Should she replace it? Part 3

[Langarg]

I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also.

I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’

I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

Seriously, how dare she borrow your air wrap and then come up with lie after lie about where it's gone. Now using his sister as a scapegoat? Not buying it for one minute. I would be driving to her house at this point and demanding the money back.

You think?

I dont see how lying helps at all. If you accidentally damage or lose something or you loan it to someone else and they break it you still have to replace it. Thats how it works socially. No one is going to let you off £500, and why should they? I understand not being able to afford it and being gutted, I also understand not fessing up originally about loaning it to the sister. I dont see how lying gets you out of refunding or replacing though???

Trying to make sense of kkloo and pickled poppies posts has made my head hurt 🤔🤥

What was it if not an allotment? 😮

Small claims is straightforward - lots of information on line about it to reassure you. It's administrative rather than anything else.

I agree with pps - report to the police anyway, even if they don't take any action, you are simply reporting a theft. They can log it and file it. Who knows? Maybe it won't be the first strike against her? She might already have been reported previously?

And I would possibly keep your cards close to your chest about how you do proceed from here, OP. I think it's very likely that the CF has joined us here on the thread.

She did come back, she had surgery and then was temporarily banned because of a political thread she was on (she was being fine, just arguing with some right wing loons). Babs eventually cleared off with a letter from a solicitor and when the previous plot owner washed her hands off it 😮‍💨

You are either the CF, haven’t read the post properly or have the most bizarre idea of friendship.

I would have her arse in small claims court faster than you could re-read all three threads of this drama.

That’s what I’d do. And I’d sue her for any court fees and emotional distress too, goddammit.

£500 oughta do it.

It’s the only way you can signal that you’re serious about this. I bet she’s still expecting it will blow over. You need to get official. If you do nothing, she’s got enough cheek and entitlement that you won’t get it back and she will block you and hope you’ll go away. If she’s legally required to pay then she can’t get out of it. Why should she?

@Langarg

You haven't been in the least bit unreasonable - your so called friend has been an absolute b!tch.

Don't let it go - keep calling her. Why should you be out of pocket? How dare she be so rude & unreasonable?

How’s this for a whole new level of cheeky fuckery - someone has token our allotment! | Mumsnet

Enjoy!

And the thread where a ‘friend’/thief stole some reading glasses…worth £300!

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5121746-to-want-my-glasses-back

Personally, there's no way I could confidently guarantee how OP will react about this or anything in the future - or would even try to - as I don't know her.

Do you know her in some capacity, perchance?

I wonder if she planned to pilfer it from the get-go, and if not at which point did she decide that she would?

I wonder if she told her sister that she had "taken the shine off her wedding"?

Friend shouldn't have lied but maybe she panicked and hasn't got the money to replace it right now and maybe can't access Klarna due to a poor credit score?

Shamelessly following for updates!

I'm reflecting how she could easily have caused someone to lose their job at the hotel! The breakage story sounds even less likely... I'd be asking for the damaged item back... With the suggestion that you have accidental damage cover on items taken from the home... Or that you might be able to get it repaired.

I truly hope they cough up the money. I know my DH would be horrified if he was involved in something like this. You have to wonder what he's been told and what he thinks.

This would make quite the ad. Bride likes it so much she steals it, then sister takes it and lies about damage, who knows where this thing will end up?

In the first thread the OP posted, the CFker friend said that she could (but didn't want to) put it on her credit card as she would be in debt (which is how credit cards work - by putting the named holder into debt).

The CFker friend is really pushing the boundaries of what is even acceptable as a CFker friend.

I agree with whoever up thread suggested that a visit to her house when her new DH is in might be the next step open to you @Langarg and while you're there you could drop into conversation how reluctant you have been so far in going the legal route as you were about to contact the police and get the hotel in to a whole heap of trouble and you were also considering (and still are) going the Small Claims Court route but it could be all resolved ever so quickly if she had just been honest from the start and transferred the money to you. I mean it takes only seconds with money transfers online - and you wouldn't be dragging this into 2025 and it could so easily have been left in 2024 as CFker friend wanted.

The OH could be just as grubby as his delightful new wife, though? He could have been sniggering along at how 'clever' they are to nick stuff from friends?

God knows. I mean, I agree, my DH would be rightly appalled if I did anything like that, but then we're married because we align with each other's views on moral codes/ethical behaviour etc.

Maybe CF married someone who aligns with hers: stealing and lying is 👌

I still don't think OP has heard the true story from her. She is a lying liar, and remarkably shameless. All very odd.

Waste of time and brain cells.

Oh no! Sorry this happened to you

Indeed, like trying to untangle a messy knot of old Christmas lights.