Should she replace it? Part 3

[Langarg]

I can’t believe we have a part 3 🤣 this has provided some lighthearted entertainment at a time where I’m feeling really let down by someone I considered a good friend. So thank you! I have posted an update on thread 2, will post it here also.

I have sent the following text message ‘Having reflected on what you have said, how the airwrap was lost/broken or otherwise is irrelevant. I considered asking you for pictures of the broken airwrap or asking to speak to your sister to ask her what happened but it will get us nowhere. All that matters is I am down a Dyson airwrap and I want a new replacement. You’ll need to either transfer me the £399 tonight to pay for this or purchase it yourself from boots and send me the email receipt this evening. You can then sort out with your sister whether she is going to contribute to the cost of it. We can then put this behind us’

I have no interest in maintaining the friendship after this for obvious reasons. I am worried that she’s seen the thread (how can she not have 🤣) and knows this fine well so will have no intention of replacing it sadly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get the truth (was there even a wedding at this rate?! 🤣) all that matters to me now is getting a replacement airwrap!!!!

Seeing all of this written out helps me to see I’ve not been unreasonable in my approach to this, thank you!

I’ve still had no response and I’m going through the motions of feeling angry that I was lied to, upset that she’s taken the p*ss out of me, worried that I’ve been unreasonable in my approach, flabbergasted that this has even happened and fed up that it’s gone on for so long!

I don’t want to get myself too caught up in whether it being broken is true, I’ll likely never know the truth. What I do know though is that I no longer have my airwrap and getting it back (or a replacement) is seeming less and less likely as time goes on unfortunately. Before tonight’s phone call I actually had hope that it would miraculously reappear!

On this forum there’s always posters who bend over backwards to make the OP seem in the wrong, no matter what.

You haven’t embarrassed anyone here, your friend has embarrassed herself with her own actions and should be thoroughly ashamed of herself. Who even treats their friends in this manner? I hope she re-evaluates her whole attitude after this.

Out of interest, I’m genuinely curious, how would you deal with this situation if you were in my shoes?

From what I hear, the money claim online process is fairly straightforward. You can find letter before action templates online too.

OP, when I had a situation with a friend refusing to return money to me, the only that worked was me unexpectedly visiting her house. Somehow seeing me ask in person shamed her into transferring the money that night.

Add to the list the fact that she loaned it out to her "sister" without your permission, as it doesn't even belong to her in the first place!

OP, have you asked your friend whether this was covered by her own or her sister's insurance?

I think now you need to pay her a visit, when the husband is in too!! Lay it out plain and simple and none of her excuse.
' so friend do you intend on replacing my ait wrap or fobbing me off?'

I'm so sorry OP. Aside from everything else, this awful woman is really putting you through it and stealing your peace of mind as well as your Airwrap!

You know you can't trust her at all. I truly hope you cut her off and raise a small claim against her.

It's up to her to name her sister as another party - although all of that is likely to be BS anyway. You have no knowledge of any of the 'wine broke my hairdryer crap' other than what she says, and it's likely to be more lies.

OP I wouldnt visit her, or have any phonecalls. You need written evidence now. You also dont want to get embroiled in any more bullshit. I think you are sensing that there is more excuses to come and its somehow going to become your problem. 'Oh sister has broken it and can only pay x amount, and hubby says we arent liable, and maybe we can pay 30 per cent and she will pay rest, but we are discussing that, but she has to wait for payday and on and on and on....' None of that shit matters. If you go face to face or phone, then you run the risk of the resolution becoming your problem. No its hers. No excuses.

Personally I wouldnt bother and just go small claims court now. The time for discussion is well and truly past.

This. I think the CF family have joined mumsnet and are the ones posting about mean girls etc. Wise up. OP deserves replacement. "Friend' has behaved appallingly. End of.

She may not know randoms on mumsnet but she certainly didn’t know her real friend that well it seems , although she did know she has form for certain behaviour. She was kind enough to still lend it and has received nothing but lies and deceit. Without trust there can be no friendship. If you are desperate for friends you do you . Hope she gets more than a dopamine boost and gets a hairdryer exactly like her original.

Don't give up yet OP. You're not in any worse a position than you were before. You don't have your airwrap & your 'friend' owes you the money for it. It's been that way for a while. There's nothing you can do to put that right tonight, so don't worry about it needlessly. Tomorrow is another day, & all that.

I can't help wondering though... Have you seen any pictures of the wedding?

I'm really sorry this has happened to you @Langarg. (But I also have to thank you for posting as this is the most invested I've been in a MN thread for ages).

I think in your position I could maybe have forgiven the friend lending it to her sister (although I'd have still been wicked annoyed); but it's the lengths she went to in lying - repeatedly and potentially putting members of staff in the hotel under scrutiny when you called them to ask based on her completely made-up story.

Well done for asserting yourself and I think we're all cheering you on to get your new replacement asap x

Best thread since Babs and the stolen allotment (that wasn't an allotment).

Yes! That was a favourite of mine too 😍

Mine too! Whatever happened with that? Anyone got a link? It was batshit.

@bigkahunaburger

It's likely she lied because she doesn't have £400 to replace it. She's panicked and tried to buy time.
If she was better off this thread wouldn't exist would it. She'd have just apologised and bought Op a new one.

Unless the Op actually thinks the friend has intentionally nicked it all the lies are byproducts of being skint rather than a deliberate attempt to defraud the Op.

Sadly I think this will drag on unless Op does threaten small claims. The prospect of a bigger bill might spur her on.

Oh I was invested in that thread too! Did we ever find out the outcome?

Thank you @ifIwerenotanandroid that’s true. I’m still in the same position as I was the day I posted this thread I suppose!

I’m not sure why but I feel quite reluctant with the threat of small claims. I will keep it up my sleeve as a last resort if this keeps dragging on though

Here for the ride & hoping for a good outcome!

I wouldn’t bother with small claims court, If she has borrowed an item and not returned its theft. You should report her to the police. You have evidence - telephone recording, email or texts that you lent it to her and she had not returned it. Especially if there is a changing story.
I would say if you don’t give me the money to replace it I will be going to the police.

Try this @Langarg (maybe taking a partner or friend along with you) and if that fails send the pre-action letter before going to small claims court. She probably won't be expecting that.

You are NOT being unreasonable. Do not think for one moment that you are. You lent an expensive piece of equipment to your so called friend in good faith. You had every right to expect it to be returned to you straight after the wedding, in the same condition it was in when you lent it to her.

This woman is a liar, wholly untrustworthy and a shameless bitch. She has betrayed you. Vile horrible woman.

It took her that long to come up with the biggest crock of shit I've ever heard in my life. Does she really undermine your intelligence to this degree? Every update I think she can't get any worse.

The OP disappeared, so we'll never know!

Unfortunately it does not clear the evidence bar for theft, as the OP cannot prove there was an intention to permanently deprive her of the property. The only thing she can prove is that it hasn’t been returned for convoluted reasons. Breaking something isn’t theft.