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Think ive upset my neighbour

186 replies

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

OP posts:
Fleurdalys · 05/01/2025 21:10

Sorry
You are going to have to move house
Like tomorrow 🤣

DangerMouseAndPenfoldx · 05/01/2025 21:11

CatsBeCrazy · 05/01/2025 21:08

3 years old lol 😂

I genuinely pictured the whole thing as you with your 30 year old daughter, which would have been a completely different type of party bus, and therefore envisaged you and her both a bit pissed, her running off and you falling drunkenly on your arse 😅

CatsBeCrazy · 05/01/2025 21:15

I wish I had of been drunk . It would have made it bearable 🤣 but nope just a naughty little 3 year old . She was terrible . So glad she outgrew this stage lol

JessicafelloffTheKnappett · 05/01/2025 21:16

This is the funniest thing ever!!! 🤣
Explain you were surprised and just said the first thing that came to mind.

PandaChopChop · 05/01/2025 21:23

That's one hell of a brain fart- you've absolutely just got to front it out otherwise she will think you are a right CF 😆
Get some wine in and tell her straight out that you panicked 😆😆😆

OneZippyWasp · 05/01/2025 21:23

Lol. I would do what others have said and that is to go round with a bottle of wine or box of chocolates and tell her what you have told us.

saltandvinegarchipsticks · 05/01/2025 21:26

I’m so sorry OP but this has made me laugh so much

TwigletsAndRadishes · 05/01/2025 21:29

That made me burst out laughing. 😂It's like a scene from a sitcom. I think you'll just have to knock on her door, explain and apologise. She's going to think you are a weirdo now anyway, so you've got nothing to lose.

Cornecopia · 05/01/2025 21:30

Omg this is sooooo funny. Tell her the truth she will laugh

CatsBeCrazy · 05/01/2025 21:32

You can do it OP we are all behind you ✌️ 🤣

Rosesanddaffs · 05/01/2025 21:33

@KazMeddy 😂🤣 how funny! You’ve really made me laugh xx

devilspawn · 05/01/2025 21:34

As far as I see it you have two options:

  1. Spy on her from your bedroom window in future.
  2. Get in the hot tub first and wink at her suggestively when she comes out.
Silvers11 · 05/01/2025 21:34

@KazMeddy Not sure why you didn't say something along the lines of ''I was worried that there were potential burglars in your garden and I was looking over the fence to check what was going on before I phoned the police?''

SpringIscomingalso · 05/01/2025 21:35

I actually really like this story
it is nothing to die for

devilspawn · 05/01/2025 21:35

Silvers11 · 05/01/2025 21:34

@KazMeddy Not sure why you didn't say something along the lines of ''I was worried that there were potential burglars in your garden and I was looking over the fence to check what was going on before I phoned the police?''

She was thrown because she was expecting an episode of Police Interceptors and ended up with Love Island.

LazyArsedMagician · 05/01/2025 21:36

Sounds like a great way to make a friend!

HereIComeMelbourne · 05/01/2025 21:36

Bahaha, so funny. And totally the sort of thing I'd come out with. I'd stand on that same chair and wave a bottle of wine in her direction 😁

oakleaffy · 05/01/2025 21:37

@KazMeddy There will be a thread started on here about 'I was in my hot tub with my partner when a cheeky woman from next door put her head over the fence and asked me to take shit to the charity shop for her...

Is she a cheeky fucker or not? AIBU?

Tahlbias · 05/01/2025 21:38

🤣🫣 I would tell her the truth tbh...

Tahlbias · 05/01/2025 21:38

oakleaffy · 05/01/2025 21:37

@KazMeddy There will be a thread started on here about 'I was in my hot tub with my partner when a cheeky woman from next door put her head over the fence and asked me to take shit to the charity shop for her...

Is she a cheeky fucker or not? AIBU?

🤣🤣

Totaleclipseofthemind · 05/01/2025 21:40

Upsetting a neighbour with a tacky hot tub in their garden is impossible. Stop worrying. I am sure the random man got his full hot tub service too 🤢

Manxexile · 05/01/2025 21:41

"... Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence... "

I can't help but wonder why you thought it might be somebody who shouldn't be there rather than the more obvious explanation that it was your neighbour in her own garden(?).

Do you go to the trouble of standing on a patio chair to look over the fence every time you hear somebody in the next door garden? 😄

Notrynajudge · 05/01/2025 21:41

This is hilarious OP. I can just picture this like a very awkward Miranda type scenario 😅

MumWifeOther · 05/01/2025 21:41

KazMeddy · 05/01/2025 20:38

Sorry name changed as I’m mortified.

I was having a clear out for the new year and gathered four bags of clothes and toys etc for charity shop.

Last night I started taking the bags to the shed and heard noise coming from next doors garden and I was worried that someone was in there that shouldn’t be so I stood on a patio chair to look over the fence. Neighbour was in the hot tub with a man I didn’t recognise (I thought she was single!). The bloke looked up and saw me and I didn’t know what to say so when neighbour looked up I asked her if she would take the bags to charity shop for me. I have no idea why I said that, even as the words were coming out I was mortified at what I was saying. She looked a bit confused but said she’d do it so I asked her if I should bring them around and she said “well, not now” and gestured towards the man. He started laughing and she then said “just leave them in your shed for now?”

im beyond embarrassed, I just can’t believe I said that to her not to mention the embarrassment of being seen peering over the bloody fence.

please tell me I’m over thinking it. I’ve felt sick all day just thinking about it.

Hilarious 😂

Londonrach1 · 05/01/2025 21:43

That's so something I would say. Please pop around and explain. I'm trying to learn to control my foot going into my mouth but it's working in progress. Your neighbour will understand...we human , we say the wrong things