Page 17 | Should she replace it? Part 3

Langarg · 2025-01-02T19:09:05+00:00

I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also. I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’ I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly. I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

1dontunderstand · 03/01/2025 07:16

Hopefully she will just replace it and there will be no more drama, which is a shame for us who are invested 😁

FizzyBisto · 03/01/2025 07:18

Smineusername · 03/01/2025 00:22

Also just thinking about how she's needlessly drawing attention to the fact they were in the box, the colour of the box etc. There is some significance to that - boxes symbolise concealment, and also hiding or repressing feelings (specifically 'blue' feelings). The box also emphasise that the item is new/unused, which contrasts with the cheaper secondhand version she wanted to replace them with.

The story about the sister is a fiction, but what does the fiction tell you? The sister is a double for her, a mirror. What is interesting is how strongly the sister desires the hairdryer...how much she covets it. Much more than is rational. Who asks to borrow something that is already on a short term loan from someone else? I think the fact that wine is the culprit here is also significant - she has a problem with alcohol (3am text) and she is subconsciously blaming this mess on alcohol. The husband knows nothing about it - he 'didn't see' because it was 'in the box'. She also has problems with you because she left your birthday present to her on a bus. Subconsciously, she was rejecting it. She has longstanding anger and resentment towards you for some reason. That's also why you did not merit a wedding invite despite apparently being a close enough friend to ask a big favour of. That's why you dont deserve yhe nice new hairdryer but should have a cheap secondhand version. That's why she can't bring herself to offer reimbursement. She is punishing you for something. I think she's taken it because she wants it for herself, she was very jealous of you having it, for a long time, and I think she's now hidden it and is keeping it for herself. I don't think she necessarily knows herself why the fuck she has done this and may be in a bit of a crisis

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That sounds exactly like the thinking of the contestants on Deal Or No Deal.

"Yes, I realise that it's all completely random, but I just know that I was guided by the stars into wearing a blue blouse today; so that MUST mean that I have a low amount in my box. I feel like I know this for a fact - but let's all hold hands and hum, just to make sure of that fact."

LunaTheCat · 03/01/2025 07:27

Smineusername

omg! .. are you Miss Marple or a very good psychologist/forensic expert… well deduced!

Matronic6 · 03/01/2025 07:27

RogueFemale · 03/01/2025 03:33

The relatable story of the friend taking the piss etc has been done to death in hundreds of posts. Three threads later, on such a relatively minor topic, I think it's okay to wonder why.

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What do you mean the story has been 'done to death'?

This isn't a story sharing website. OP is posting about things that is happening she isn't making up content to be original.

OP herself hasn't posted an excessive amount of updates. There is three threads mostly down to people making redundant or unnecessary comments, like yours actually, to follow the thread for updates.

AngelicKaty · 03/01/2025 07:49

thegirlwithemousyhair · 02/01/2025 19:43

Agree. The whole thing is a nasty 'pile on'. The friend was probably mortified and didnt know what to do, panicked and got caught but its hardly a hanging offence....the op will get her money back. I would never have thought that so many people would become so invested in something so trivial in the grand scheme of things. Its ridiculous.

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Shouldn't you change your username to thegirlwithmousybutbeautifullystyledhairatafriend'sexpense? 😂

Custardslices · 03/01/2025 07:52

It's come to a conclusion really your not getting anything out of her. She will make up every excuse if it saves her money.

AngelicKaty · 03/01/2025 07:57

kkloo · 02/01/2025 19:36

She was cheeky but I personally wouldn't throw away a friendship over this, or even I didn't want to be friends anymore I wouldn't make this all the worse by posting everything on MN, you're coming across as very childish and petty here all for the sake of getting a little dopamine boost from some randoms on MN that you don't even know.

