Should she replace it? Part 3

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I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also.

I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’

I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

Thank you! 💐

Buffs · Today 23:12

kkloo · Today 19:36
She was cheeky but I personally wouldn't throw away a friendship over this, or even I didn't want to be friends anymore I wouldn't make this all the worse by posting everything on MN, you're coming across as very childish and petty here all for the sake of getting a little dopamine boost from some randoms on MN that you don't even know.

You are either the CF, haven’t read the post properly or have the most bizarre idea of friendship.

Definitely agree with @Buffs - wonder which of the three options it is, or maybe a fourth - troll?

So, you prefer your friends to be guilt-tripping liars?

Not to mention thieves

Lets see what excuse tomorrow brings….. she will hopefully have a bad nights sleep tossing and turning with her conscience. Bet her new husband doesn’t know yet 🤭

Wait, what do you mean the allotment wasn't an allotment?!?

Ooh i thought that thread was all done and dusted! I was invested in that one with Babs!

There's no way this woman lent that hairdryer to anyone. Not a chance. She has far too much of a brass neck to give up something she wants just because someone else asked for it. That's just not how she operates, she would say no with no qualms.

So why is she bringing the sister into it now? There's a grain of truth in there somewhere. Either she's sold them and the sister was the buyer, or as a pp suggested she's given them to the sister to pay off a debt. So subconsciously she is 'blaming' the sister and also subconsciously she is giving you the keys to the truth, because liars always want to be gound out, subconsciously. The sister is the key. My initial idea was to speak directly to the husband or sister and I still think that will work

I missed that one. Now, if only our OP had read it ...

OP, I wouldn't go to her house, as some have recomended. She could claim anything happened - that you bullied harassed, threatened her... not worth it. Keep everything factual and with evidence.

If she hasn't replied by noon tomorrow, ask for her to ensure £400 is in your account by X date, and explain that you'll need to invoice the police and small-claims otherwise. Be calm and factual in your correspondence. And if you don't get the money by X date, I guess you'll need to exactly that.

I think what the bride ends up doing will hang on the reaction of her new husband (if her story is even true... and who knows).

And ignore the (tiny handful) of posters who are calling you petty. This piece of equipment cost you HALF A GRAND. And she's lied to you. It's ridiculous to suggest that that's petty - and those posters are either the bride/her friends, or can somehow afford to chuck away half a grand on a liar and not care about it 🤨

Have to say I’m getting a bit bored of this thread now and can’t help but feel it’s Dyson advertising their airwraps.

(was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣)

Wait.... you let your airwrap to a FRIEND and you weren't even invited to the wedding?!?? Did I read that right? You never thought to query why you weren't invited? Why someone had the chutzpah to ask to borrow an expensive item of yours but not even invite you? Is this for real?

Because allegedly there were only 2 witnesses in attendance... not a party of any sort. So she says. Who knows at this point!

I'll tell you why she has to let the CF off, it's because she has no way of enforcing the debt.
I'd be as mad a a swarm of wasps if I was the OP but short of going round mob handed, what can she do?
CF types are accomplished in their slippery ways

Also just thinking about how she's needlessly drawing attention to the fact they were in the box, the colour of the box etc. There is some significance to that - boxes symbolise concealment, and also hiding or repressing feelings (specifically 'blue' feelings). The box also emphasise that the item is new/unused, which contrasts with the cheaper secondhand version she wanted to replace them with.

The story about the sister is a fiction, but what does the fiction tell you? The sister is a double for her, a mirror. What is interesting is how strongly the sister desires the hairdryer...how much she covets it. Much more than is rational. Who asks to borrow something that is already on a short term loan from someone else? I think the fact that wine is the culprit here is also significant - she has a problem with alcohol (3am text) and she is subconsciously blaming this mess on alcohol. The husband knows nothing about it - he 'didn't see' because it was 'in the box'. She also has problems with you because she left your birthday present to her on a bus. Subconsciously, she was rejecting it. She has longstanding anger and resentment towards you for some reason. That's also why you did not merit a wedding invite despite apparently being a close enough friend to ask a big favour of. That's why you dont deserve yhe nice new hairdryer but should have a cheap secondhand version. That's why she can't bring herself to offer reimbursement. She is punishing you for something. I think she's taken it because she wants it for herself, she was very jealous of you having it, for a long time, and I think she's now hidden it and is keeping it for herself. I don't think she necessarily knows herself why the fuck she has done this and may be in a bit of a crisis

How anyone can be so trashy is beyond me.

Good text to her.

My favourite cheeky thread was Mexican house thief!

Well I know what I would be doing. If she didn't cough up £400 by tomorrow I would be finding a way to cost her some money. She mentioned her husband didn't want to drive to the hotel because of a weather warning. So he clearly has a car. Would be such a shame if that got damaged and they had to spend money on repairs now wouldn't it

Expose yourself to a criminal damage charge? I mean I get that you'd feel like it but surely you'd not go through with it?

Why would you damage the husband’s car to punish the friend?

How would they know who it was or prove it? Just like the op can't prove or know for sure what happened to her airwrap. Payback is a bitch

Well it's unfair but they are married now so shared finances, what's his is hers and hers is his and if it affects his money it will affect her too. Obviously if there is a way to directly cost her money without doing something to him that would be better but what of hers would be as easily accessible as a car? Plus as others have said he could be aa dodgy as her and in on it too who knows?

Given she's not got money to replace it, using debt or otherwise I actually think Op you'd be as well to ask for it back in whatever condition it's in and claim your own insurance for accidental damage.

If she doesn't return by tomorrow your reporting to police for a crime reference number so you can claim insurance for theft.

I think she's a silly bint for trying what she has tried but I don't think your going to get a penny out of her.
She probably knows the friendship is over so she has nothing left to loose.

Your just going to get more and more frustrated.

Tell her to hurry up or she’ll miss the boat with the boots offer. It’ll either end or they’ll sell out.

unfortunately know this through bitter experience when trying to buy something different!