Should she replace it? Part 3

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I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also.

I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’

I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

This thread has me gripped! I’ve been watching air wrap tutorials on YouTube seriously considering getting one 😂

I think your responses have been right apart from ending the friendship part as surely she’ll just ghost you next? I hope you get it sorted soon.

Are you the friend? Or do you have ‘mug’ tattooed on your forehead? I’d be very surprised if you haven’t been taken advantage of before with this attitude.

Whilst I agree that her friend, IF she has broken/lost it as opposed to stolen it, may have been panicking about the cost, there is NO excuse to lie about it. I would have thought, given the OP seems like a lovely person to have lent the airwrap in the first place, that had the friend came to her and been upfront about what really happened and made a proper effort to resolve the situation from the beginning, then OP would have been more understanding.

Instead, the friend waited for the OP to ask about it, then lied at least twice about having left it behind then about the weather, and didn’t seem that bothered about it. OP owes her absolutely NOTHING. She has no respect for her.

There’s a few retailers that offer interest free credit for up to 12 months for high value goods, such as Very or Curry’s. I’d have purchased one from there.

Im beyond thrilled that you chose my response (albeit tweaked) to send her. I feel like a celeb lol.
Seriously, from hereon in I would only use written messages. I dont think she is going to cough up, and you need everything in writing to build your case for small claims court. Sounds like you probably have enough in writing already, but they are going to want to see clearly - in writing - that you lent it to her, and she lost it/damaged it and didnt replace it. They arent going to be interested in anything else, but the faffing and lies wont look good for her. Do you have all of that in writing?

If I was you, unless she produces the goods tonight, by tomorrow morning I would apply to small claims. It doesnt take long (ive done it myself) and I would have no further contact with her except one last one tomorrow morning saying,

'As you didnt send me the money or purchase a replacement last night I have now applied to the small claims court for them to sort this out. Despite my very best efforts to reach a resolution, you have proved yourself unreliable and untrustworthy so a resolution will have to made with court assistance'. And then go radio silent.

Courts like to see you have tried to come up with resolutions - and you have in writing that you have tried and tried and you have given it some time, and there has been a lot of back and forth and a lot of lies, so the judge can see that you tried, but this person is unreliable and untrustworthy.

Oh and make a note now of the conversation you had over the phone. As much detail as possible. You will need that for the claim.

I think you ask for the replacement and the broken one if you want to know the truth. Im astounded by peoples lack of care of other peoples things

Btw it doenst come across to me like your after a dopemine boost. It comes across as someone who is very kind and needed reassurance around your own boundaries and the support from mumsnet has enabled you to speak up for yourself in a way that feels right for you

OP ignore the sanctimonious posters. Majority of us get it and just hoping you will get a replacement or the £s soon.

Amazing how so many of you came up with such an original comment all by yourselves at almost the exact same time 😂

I stand by it that it's childish and petty. I'd be mortified if I went on like that about a friend on MN, even if I was planning on not being friends anymore. To those who know them who read about this then I bet that they'll think the OP came off worse than the friend.

Btw in also looking at hir wraps, didnt know what one was before 😂

She just got married, I'm sure she had hundreds of not thousands in cash as wedding presents stop being so flake any pay your debts cheeky fucker

OP doesn't owe that "friend" any respect.

The friend invented lie after lie, in fact initially WAITED for the OP to contact HER about her item. Then invented convoluted nonsense, implicating INNOCENT hotel workers and trashing the hotel. LIED about travelling to the hotel, implicated her own new husband etc.

She is a total liar and deserves to be ridiculed.
Willing for other innocent people to take the blame and was happy for OP to either lose her item completely or accept an inferior piece of crap from ebay.

NOT a friend.

Good response. If all fails maybe the hacks at the daily mail will ‘out’ her. I am not advocating for this by the way.

I'm so invested in this...

Says more about your and the OPs personality though rather than anything else though. Not everyone turns really petty and childish and bitchy if they feel they've been wronged.