Are you the CF or the CF's sister? Or just a friend of theirs who bought their (broken) moral compass from the same shop? Oh no, wait, CFs don't spend money on anything they need/want - they just take it from other people and f*ck them over by not returning it. 🙄

MissTrip82 · 03/01/2025 07:59

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Itsgottobeme · 03/01/2025 08:03

I assume this woman was a friend. So couldn't be something totally evil. Even down to you lending hair product for her big day.
Sounds like she hasn't got money. She couldn't afford a hairdresser. And had a very very paired down wedding with just two witnesses.
She even said she can't afford it.
She broke something.shitty shitty. But shit happens. Should she have come forward. Yes yes yes.
But she was (as someone with no money to repay) probably beyond ashamed and embarrassed to admit she'd done it but then could never repay. Money brigs shame. Brings spiralling. I can see how this woman's thinking quickly went to pot.
She hasn't seemed malicious in any of this. Not compared to both the (rightly yes) angry op and replys.
But we all now know she a mmnsnetters. And to see 3 threads keeping shit and hating on you feels really off. One thread was the ops right of course. But then starting another and another with some repays being really really gross. Feels off.
And I can't imagine coming online and reading 10000s of messages all hating on me.

Dinomum79 · 03/01/2025 08:04

Sorry but you aren’t going to see it or a replacement from your friend. I think you should just order the one on offer and chalk it up to experience. Obviously you shouldn’t have to but I would be surprised if this ‘friend’ changed tact and eventually did the right thing. Good luck x

Tangerinenets · 03/01/2025 08:05

I don’t have a way to search (search icon disappeared a year ago 😂) so can someone link the first post?

LittleMosIron · 03/01/2025 08:05

Smineusername · 03/01/2025 00:22

Also just thinking about how she's needlessly drawing attention to the fact they were in the box, the colour of the box etc. There is some significance to that - boxes symbolise concealment, and also hiding or repressing feelings (specifically 'blue' feelings). The box also emphasise that the item is new/unused, which contrasts with the cheaper secondhand version she wanted to replace them with.

The story about the sister is a fiction, but what does the fiction tell you? The sister is a double for her, a mirror. What is interesting is how strongly the sister desires the hairdryer...how much she covets it. Much more than is rational. Who asks to borrow something that is already on a short term loan from someone else? I think the fact that wine is the culprit here is also significant - she has a problem with alcohol (3am text) and she is subconsciously blaming this mess on alcohol. The husband knows nothing about it - he 'didn't see' because it was 'in the box'. She also has problems with you because she left your birthday present to her on a bus. Subconsciously, she was rejecting it. She has longstanding anger and resentment towards you for some reason. That's also why you did not merit a wedding invite despite apparently being a close enough friend to ask a big favour of. That's why you dont deserve yhe nice new hairdryer but should have a cheap secondhand version. That's why she can't bring herself to offer reimbursement. She is punishing you for something. I think she's taken it because she wants it for herself, she was very jealous of you having it, for a long time, and I think she's now hidden it and is keeping it for herself. I don't think she necessarily knows herself why the fuck she has done this and may be in a bit of a crisis

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Did thieving friends tea leaves come to you in a dream?

It's rare I read a post that starts off utterly crackers and ends with a reasonable conclusion.
Usually it's the other way round.

AngelicKaty · 03/01/2025 08:06

kkloo · 02/01/2025 19:46

Amazing how so many of you came up with such an original comment all by yourselves at almost the exact same time 😂

I stand by it that it's childish and petty. I'd be mortified if I went on like that about a friend on MN, even if I was planning on not being friends anymore. To those who know them who read about this then I bet that they'll think the OP came off worse than the friend.

More mortified than borrowing an expensive possession from a friend, not returning it, not giving a shit about not returning it, offering to buy a second-hand inferior model, and lying and lying and lying - and lying some more - about the whole situation? Then you're as big a piece of work as the CF. Shame on you.

AngelicKaty · 03/01/2025 08:08

kkloo · 02/01/2025 19:51

Says more about your and the OPs personality though rather than anything else though. Not everyone turns really petty and childish and bitchy if they feel they've been wronged.

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No, it doesn't. Your support for the CF speaks volumes though. Your parents must be so proud.

Teanbiscuits33 · 03/01/2025 08:10

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Recording phone calls was more of an unusual approach, granted, but there was absolutely nothing wrong with the messages - they were polite and to the point, conveying clear expectations. Just because she wouldn’t normally send them it doesn’t negate the fact they were fine to send.

Equally, I have no idea why you think phoning the hotel to enquire about her own property after friend was giving her the run around (which she was correct to assume the friend lied, I hasten to point out) is unhinged. I think you have some strange ideas about what constitutes unhinged, to be honest.

