Page 16 | Should she replace it? Part 3

Langarg · 2025-01-02T19:09:05+00:00

I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also. I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’ I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly. I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

4forksache · 03/01/2025 01:21

Oops didn’t realise if you put a hashtag in front of your text it enlarges the text!

CoverMySoul · 03/01/2025 01:23

Needanewname42 · 03/01/2025 01:14

Given she's not got money to replace it, using debt or otherwise I actually think Op you'd be as well to ask for it back in whatever condition it's in and claim your own insurance for accidental damage.

If she doesn't return by tomorrow your reporting to police for a crime reference number so you can claim insurance for theft.

I think she's a silly bint for trying what she has tried but I don't think your going to get a penny out of her.
She probably knows the friendship is over so she has nothing left to loose.

Your just going to get more and more frustrated.

I agree. However, I suspect that if the OP asks for it back, the CF will tell her that it's been thrown away as it was 'broken.' In other words, she's flogged it, or is keeping it. Or you know, her estranged cousin accidentally flew a drone into it while blinded by an eclipse or something equally plausible. Maybe it's on a blue carpet again and no one can see it?

The police report/insurance/small claim route is the only thing that makes sense now.

Smineusername · 03/01/2025 01:30

Also 'carpet' is a euphemism for public hair and 'box' for female genitalia

Smineusername · 03/01/2025 01:32

Which also alters the meaning of 'blue'

Candy24 · 03/01/2025 01:36

that is so crappy of your friend. I can't believe she hasn't just offered to replace. Also not fair at all.

Candy24 · 03/01/2025 01:37

CoverMySoul · 03/01/2025 01:23

I agree. However, I suspect that if the OP asks for it back, the CF will tell her that it's been thrown away as it was 'broken.' In other words, she's flogged it, or is keeping it. Or you know, her estranged cousin accidentally flew a drone into it while blinded by an eclipse or something equally plausible. Maybe it's on a blue carpet again and no one can see it?

The police report/insurance/small claim route is the only thing that makes sense now.

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This thread makes me believe anything is true.....lol

Longsight2019 · 03/01/2025 01:50

Smineusername · 03/01/2025 00:22

Also just thinking about how she's needlessly drawing attention to the fact they were in the box, the colour of the box etc. There is some significance to that - boxes symbolise concealment, and also hiding or repressing feelings (specifically 'blue' feelings). The box also emphasise that the item is new/unused, which contrasts with the cheaper secondhand version she wanted to replace them with.

The story about the sister is a fiction, but what does the fiction tell you? The sister is a double for her, a mirror. What is interesting is how strongly the sister desires the hairdryer...how much she covets it. Much more than is rational. Who asks to borrow something that is already on a short term loan from someone else? I think the fact that wine is the culprit here is also significant - she has a problem with alcohol (3am text) and she is subconsciously blaming this mess on alcohol. The husband knows nothing about it - he 'didn't see' because it was 'in the box'. She also has problems with you because she left your birthday present to her on a bus. Subconsciously, she was rejecting it. She has longstanding anger and resentment towards you for some reason. That's also why you did not merit a wedding invite despite apparently being a close enough friend to ask a big favour of. That's why you dont deserve yhe nice new hairdryer but should have a cheap secondhand version. That's why she can't bring herself to offer reimbursement. She is punishing you for something. I think she's taken it because she wants it for herself, she was very jealous of you having it, for a long time, and I think she's now hidden it and is keeping it for herself. I don't think she necessarily knows herself why the fuck she has done this and may be in a bit of a crisis

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It seems we have Clarice Starling contributing now. 🐑

MelainesLaugh · 03/01/2025 02:06

With friends like that you don’t need enemies do you!

RogueFemale · 03/01/2025 02:41

Why is women stealing from women such a hot a popular topic?

Garlicnorth · 03/01/2025 03:09

RogueFemale · 03/01/2025 02:41

Why is women stealing from women such a hot a popular topic?

FFS, this isn't a thread about "women stealing" 🙄 It's the highly relatable story of somebody taking the piss out of a friend's generosity. In this case, it's about an extremely expensive hair-care appliance, most likely to be owned by women and to be stolen borrowed by a woman.