Mate, there’s no chance of you getting a Dyson. She’s a CF and a half, with zero intention of paying her dues. Sorry.

🍿 Interesting.
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I doubt it. As you can see by the almost wall-to-wall support for the OP and the disbelief at the CF's lies and actions, most people get pretty pissed off with liars and chancers who treat their friends like this.

Stop trying to suggest the OP has done something wrong here. The CF has created this mess herself, then lied and lied and lied.

But you know that.

And not everyone turns into a lying scumbag willing to throw everyone and his dog under the bus when they "accidentally damage something".

More mortified than the friend who outed herself as selfish and a liar?

Cool OK. Interesting moral compass.

what a horrid woman. I can just imagine the type of person she is.

You are better off without her. Even if you are left with no money and no Dyson, it’s a worthwhile lesson to get this woman out of your life for good before she causes any more damage/disrespect.

I have the Dyson Airwrap myself and honestly, it’s not all that. The way it’s getting loaned out to all and sundry here as if it’s a snazzy new car being test driven or something is odd. Do people really share hair products like this? I can’t imagine guilt tripping my sister over it on her wedding day. Is her entire family just really hard up or something?

The only thing to consider is IF the story is true it might be worth pushing to get your Airwrap back as it should still be in warranty and Dyson might give you a replacement.

This has got to go in the classics archive!

Very invested in this thread! I really don’t understand why leaving it in a hotel room is better than breaking it?! The result is the same - ‘replace the hair dryer!’.

I’m with those who think she sold it! And then thought you would just leave her off the hook.

I await the conclusion with baited breath!

No, that's just the MN crowd who think these kind of stories are the best ever and can't wait to hear any update.

In real life people don't tend to behave like that.

I guarantee the OP will cringe in a years time if someone she knew found her posts and read them to her

It seem a few people think I’m being petty, childlike and ‘piling on’ my friend. Of course you’re entitled to your opinion. You’ve only seen a snippet of the interactions but ultimately my friend massively took the p*ss out of me by telling lie after lie. She has form for being a bit of a rubbish friend so whilst some may feel that it’s a bad thing that I’ve been ‘goaded on’ by other mumsnetters, it’s actually been nice to have the backing and support of so many people when I can be a bit of a people pleaser at times. It’s given me the balls to be direct in my responses rather than allowing myself to be guilt tripped in to letting this go

I somehow missed this first two threads but just read up (only OP posts). How annoying for OP. I can understand why you'd lend it to her for her wedding but in my experience even people who seem trustworthy can let you down. She was so wrong to lend it to her sister. I really hope you get the money for a new one.

Re the hotel when I read thread 1 I was going to say it is possible the hotel messed up as I left an iPhone charger at a hotel last month. I know it was in the room as I saw it plugged in before I left the to (but thought DH would bring it after he finished charging his phone) and they couldn't find it later that day or two weeks later. If staff are willing to steal a charger then they're willing to steal an air wrap!

Obviously that's not what's happened to you.

There is something really distasteful about some of your posts,OP. I mean in relation to your believing your friend will likely have seen all of this and your assumption is that she will now make the decision not to pay. You have listened to strangers, rather than trusting in your friendship, and have been happy to accuse her of every awful thing possible in relation to this airwrap.

She did a stupid thing - she knows that. Maybe she tried to 'get away with it' but I think we can all agree, she's had her compuance in abudance. You got confirmation of how right you are in the first thread. Now it feels like you're just bashing her because you can, safe in the knowledge that the internet backs you. It makes me itch and it's bullying.

I hope she refunds you the money and as much as you feel the need to step back from the relationship because what might have happened, if she has seen these threads, she would be equally right to step back from you, regardless of how in the wrong she might have been. This is mumsnet at it's worst, I think. The pile on is horrible and is happening all the more because posters believe the woman concerned can see this.

With friends like you, who needs enemies, eh?

I think there is little chance of you getting anything tonight , hope I’m wrong