To think I’m not doing anything wrong

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Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas.

DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing.

AIBU?

Neither here nor there but a taxi to our children's hospital would be my preference in an emergency if I was on my own so I could avoid parking which is a nightmare...... that's the thing about risks though, you can't look at them in isolation and make a sweeping statement.

I wouldn’t and haven’t called you a nut job. But you were very judgmental towards the OP for doing something that is totally fine it’s just that you wouldn’t personally do it.
You have your personal reasons not to do it, that’s cool. But you don’t get to tell other people not to. That’s her choice.
I wouldn’t do it either. Doesn’t mean I think the OP is a terrible mother.

God some people are mumsnet are wierd.
Yes it's completely fine to have a glass of wine at home whilst reading a book even if you've got primary aged kids.
The glass of wine is fine.. the reading a book is fine..
Honestly some people in this thread are nuts.
Can't believe people exist being this uptight.
People on here suggesting it's abusive to read a book whilst your children play 🤣

OP YANBU your DH is being really odd and controlling.

@BeLilacSloth Ok so you have your personal reasons as to why you wouldn’t drink around children. That’s fine. But the first thing you said was for me to take some responsibility? You were being very judgemental from the start

I never said that OP was a terrible mother. She asked for opinions so because I don’t believe it’s ‘totally fine’ i’m completely in the wrong? Not forgetting her own husband also does not believe it’s totally fine.

I don’t touch alcohol but I certainly wouldn’t have a bloke telling me what to do. I’d actually start drinking to spite him

Of course this is fine it’s one glass of wine for gods sake. Hardly a hard core drinking session is it 🤣 some of the comments astonish me.

No it wouldn't. People would obviously ask for context. I've seen many a thread with this exact subject.
Majority of people do not respond LTB they ask how much he was drinking and what the exact scenario is.
One glass of wine whilst reading a book? Hardly anyone would be saying LTB unless there was some huge backstory.

And maybe they weren't. Not everyone here has been traumatized by drunk parents and if they have they should have the nous to know the difference between one glass of wine on one afternoon, as compared to a week's binge on vodka.

😂 the pearl clutching!

What about single parents? I guess they’re not allowed to drink.
When my husband is out I love having a glass of wine with some trash tv. In fact, my husband would agree we’re both much better parents when we’ve had a drink 😂
In France the kids are even allowed to drink too 😉

This is just such a daft argument, sorry.
What about those of us with kids who don't drive?
If DH was away, at work or out I wouldn't be able to drive because I can't drive.
I'd have to get a taxi. Not everyone can drive, you know.

OP's DH should've stayed at home and given OP a needed break from DC, if he's that worried about one glass of wine, a book and some Pringles.

Just came back from a 4th birthday party. A few people on here would be absolutely outraged that the parents were handing out beers to the (adult) guests! What an earth would they have done in the event anyone needed to get to hospital???

In that case they should enjoy their wine. There’s still no need to name call and make fun of those who don’t drink.

More importantly OP, did you manage to get your children to A&E safely?

If it is that important to him you should probably sit down together and discuss the ground rules that should apply to both of you. Maybe if he goes out you abstain and he does the same if you go out. If you are in together take it in turns to drink. I’m not making a judgment about this. It has never been a problem for me and my DH of 40 years. But it is obviously a problem for him and could well become a huge bone of contention if you don’t agree on what is right.

It’s obviously a personal thing. I don’t drink anyway but I have asked my husband to not drink when he is the sole person looking after our daughter. Not even 1.
I find it weird that people drink daily.

I grew up with an alcoholic so I really don’t want drinking around my child.

Saying you wouldn’t do something or that you disagree with it isn’t really “getting worked up” though is it? It’s just an opinion on a thread same as everyone else.

He’s being bitchy…did he lose at golf? One glass of wine is no harm at all - and I am a complete teetotaller. I live in Ireland and tomorrow is Nollaig na mban - women’s Christmas. A day off for all women in thanks for their efforts in her Christmas…because frankly Christmas wouldn’t happen without us. Men organise the childcare and do all the chores for one day. There will be bottomless brunches happening all over the country - I’m off for a spa day. Your husband is lucky he’s not in Ireland 😂

Wondering if we can get this going in England too…🤣

People have said more than just that, come on now.

I think they need to sort this out between themselves… 🤣

You fancied a glass or two, no crime, DH home, what's the big deal? Xx

I personally wouldn’t drink alone in the middle of the day while with my young kids as I wouldn’t want to give them that as an example. For me it’s fine with kids around if it’s during an occasional meal or at party ( in moderation obviously) To me that’s kind of showing them a healthy way to drink. One glass isn’t the end of the world though and most people would be quite capable of looking after their kids.

What a joy you must be.