To sleep with a 25 year old

[Lolalovestheflowers]

I am 43. After a very unhappy marriage that ended two years ago I feel I have finally found myself.
I have lost a lot of weight over the 2 years, got my friends and social life back and a good job I'm in a good place.

A couple of months ago I was out with some friends for a girly night, meal cocktails and onto a local pub.
We were having a great night and I was enjoying having fun.
A young man approached me that evening and started chatting me up, I had a giggle with him amd I was flattered but I said look your way too young for me as sweet as you are you surely must have many young women after you and no I'm out with the girls.
We both laughed , said nice to meet you and me and my friends moved onto the next pub.
Since then I've bumped into him in the local village I have recently moved to at the local shop. You would have thought it would have been awkward, it wasn't we smiled said our hellos , were polite, and went our own way.

He then sent a friend request on fb , I declined it. He then messaged me on fb asking to go for dinner. I ignored him initially.
One evening after a glass of wine I replied and said again you seem lovely , however your too young for me , take care.

On the 21st Dec I was out in local pub celebrating my best friends birthday , he walked in with a couple of friends near the end of the evening , he came over and said hello, we were all quite drunk by then and I must admit I was flattered he was flirting with me.
He said have you recently moved to the village i said yes and we then both realised we are actually neighbours.... 6 doors apart.

End of the night came and we both went separate ways and said goodbyes
My friends said there was a massive chemistry between the two of us and although he is young he seemed a nice, respectful guy

Since that evening we gave msg back and forth a little. Things heated up last night and he wanted me to meet him out.
He's saying I'm not too young for you , please just give me a chance.
I declined as I was staying in.
I really do fancy the pants off him, I know it will be nothing but a physical thing if I ever decide to meet him
However I can't help but feel it is morally wrong?

Opinions please
Tell me to sort myself and move on if you like, I'm all ears 😂

He lives too close, that's the problem. If he was 45, I'd say the same.

Go for it ! Sounds like fun

Thank fuck someone said what I was thinking. 25? I wouldn't be happy at all if my 25 years old was shagging a 43 year old. Imagine if a 43 year old man was sniffing around a 25 year old man, I think people might change their tune then.

You clearly want to, OP. You’re just looking for validation because somewhere in there you know it’s not a good idea but you’re enjoying being desired by someone much younger. Nobody here can convince you not to, you have to make your own call on this. I wouldn’t if I were you because of the proximity if nothing else, and the fact you’re questioning it means you should probably think about it more before making a decision.

Go out and do it! Just don't wear granny knickers.

Definitely go for it.

I had a fling with a 21 year-old when I was 34. Don't regret it for a second.

I’d be worried about just being his “shagged an old lady” accomplishment.
Especially if I’d just moved to a new village.

@Bigearringsbigsmile

why is it?

I am not too bothered about the age difference if it's just a shag or two but as he lives so close to you it might be better not to.

Go and enjoy yourself... It's just a bit of fun, don't overthink it... Might be just what you need!

Yes. Bit desperate

Exactly, I find it fucking creepy and sleazy when older men go for younger women so I couldn't do it the other way round.

No I wouldn't. He's just in it for the thrill of the chase. Keep it at that. You don't want a regular reminder of being just another notch on a bedpost, far better to hold on to your power and dignity.

I'm not stranger to big age gaps, when I was 28 I got together with "Nick" who was 45 - so similar age gap to yours. It was hot as hell. We were together three and a half years of fun (split when I was about 32) because for obvious reasons we couldn't have a proper long term relationship.

So long as you're ok with the fact he's not interested in a proper long term relationship, because let's face it that just wouldn't work, then a bit of fun is FINE.

We all grew up with Samantha from Sex and the City didn't we 🤣🤣 obviously "Kath from the village shop" isn't quite the same but nevermind.

I'm currently with the love of my life who is 15 years older than me. We have children together. It works for us.

If you were a man you wouldn’t think twice about it. I know as I’ve been a 25 year old woman shagging 45 year old men. As long as you don’t use the age difference to manipulate or control him, go have fun!!

@Lolalovestheflowers I would say, if you are not bothered living so close and you can be sure his mates haven’t had some bet that he can get off with you, then why the hell not. You’re both consenting adults.

I'd go for it but be careful with contraception and always use a condom. I mention this only because I and a group of friends encouraged our friend to grab the chance in a similar situation and enjoy it. At 50, she ended up HIV positive. Not being a Debbie Downer as I'd definitely go for it but do be mindful. Also I am jealous AF. Have fun!

Assuming you don't have kids who are over tha age of 20 then go for it. He is 25, he's pursueing you, you've met when you're both sober.

However, I’d say I likely wouldn’t feel attracted to such a young man myself, when I see 25 year olds I feel like they’re kids, do while I don’t think it’s wrong, I just don’t think I could see them as an equal and want to sleep with them.

If you’re removed enough that it won’t create any drama, sure.

I know a fair few people who work in pubs and you’re far from being the only one sleeping with younger. It’s all ages going on in there. All ages.

No it isn't, don't be ridiculous.

Oh stop with your judgmental comment and emoji!

Go for it OP! Go and enjoy yourself!

No I wouldn't. He's just in it for the thrill of the chase. Keep it at that.

Why can't the older lady enjoy the thrill of the chase? There's no requirement to stay at home knitting yourself a chastity belt just because you're over 35.

Hi Lola
Bloke here. Sorry about that 😏
You obviously want to, so do it!
And hurry up it before he changes his mind: us chaps usually only ask a few times before giving up, so as not be perceived as desperate creeps.
Too many people miss opportunities for fun in life, by dwelling on possible negatives, rather than just saying yes to every opportunity, then seeing what happens. (That’s one definition of ‘being lucky’ btw). If it doesn’t work out with this dude, find another one!

But there’s one thing you MUST remember. This forum will require a full written report in the morning. 😀

FFS she is 43 not 73! Hardly an old lady!