To think I’m not doing anything wrong

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Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas.

DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing.

AIBU?

Then she’d take a taxi!😂 the ‘what if’ flappers are here!

Then they should seek help for their issues, not take it out on others

Tell him to look after the children himself if he's that bothered! In fact, if it's a school night, why is he out at all? Should be setting a good example!

Well, I agree and I wasn't - or at least not intentionally. But one gets very fed up with everyone having traumas from perfectly normal events.
I had an interesting discussion with DS the other day, on the prevalence or otherwise of neurodiversity. We both agree I was probably what is now labelled 'neurodiverse'. We used to call this being tactless and cloth-eared etc, which I feel was more helpful to people, since they had to learn to watch what they said and did in social situations, rather than being somewhat pandered to, as many MN parents seem to. My generation would not have put up with a DC who changed what they would eat every other month - not financially sustainable for a start.

Is being raised or spending a lot of time around alcoholics a perfectly normal event? I’d say NOT having trauma around that would be an odd psychological response. Also people can just disagree with parenting choices without insulting people with genuine mental health or social communication issues. Neurodiversity isn’t more prevalent, correct diagnosis of neurodiversity is more prevalent.

Yes it’s a good question. Especially when you factor in that OP was clearly expecting her DH back soon, as he’s just walked in mid wine-guzzle.

I think you can be raised witnessing heavy drinking ( not necessarily from a parent) and its negative effects and not be traumatized but be wary of what alcohol can do. I am digressing from the point here though as the OP is just talking about one glass of wine.

She said 'a glass of wine' not a bottle.

No, not alcoholics and I agree that can leave scars, mainly from neglect and abuse which are associated.