DP only wants to eat luxury food but doesn’t bring a luxury wage?

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Stargreystar · 02/01/2025 00:20

I earn well, 6 figures and my DP is a tradie earning circa 30k a year.

He seems to think just because I earn well he should only eat luxury food from m&s. We are not married yet but he discussed getting a ‘pre-op‘ which I can only assume means a prenup. However he has no assets or money so it’s merely to give him what I’ve earned.

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ForeverTipsy · 27/02/2025 17:06

Elsvieta · 26/02/2025 21:40

No. It was a while back so I forget the guy's name now, but there was an article once that I've always remembered about some psychologist who'd spent years counselling couples and making a study over years of the signs of relationships that fail and the gist of it was that it's the one thing relationships don't recover from. When couples are showing open contempt for each other, divorce almost always follows. I think he could predict it with 98% accuracy or something like that. Your contempt for him is obvious, and he's not even trying to hide his contempt for you.

Why would you WANT to "work past it"? He sounds appalling. Ditch him now, or do it a few years down the line and lose half of everything you've worked for. (And maybe custody of the kids, if he's been the SAHP). Wise up.

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@Elsvieta Dr John Gottman at the Gottman Institute. Article here on contempt being the worst of his Four Horses of the Apocalypse

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