2025 19:18

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

I’m your neighbour hahahahah

don’t worry, I’ve been seeing hot tub man for about 3 months now 😂

this little pickle is nothing a cheeky bottle of wine and some chocolates wouldn’t solve 😁

I promise to never mention it again (after the wine and chocs, which we should eat and drink together and have a proper giggle about this over!)

CatTV · 07/01/2025 19:21

Justanotherusernameagain · 07/01/2025 19:18

I’m your neighbour hahahahah

don’t worry, I’ve been seeing hot tub man for about 3 months now 😂

this little pickle is nothing a cheeky bottle of wine and some chocolates wouldn’t solve 😁

I promise to never mention it again (after the wine and chocs, which we should eat and drink together and have a proper giggle about this over!)

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OMFG love this!!

Lulubo1 · 07/01/2025 19:25

Justanotherusernameagain · 07/01/2025 19:18

I’m your neighbour hahahahah

don’t worry, I’ve been seeing hot tub man for about 3 months now 😂

this little pickle is nothing a cheeky bottle of wine and some chocolates wouldn’t solve 😁

I promise to never mention it again (after the wine and chocs, which we should eat and drink together and have a proper giggle about this over!)

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Ahhhh, this is brilliant!!!

Bibbiddiebopbiddiedooyeah · 07/01/2025 19:26

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 21:00

Thanks everyone, I do need to clear the air I know but I barely know her, which just makes the whole “will you do me a favour” thing even worse

this has made me laugh so much😂

WidgetDigit2022 · 07/01/2025 19:28

This has made me chuckle!!

I would totally go round tomorrow and laugh about how silly you felt and how you really don’t expect her to take your things to the charity shop! It could be the start of a great friendship, to be fair, she sounds nice!

Julimia · 07/01/2025 19:32

Sorry shouldn't laugh but that is so funny!! Just tell her the truth and I'm sure she'll laugh too. You may get a hot tub invite!!

MyDeftDuck · 07/01/2025 19:39

kaos2 · 05/01/2025 20:49

Go and see her and tell her the truth .. I'm sure she will see the funny side of it .!

This.
There's an elephant in the room and you need to tell her that you heard a noise from her garden and that's why you were peering over the fence but was taken aback by what you saw.
I am sure she will see the funny side once you explain to her.

Stink8 · 07/01/2025 19:43

Just go round tomorrow and talk to her…..I’m sure you’ll have laugh about it.

Noodles1234 · 07/01/2025 19:51

Hilarious!
pop over, tell her the truth you’ll both be laughing and opening a bottle of wine!
move done the same thing but I was wearing my bad / holey pjs and the neighbour was in the garden and not a burglar, he was a little surprised!

Emmz1510 · 07/01/2025 19:59

Nope not overthinking, that’s definitely mortifying! I don’t know why it entered your mind to ask her to take your bags to the charity shop? Is this something she has done for you before or does she work in one or something? Cos that just seems so random!

If you can’t face speaking to her text her or put a note through her door saying something like

’so sorry for disturbing you the other day! I heard an unexpected noise and just wanted to check all was ok. I didn’t expect to see you and it threw me for a loop and I just said the first thing that came into my head. I’m so embarrassed and definitely do not need bags taking to the charity shop! Sincere apologies again xx’

Stink8 · 07/01/2025 20:31

Emmz1510 · 07/01/2025 19:59

Nope not overthinking, that’s definitely mortifying! I don’t know why it entered your mind to ask her to take your bags to the charity shop? Is this something she has done for you before or does she work in one or something? Cos that just seems so random!

If you can’t face speaking to her text her or put a note through her door saying something like

’so sorry for disturbing you the other day! I heard an unexpected noise and just wanted to check all was ok. I didn’t expect to see you and it threw me for a loop and I just said the first thing that came into my head. I’m so embarrassed and definitely do not need bags taking to the charity shop! Sincere apologies again xx’

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Writing a note would be weird…. Just speak face to face.

Shiningout · 07/01/2025 20:57

I think the neighbour is on here so no need for suggestions any more 🤣🤣 unless it was a joke

Ellaelle · 07/01/2025 22:46

Funniest thing I've read in a while. Read it four times and it still elicits laughter. We've all made some embarrassing gaffs at some point

Ellaelle · 07/01/2025 22:48

Shiningout · 07/01/2025 20:57

I think the neighbour is on here so no need for suggestions any more 🤣🤣 unless it was a joke

Are you serious? I need to go back and read the comment. Lol

Eta: nevermind just seen it lol

SoInLuv · 07/01/2025 23:37

OtterlyMad · 05/01/2025 20:53

Oh god I’m mortified for you! 😂 I think on this occasion, the truth is less strange than your cover story, so I would go round with a bottle of wine or box of chocolates and just explain what happened - try to make light of it!

Perfect 👌🏼

Swiftie1878 · 08/01/2025 08:18

😂😂😂😂

So funny!

Just tell her what you’ve told us. Hopefully she’ll find it funny too. It could be the start of a beautiful friendship xx

doormatrevolution · 08/01/2025 08:33
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bagginsatbagend · 09/01/2025 16:38

If you were my neighbour & explained what happened & it was just a brain fart we’d be laughing over a brew before you knew it. The real (even though you’re embarrassed) comes across so much better than weird neighbour interrupts hot tub sesh to ask a favour 🤣🤣 Oh bless you, this is totally something I’d end up doing & feeling mortified over

CrayonCritic5 · 10/01/2025 20:22

Tell us what she said 🤣

BettyBardMacDonald · 10/01/2025 21:36

CrayonCritic5 · 10/01/2025 20:22

Tell us what she said 🤣

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