Friends awful baby name

[ThisIcyHare]

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

No, you can’t! But you can emphasise how nice lots of the others are, in hope!

You have to share the name with us I'm afraid.

Unless you share the name, it’s not possible to comment on whether it’s awful and whether you should speak to her about it. I can see that you might not want to though.

If there's a concrete reason I'd tell her (e.g. "did you know that means penis in X language?") but otherwise I think I wouldn't to be honest, unless you're very close.

Quite. Come on OP, do the decent thing.

Well I think the risk is, if you say anything, the more she’ll dig her heels in about going with it!
However YABU not to tell us the name!

Well I think the risk is, if you say anything, the more she’ll dig her heels in about going with it!
However YABU not to tell us the name!

I can’t say the name just in case she sees it, it’s too obvious. I’m sorry! Hate being that person! It’s just outrageously bad.

Is it a ‘made-up’ name?

Names have gotten crazy - had to keep a straight face on hearing one that sounds almost exactly like “Alien”

We're just going to have to guess then, aren't we.

Grayvie?

Tell her. I never usually say anything if an actual baby is introduced with an awful name as it is their name. I did tell a cousin once her name she had in mind was awful and you couldn't lumber a kid with that. She said her DH liked it too. He looked sheepish and said actually I have gone off it. I wonder if others had said the same to him. Anyway when their daughter was born she was introduced to us with a beautiful name and she didn't have to bear the one that had been in the running.

I know plenty of people that have saddled their kid with awful names.

For example: Bu - pronounced 'Boo' apparently. However, to me it's Bu as in But. Where is she getting 'Boo' from? And even then Boo is NOT a good name. It's a nickname at best!

You can't say anything though. You just have to zip your lip and maybe encourage all the other names.

Pewberteigh?
Pheecee?
Deffley?
Eurin?
Phart?
Aynall?

It would be bad even by American standards...

We can't comment without the name, sorry. It could be something absolutely fine just not to your taste or it could be truly awful to just about everyone. Your friend could also be winding you up.

If she had already named her baby I wouldn't say anything but at this stage I think you can. She is choosing to discuss it with you while trying to make a decision so that suggests she would like some input. I'd be honest - but maybe not too honest! Tell her you're not keen on it rather than saying it's awful. And then tell her how much you love some of her other choices.

Chlamydia?

Boring pointless thread if you won't share the name

Raefarty?

It’s definitely not just a ‘me’ thing, and I don’t think it’s a wind up. The other choices were so nice, a couple a bit rogue, not to my taste but normal enough, then this one crazy wildcard!

You described it as a name that's cruel. Hard to think what that might be, unless something like Hitler or Stalin!

Tell us, OP. You can always ask MN to delete this thread a few hours later.

I cannot possibly comment without knowing the name.

Come on OP, cough!

Jimberleigh.