Friends awful baby name

[ThisIcyHare]

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

Or just shorten it to Kit. .

If your friend is discussing the names with you she presumably wants your opinion. Start by saying how much you like certain names and then say something like 'that name might cause some teasing at school'. That should put anyone off.

Ask your friend if she's seriously considering naming her child 'the Name' if she says she is Laugh & say 'Yeah right, like you'd be that cruel' Seriously though if she's a close friend you could mention that she may like it but it's a bit too 'out there' & the child could be teased or bullied because of it. It also sets a precedence for any future children she may have. She'll have to think up another wacko name so her 1st one doesn't think her parents were punishing her for being born.
Let her know the names from her list you really like & maybe look up the meaning for them to help her decide.

Like a lot of other ppl have said, without knowing the name we can’t individually give an opinion or advice. Plus now everyone is ITCHING to know.

However you can do exactly what you have done with us. Ask her if she has thought about how peers and adults would react and if it would cause her child any problems. Suggest she get a few other opinions from ppl who are known for given honest vs. appeasing opinions. There are a few things going on here - the name may not be that but one you are not used to, or yes, it may be that bad.

Someone else had the great idea of really emphasising the beautiful ones, saying less about the other ones and deflecting from this one. The comment on the peers bullying over this name could be said in passing but put the seed in her head that she doesn’t want her baby bullied by other kids over it.

Dignity/Virtue/Honesty/Righteousness/Sincerity/Morality? 😅

Utterly pointless thread, if you're not even going to say the name!
30 pages of presumably bollocks and people guessing 🙄
YABU, just because you don't like it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it.

It's not pointless.

The OP was asking what others would do, if a good friend has told them one of the names they are considering is really, really 'out there' and the OP feels the child will get a lot of aggravation from if used.

We don't need to know the name (which is clearly going to be recognisable if the Mum2b or anyone else she has shared the name with, sees this thread).

OP just wants to know what others would do, in this position.

It's quite amazing how many posters are struggling with that concept.

The only thing I can think of is ‘decency’ but I imagine that’s not it 😅

If she sees this post she will know it's you anyway.

@BBQPete I don't think posters were struggling with the concept I think the question of the name became so integral to everybody's answer it overtook the conversation and became a bit of a game.

I popped back on to see if we knew yet, justified fun buggering about trying!

Baby will grow up and change their name by deed poll one day if it’s that bad.

Celebrities call their babies Apple, Tiger-Lily, Bear, Riot Rose and RZA Athelston.

Names like Emma and Jonathan are clearly not that interesting.

Orthenthisity?