You can find threads about men misappropriating women's tech devices, money and cars if you're that hung up on the sex of thieves. Just ... not hairdryers.

buttonousmaximous · 03/01/2025 03:23

Yes this reminded me of the designer glasses thread. I think she got them back in the end.

RogueFemale · 03/01/2025 03:33

Garlicnorth · 03/01/2025 03:09

FFS, this isn't a thread about "women stealing" 🙄 It's the highly relatable story of somebody taking the piss out of a friend's generosity. In this case, it's about an extremely expensive hair-care appliance, most likely to be owned by women and to be stolen borrowed by a woman.

You can find threads about men misappropriating women's tech devices, money and cars if you're that hung up on the sex of thieves. Just ... not hairdryers.

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The relatable story of the friend taking the piss etc has been done to death in hundreds of posts. Three threads later, on such a relatively minor topic, I think it's okay to wonder why.

K0OLA1D · 03/01/2025 03:36

Got nothing to add. Just awaiting the next update. But good luck op

IridiumSky · 03/01/2025 03:45

I joined this forum during the holiday just for bit of fun, and because I always enjoy an intelligent exchange of views, and was told this sometimes happens here. 😀
What I didn't expect was, having told my wife this extraordinary story, to have to buy one of these ridiculous devices for her. I can confirm that it does indeed cost nearly five hundred quid for a bloody hairdryer which connects to a phone app! 😂
I grew up drying my hair in front of a three-bar electric fire. Maybe it's because I did not have access to an AirWrap that at the last party I attended my hair was as in the attached photo.
What I need to know is, will this marvellous contraption (after - following the protocol learned here - I permanently 'borrow' it from my wife) style my luscious locks?

whatsthpoint · 03/01/2025 04:01

Smineusername · 03/01/2025 00:22

Also just thinking about how she's needlessly drawing attention to the fact they were in the box, the colour of the box etc. There is some significance to that - boxes symbolise concealment, and also hiding or repressing feelings (specifically 'blue' feelings). The box also emphasise that the item is new/unused, which contrasts with the cheaper secondhand version she wanted to replace them with.

The story about the sister is a fiction, but what does the fiction tell you? The sister is a double for her, a mirror. What is interesting is how strongly the sister desires the hairdryer...how much she covets it. Much more than is rational. Who asks to borrow something that is already on a short term loan from someone else? I think the fact that wine is the culprit here is also significant - she has a problem with alcohol (3am text) and she is subconsciously blaming this mess on alcohol. The husband knows nothing about it - he 'didn't see' because it was 'in the box'. She also has problems with you because she left your birthday present to her on a bus. Subconsciously, she was rejecting it. She has longstanding anger and resentment towards you for some reason. That's also why you did not merit a wedding invite despite apparently being a close enough friend to ask a big favour of. That's why you dont deserve yhe nice new hairdryer but should have a cheap secondhand version. That's why she can't bring herself to offer reimbursement. She is punishing you for something. I think she's taken it because she wants it for herself, she was very jealous of you having it, for a long time, and I think she's now hidden it and is keeping it for herself. I don't think she necessarily knows herself why the fuck she has done this and may be in a bit of a crisis

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Absolutely psychotic post

whatsthpoint · 03/01/2025 04:01

Smineusername · 03/01/2025 01:30

Also 'carpet' is a euphemism for public hair and 'box' for female genitalia

Jesus

Vodkafairy99 · 03/01/2025 04:11

Ohmigod, still reading in NZ, this is hilarious and so infuriating all at once!
Clearly she is in the wrong, needs to replace it end of story. Those defending the person in the wrong.....ummm, what really 😂. I reckon you'd feel the same if it happened to you. Good luck getting replacement OP, ley us know when you have it! X

Garlicnorth · 03/01/2025 04:21

whatsthpoint · 03/01/2025 04:01

Jesus

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With this unconscious call to salvation, she's literally praying for a miracle to restore OP's hairdryer and their friendship. She can't see a way forward without divine intervention.

