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To sleep with a 25 year old

568 replies

Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 20:28

I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

OP posts:
wizzywig · 01/01/2025 20:29

Go have fun!!! But don't get hung up incase it's a one night thing.

OnlyYellowRoses · 01/01/2025 20:30

Better to regret the things you did than the things that you didn't......

Wanderdust · 01/01/2025 20:30

Just do it, he's not underage! Have fun. As long as you're both on the same page, why not?

Fancytrike · 01/01/2025 20:30

The only reason not to do this is he lives so close and you’ll see him all the time. If that’s fine, it’s fine.

I would.

chanipumpkin · 01/01/2025 20:30

The saying don't shit where you eat comes to mind...

JMSA · 01/01/2025 20:31

It is most definitely NOT morally wrong but eeek, he's only a few doors along! Grin

Onlyvisiting · 01/01/2025 20:31

Don't do it unless you are positive he also thinks its only a physical thing.
And TBH, I wouldn't do it then either, heard the phrase don't sh*t on your own doorstep? Or in your case, 6 doors down........

OurDreamLife · 01/01/2025 20:32

I wouldn’t. It will be the butt of his mates banter.

Fancytrike · 01/01/2025 20:33

Be very handy for nipping home though - you wouldn’t even have to spend the night!

Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 20:33

Thanks for the replies . I'm not sure why I felt the age gap may be morally wrong. I just feel so very far away from 25 I guess 😂

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JoanCandy · 01/01/2025 20:33

Just do it !

Moveoverdarlin · 01/01/2025 20:33

Of course it’s not morally wrong. Meet him! Have fun. Don’t stress about it.

Bigearringsbigsmile · 01/01/2025 20:33

Ohhh op it is really creepy and icky. Don't do it.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 01/01/2025 20:34

This seems a bad idea to me. You live too close and the age gap is too large. All I see ahead is upset for you.

K8ate · 01/01/2025 20:34

Either tell him ‘no’ in no uncertain terms and stop with the ‘no means yes’ game playing or actually be an adult and go on a date.

Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 20:34

OurDreamLife · 01/01/2025 20:32

I wouldn’t. It will be the butt of his mates banter.

And he could be the butt of mine 🤣 womem talk too. seriously that wouldn't bother me . I know he's young and a bit of a lad . If I go ahead I know it's just a physical thing

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Butchyrestingface · 01/01/2025 20:34

I'd go and see how it pans out. What's good enough for Sienna Miller would be good enough for me.

Dartmoorcheffy · 01/01/2025 20:36

Just go have fun

Lolalovestheflowers · 01/01/2025 20:36

Interesting responses . Thanks its good to see how different everyone feels about this.
My friends say no-one would bat an eye lid if he were the woman and I were the man. I'm not sure if that's entirely true

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Tink3rbell30 · 01/01/2025 20:36

No that's weird and creepy, plenty of men available in your age bracket.

Mockingjay876 · 01/01/2025 20:37

Big age gaps like that creep me out, so no.

HPandthelastwish · 01/01/2025 20:37

What life stage is he at, that makes all the difference. Still living with his parents who are your neighbours absolutely not.

Him living independently is less creepy but I'd be thinking if I had a 25 year old son would I be happy with him going out with a 43 year old? Personally I'd stay within 7-10 years of your age either way.

MiddleagedBeachbum · 01/01/2025 20:38

Whilst I’ll say go for it!…… I’m 44, my son is 21 and I know I just couldn’t go with a guy that close to my sons age….. so no judgement, and go have fun… but yeah I can see why you’re hesitating!

username299 · 01/01/2025 20:38

Have some fun.

Mangocity · 01/01/2025 20:39

He lives too close. I wouldn't.