Should she replace it? Part 3

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I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also.

I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’

I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

OP you've done nothing wrong so please pay no attention to those piling on you. If your friend had initially apologised and explained she'd loaned it to her sister and it had broken then that would be very different from the lying and avoiding and trying to guilt you. You were a good friend in lending it to her. She's not being a good friend to you.

I genuinely couldn't be more disgusted at her behaviour. How appalling.

No one is criticising the assertiveness.
The assertiveness is great.

It's the behaviour on MN that is childish and petty.

It does rather seem that some sock-related activity seems to be prevailing

No love, definitely not.

@Pickledpoppetpickle no, with friends like you CF, who needs enemies

Don't leave it to her to make the replacement purchase, email you the receipt and send you the brand new item so it arrives undamaged.

She's unreliable and a liar.

Buy the replacement yourself and chase her for the money, small claims court if necessary.

It is a £500 product. Of course people are going to insist on getting it back. Who can write off £500!

Let's face it, the CF isn't going to have the guts to actually admit they're here

But you can hear the angry swish of her well groomed hair from here!!

Let's face it, the CF isn't going to have the guts to actually admit they're here

Unlikely!

Absolutely how its come across OP

Again, no one is telling her she was wrong to insist on getting it back.

It's the way she's going on on MN that people are criticising.
This shouldn't be difficult to understand.

I don’t believe the sister story either. I don’t think a glass of wine would cause that much damage and if it short circulated it, they’d still have the original to show you and potentially get repaired.

Here for it

I don't know what to bloody believe now!

What a load of shit. That did not happen. The biggest CF!

How has she had her comeuppance in abundance? All ‘her friend’ needed to do was the right thing and replace the item the OP kindly lent her. The only reason this has snowballed is her refusal to do the right and honest thing. The OP still does not have her hairdryer nor even a consistent or believable explanation as to why.

Actually, she was told to in thread 1!

Only one very, very few people. The OP has absolutely majority support for how she's handled it, and you know it.

That shouldn't be difficult to understand.

OP to lying friend:

Can you tell me honestly where the broken hairdryer is right now? As, it isn’t with the hotel, as you’d previously stated, hasn’t been stolen, as you’d previously stated, so I’m at a complete loss as to where this expensive paperweight actually is!?

Furthermore, does your sister realise she’s implicated in this mess that you created? Maybe I should reach out to her directly tonight to validate your claims, as it does appear that you’re more than capable of being very dishonest.

OP — I’ve now invested significant time in these threads, so please ensure your readers get good time value from
the remaining storyline to make it worth our while 😆

For me, trying to guilt you was the worst part of this. The lying I could almost get past because I imagine she was panicking and admitting she loaned it to her sister was too embarrassing (because that is super shitty behaviour). But the guilting you about the wedding memories - and the pathetic 150 second hand offer is just beyond the pale. I couldnt get past that.

People make mistakes and have accidents - it happens - but this isnt that. This is totally trying to take you for a mug. Stand firm. Nothing childish and petty about being assertive and standing your ground.

Yes majority support among a select group of people who live for this kind of thread.

In the real world many would think the OP came across very badly posting it all online.

I certainly hope no one is teaching their kids that this is how you handle issues with your friends even if you're cutting them out.
Assertiveness and advocating for yourself...all good.

Becoming ridiculously childish and petty says more about you than it does about the other person.

OP you are not being petty at all. You were very kind to lend your Dyson to the CF and in return you have been shat on from a great height. It is ridiculously obvious that CF and CF sister and have now discovered the thread and are suddenly commenting. Just completely ignore them, they are scumbag lowlifes. How anyone can lie to a friend in this way is beyond disgusting.

I am delighted you are politely asserting yourself OP. Too many people behave like doormats.