... If you're an amateur forensic psychologist with nothing better to do on a damp January evening 😏

Blueink · 03/01/2025 04:33

OP she has completely abused your kind nature.

Your gut feeling was telling you it was a bad idea to lend, but totally understand why you did in the circumstances.

Her manipulation tactics and lying are off the charts. She's now failing to respond.

Total lack of respect for you and your property, or anyone really, apart from herself (and her hair!)

I don't believe anything that comes out of her mouth, FWIW I regularly spill drinks on mine on it hasn't stopped working (I do think Dyson has a lot of hype and overprice their products so not especially a recommendation).

The best thing about this is you have seen her true colours and can get her out of your life.

Small claims is the reasonable course of action, don't let it drag on OP into next week, you will feel better to keep things moving rather than leave the ball in her court.

PerfectStorm00 · 03/01/2025 05:25

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 02/01/2025 19:11

Still following

You realise there is literally a button for this, right? No need to clog up the thread.

PerfectStorm00 · 03/01/2025 05:27

Buxomblondie · 02/01/2025 19:15

Placemarking

And another one! You realise there is a BIG PURPLE BUTTON for this EXACT purpose, right?
👀

thepariscrimefiles · 03/01/2025 05:56

kkloo · 02/01/2025 19:46

Amazing how so many of you came up with such an original comment all by yourselves at almost the exact same time 😂

I stand by it that it's childish and petty. I'd be mortified if I went on like that about a friend on MN, even if I was planning on not being friends anymore. To those who know them who read about this then I bet that they'll think the OP came off worse than the friend.

I don't understand why you think that OP's behaviour is worse than her friend's. Surely it was very kind of the OP to lend her friend such an expensive appliance so she could look nice at her wedding? There was nothing in it for OP apart from helping a friend as she wasn't invited to the wedding or any other celebrations.

The friend has actively lied to OP about what has happened to the Air Wrap, changing her story a few times, instead of immediately owning up and offering to pay for a new one.

Would you just shrug your shoulders and let it go? OP can't afford to buy a new one herself and she shouldn't have to.

Threads with such a blatant cheeky fucker tend to attract lots of comments and people get caught up in the story, hoping for a good outcome for the OP and for the CF to get their comeuppance. Maybe you should take your sanctimonious piety elsewhere.

thepariscrimefiles · 03/01/2025 06:19

kkloo · 02/01/2025 22:19

It doesn't say anything bad about me so I'll take that as a compliment.

Nothing wrong with thinking adults should behave like adults, sometimes adults do shitty things and people should then deal with that like adults, instead of regressing to acting like mean girls. I wouldn't have even acted like that as a teenager but it's clear some of you never grew out of it.

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You sound very self-congratulatory. As the saying goes, self praise is no recommendation.

You actually sound pretty mean yourself. The OP is in a stressful situation on her own while her 'friend' has her husband and her sister who all seem to be part of the conspiracy and the changing of the story about what happened to the Air Wrap. OP has no power here and if her friend refuses to replace the appliance, there really isn't much that OP can do about it. As they say 'no good deed goes unpunished'.

If this thread is not to your taste, why not just leave rather than scolding OP and other posters who are supporting her?

ThatRareUmberJoker · 03/01/2025 06:49

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IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 03/01/2025 07:06

Langarg · 02/01/2025 23:00

Oh I was invested in that thread too! Did we ever find out the outcome?

Thank you @ifIwerenotanandroid that’s true. I’m still in the same position as I was the day I posted this thread I suppose!

I’m not sure why but I feel quite reluctant with the threat of small claims. I will keep it up my sleeve as a last resort if this keeps dragging on though

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5087479-cf-allotment-thread-5-babs-beets-it

It got onto thread 5!

They got their allotment back in the end.

CF allotment thread 5 - Babs Beets it | Mumsnet

Thread no 4 here [[https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5071742-cf-allotment-thief-thread-no-4-babss-dodgy-solicitor-and-tv-producers-looking-to-cast-fo...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5087479-cf-allotment-thread-5-babs-beets-it