To sleep with a 25 year old

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I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

@StarlightLady it's the exact same thing though, accept the fact other people have different opinions without saying their jealous or mysoginistic ???? You are right, I don't know how it feels to be in your 40's, but I do know I would not consider sleeping with a 25 year old man? That's not a a thing that changes with age, that is your beliefs and I have said before, I would say the exact same thing if this was a 40 plus year old man asking if it was acceptable to sleep with a 25 year old woman

Do you think it's likely the 25 year old would want to shag you?

Do you think it's likely the 25 year old would want to shag you?

Yes.

I'm sure there are some similarly-deluded 70-year-olds out there!

That's because you're already in a relationship-you might find there aren't that many single men about your own age (or interested in a woman the same age) if you become single again. I don't think I'd be interested in a 25 year old either as my preference is the same age or older, but there aren't that many in that age bracket single.

@Firefly1987 I understand what you are saying but if I were to find myself single again later down the line, in my 40's, I'm just saying personally I would not sleep with a 25 year old man, there may not be many men of the same age, but surely you will find someone for you at some point if finding someone is what you want. I just wouldn't want to be the talk of the town for being late 40's sleeping with a 25 year old because more often than not, anytime something like that has happened, being from a small town, everyone hears about it as the man usually has been telling people and more than likely having a laugh about it

What a refreshing update, he sounds really mature. It’s like Aaron Johnson and his wife, clearly meant to be! I’d like to think you’ll keep randomly meeting and eventually give in to temptation! Some people are just made for each other.

When I was single at 30 I refused anyone under 25 because just felt skeezy to me. Too young. Too inexperienced. I don’t teach.

I imagine by 40 I will still hold this viewpoint. I will say, 25 is at least a fully formed adult. Any younger and I would call it very creepy. I agree with PP that sex isn’t hard to come by and shitting on your doorstep is never a good idea.

This, 100% agree

I slept with a 21yo on my 41st birthday. He wanted to meet up again but it was a one night only deal for me.

What could possibly go wrong shagging a man half your age who lives six doors away.

I agree with the first part of your post. But there is a huge difference between inviting someone to have sex with you in the privacy of your home and shitting on your doorstep.

Not if this man is a neighbour who lives, what was it - 3 doors down from OP? It’s like sleeping with someone in your work place. These things have a funny way of trickling into the world outside the bedroom, especially when they are quite literally on your doorstep in real life. OP might be happy to keep it to one and done bedroom shenanigans but she cannot guarantee this very young man is as care and drama free as herself.

Go and have fun, I have a 26yo FWB and I'm 46. It's a bit of fun while he's single, I'm not expecting anything from it longterm, but it's great while it lasts (though I've just read he lives close by...mine is 30 miles away so it is easier in that respect)

I posed the question to my recently turned 27 year old. He said it’s odd that he wants to sleep with someone so much older. Unless he’s not able to click with his age group or he has a fetish. There’s always someone different than the norm and he’s an adult. It’s up to you but suffice to say I’m glad it’s not my son.

Go for it Op

The only people who will judge you are the type of people who have been calling you on this thread and I would not want to give them the time of day anyway. And I don’t mean the posters that are saying exercise caution or that they wouldn’t do it. I am talking about the pearl clutching, name calling, judgemental (and possibly a bit jealous) prudes that have come out in force on this thread.

i can’t believe that in this day and age a women would actually refer to another women as a “skank” or call her “morally repugnant” for considering sleeping with a guy who is younger then her. My goodness you hear about these sort of age gaps every day. It’s nothing new.

Also you won’t be the talk of the town, for goodness sake you might get the odd comment or people mentioning it to each other but the talk of the town!!!!! People have other things to worry about. They wont be banging on the door demanding you wear a red A.