To think I’m not doing anything wrong

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Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas.

DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing.

AIBU?

This and slurp it really loudly with a 'ahhh' after every sip 😂

Well then you already know yanbu, sounds strange sitting having a glass of wine for the sake of it in the afternoon, why not wait till the evening. I'm a wine drinker but wouldn't be bothered in the afternoon

you have children/child so the relationship is clearly not new, is this the very first time ever you have drunk a glass of wine at home??

There are taxis - y’ know, the things people who don’t drive use. And you posted without knowing if op actually drives or not. Her DH was out doing his hobby - how come he gets to relax and do as he likes but OP doesn’t ? I despair of MN sometimes.

Don't be ridiculous.

Not to mention the assumption that OP actually drives !!

i don’t drink ( Muslim ) and I am annoyed on your behalf. I would have had a row and said you have been out and I have been looking after the kids ! It is one glass of wine, next time have more !

Have you talked about the "driving the kids to hospital" thing before? As PP have said, taxis are a thing, but it will take longer, which might be a factor in getting to A and E. I think you and your DH need to communicate and come to an agreement about what level of risk you are both happy with. This doesn't sound like he's being weird and controlling (assuming he doesn't try to control you in other ways).

The only reason I decided to have a glass was because I was feeling really relaxed reading my book and the kids were behaving for once😄 so I just thought why not? It’s not something I’ll do all the time (if ever again possibly)

I’ve just ignored his comments. Can’t be bothered getting into a discussion about it

Tired old shite. You know there are people that don't drive, right?

I bet there's plenty of people who have gone to the pub this lunchtime for a pint or two. There's no difference.

What's the difference between afternoon and evening? A glass of wine is a glass of wine, morning noon or midnight.

Get a grip!

But there are consequences - if a kid had a serious time-sensitive injury not being able to drive might be the difference between life and death. I know that not everyone can drive, for a variety of reasons, but you must agree that it is sometimes a choice (e.g. if you choose to drink when solely looking after kids). I personally wouldn't judge anyone for this as I think the risk is low, but there is a greater risk. Both parents need to be on the same page (or at least know each others' position).

Having said all that, I reread the OP and saw that the DH had said that it was "weird" to drink alone at home after xmas. Fuck that!!!

The chances of this are extremely slim. Obviously I can't speak for everyone but I've never had to drive either of my kids to hospital. Are you saying that no parent should ever have one drink?

Yup

Just to make a point like.

What are the rules around the correct time for wine drinking for womenfolk? What can be done about the wayward types who indulge in daytime drink outside the festive season? The world is going to hell in a handcart!!

in the case of a genuine life or death scenario, it's absolute madness to drive yourself while the victim is dying on the back seat, that's what ambulances and their trained staff are for.

Tell him to fuck off! Crikey anyone would think you're off your nut with his response & some of these replies.

Enjoy another wine & your book OP
You won't be the first mother who's enjoyed a glass of wine & most certainly won't be the last.

I fucking love the hypocrisy of fucking men; as long as he's enjoying himself you're a mother now how fucking dare you!
Have the bottle give the prick something to really whinge about 🍻

So even parents that do drive, but don't live near to a hospital are risking their children's lives?!
What's the maximum safe distance?
What if it is rush hour, or there is only one car and the other parent has it away from home?

My god, I didn't realise the risks!

You would just get a taxi or neighbour or get DH home, or if an emergency ring for an ambulance.

Pour yourself another one and smack your lips loudly after every sip. Follow up with a tequila chaser.

I 2nd this 🤣

I think he’s overreacting and you’re fine. However. I’m a decent drinker. I love a drink. There’s no way I’d drink in the mid afternoon with a small child sitting playing next to me. Drinking is a sociable thing or a relaxation thing for me, it would feel weird to be on the wine knowing I could be interrupted at any moment to help with a toy or wipe a bottom.

What a load of bollocks. If your kid has a serious time sensitive injury you call an ambulance.
Ive been in hospital with a kid many times, and not once has it been the correct decision to drive alone to hospital with them.