ForSparklyLemonLurker · 03/01/2025 08:10

Blimey she's got more neck than e.t to keep this going.

somanyspottydogs · 03/01/2025 08:11

Sorry if this has already been said ( don’t know how/if you can search within a post?) but this turned up on Bored Panda on my FB this morning

LeticiaMorales · 03/01/2025 08:14

somanyspottydogs · 03/01/2025 08:11

Sorry if this has already been said ( don’t know how/if you can search within a post?) but this turned up on Bored Panda on my FB this morning

Yes, someone has done a screenshot upthread.

mummabubs · 03/01/2025 08:19

Please tell me I'm not the only one who just saw this post in the Chat thread about disappointing Christmas/New Year purchases and immediately felt giddy!!!!
(Genuine apologies to that poster if this was an un-related Dyson airwrap borrow wine spill incident).

Angrywife · 03/01/2025 08:21

Worrying thing is you won't know which of these scenarios you've been given is the truth, if indeed any of them are!
Really hope you get your property replaced and can put the situation to bed once and for all, how ridiculous to have to go through this with a so called friend.

AngelicKaty · 03/01/2025 08:22

Pickledpoppetpickle · 02/01/2025 19:55

There is something really distasteful about some of your posts,OP. I mean in relation to your believing your friend will likely have seen all of this and your assumption is that she will now make the decision not to pay. You have listened to strangers, rather than trusting in your friendship, and have been happy to accuse her of every awful thing possible in relation to this airwrap.

She did a stupid thing - she knows that. Maybe she tried to 'get away with it' but I think we can all agree, she's had her compuance in abudance. You got confirmation of how right you are in the first thread. Now it feels like you're just bashing her because you can, safe in the knowledge that the internet backs you. It makes me itch and it's bullying.

I hope she refunds you the money and as much as you feel the need to step back from the relationship because what might have happened, if she has seen these threads, she would be equally right to step back from you, regardless of how in the wrong she might have been. This is mumsnet at it's worst, I think. The pile on is horrible and is happening all the more because posters believe the woman concerned can see this.

With friends like you, who needs enemies, eh?

Unbelievable post.
"... and your assumption is that she will now make the decision not to pay." It's already been more than two weeks since the CF's wedding and she's showing NO signs of paying - quite the opposite - she's just compounding her lies to continue to weasel out of her responsibility.
"She did a stupid thing - she knows that." How do you know she knows that? And if she has suddenly developed a conscience, why hasn't she ordered OP a like-for-like replacement? Why is she STILL stalling?
OP has done nothing wrong and should be made whole IMMEDIATELY by her CF "friend" - the CF doesn't know the meaning of the word - she's a user and a leech. OP will be well rid of her worthless friendship.

hotandpermi · 03/01/2025 08:25

mummabubs · 03/01/2025 08:19

Please tell me I'm not the only one who just saw this post in the Chat thread about disappointing Christmas/New Year purchases and immediately felt giddy!!!!
(Genuine apologies to that poster if this was an un-related Dyson airwrap borrow wine spill incident).

Oh this is interesting- when was it posted ?

AngelicKaty · 03/01/2025 08:29

kkloo · 02/01/2025 19:55

No, that's just the MN crowd who think these kind of stories are the best ever and can't wait to hear any update.

In real life people don't tend to behave like that.

I guarantee the OP will cringe in a years time if someone she knew found her posts and read them to her

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No, she won't. Decent people will always be horrified by the CF's lies and lack of personal responsibility. They will also be horrified to realise that people like the CF do exist in real life (fortunately, in the minority, as most of us have been brought up with good morals - unlike CF).

PotterHead1985 · 03/01/2025 08:29

mummabubs · 03/01/2025 08:19

Please tell me I'm not the only one who just saw this post in the Chat thread about disappointing Christmas/New Year purchases and immediately felt giddy!!!!
(Genuine apologies to that poster if this was an un-related Dyson airwrap borrow wine spill incident).

Haha I saw that and was 👀

Didimum · 03/01/2025 08:31

mummabubs · 03/01/2025 08:19

Please tell me I'm not the only one who just saw this post in the Chat thread about disappointing Christmas/New Year purchases and immediately felt giddy!!!!
(Genuine apologies to that poster if this was an un-related Dyson airwrap borrow wine spill incident).

The OP (I think) referred to the airwrap as a ‘glorified paperweight’ earlier on.