To sleep with a 25 year old

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I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

Grim

I mean I wouldn't because I'm 45 and my son (and his mates) are 21, so to me it does seem a bit icky.

But I guess youre both adults...... I can see how it would be an ego boost.

He has his own place

Oh just go and have a little fun and see how it pans out.

I had this conversation with a friend of mine that has a son that's 20 amd she said no judgement also he's a grown man. However she couldn't do it as close to her sons age.

I couldn't.
I'm 45, I'm not sure I could sleep with someone closer to my kids age than mine.

It'd be sleazy and creepy if a dad shagged someone not much older than their own kid, so it'd be equally sleazy and creepy if I did.

They always say on your deathbed u regret the things u didn’t do - nit what u did do!

I was in a similar situation a “while” ago with a friend she was 50 and a 39 year old starting chatting her up, she actually had a laugh that night with him, and then the following day was still extremely chuffed with herself she could pull something as good looking and funny as him!

She was down the leisure centre booking herself in for the “7am daily over 50s ladies six weeker” with a swim after!

They took it slowly, and they are still together “a good while later”

I once had a brief thing with a 22 year old when I was 36. It was so awkward! I mean, he was an Adonis of a man but he couldn’t perform and afterwards it all felt so wrong. I may have thought differently if the sex had been worthwhile.

The fact he lives so close would put me off too. What f he turns into a needy pain in the ass who knocks on the door all the time?

I believe the cast-iron moral standard is ‘half your age minus seven’, meaning he just scrapes in as fair game.

I’d be more concerned about a short term fling with a neighbour, but maybe I embarrass easily.

Ok this is interesting, I feel it could go awkward too if things don't go well in the bedroom. I doubt he would become a pain turning up at my door as he has a local business so I doubt he would want a bad reputation

I don't agree with your friends, a lot of people would view it as more predatory if you were the man.

It's not morally wrong for two single adults to consensually have sex. If you fancy him and he fancies you then go for it.

As I'm sure you already know it's best to just keep it light and casual at this point. No strings sex might be fun for you both. As long as you don't think it will cause drama if and when you (or him) make it clear its just a bit of fun.

I'm in my mid 40s and if I was single and a man 20 years younger I fancied seemed keen I think I'd just go for it. You won't really lose out other than if he's a crap shag and then you just don't need to bother again.

Go and have fun

I couldn't. The thought of being the known as the horny oulde one in the village shagging men in their 20s would really put me off.

It may not bother you but to me, even if I would consider someone so young (unlikely), it's far too close to home.

Yeah I’m a hypocrite because I’d find this creepy the other way around but think it’s fine to be Mrs Robinson. I guess because young women are subject to much more exploitation in general.

Crack on and report back!

Ha! A mid-40s man in bed is nothing like a mid-20s man in bed.

I reckon anyone over 25 is fair game, no matter the +age of their physical companion.

If your daughter of 25 slept with someone of 43 how would you feel?
He's old enough to be your child.
Yuk

It wouldn't be any of my business if she was 25. I'd be more concerned about how she was treated and if he was nice to her and she was safe

It's not the age-gap it's that he only lives 6 doors away! 😱

11 years difference in age is different to 18 years difference

😂 yes this is a little off putting. However we are both very busy people , we rarely bump into each other

Sounds like you're going to do it regardless and didn't really want to take note of opinions. Gross 🤢

That's not true at all. I'm valuing all the opinions given and I'm actually learning towards not going ahead with it.

Just be aware that to him you are very old and it may well be some kind of challenge he has set himself to be with a person of your age. If you don't mind that, then I personally no reason not to