To be sad this is how I found out DS is engaged

[Gladlygracious]

DS is 26, we have a good relationship, his girlfriend is lovely and they have been together for 2.5 years, they make a great couple.
We spent Christmas with them, but they have been saving up and have taken a month of unpaid leave to go to Australia for New Years, a friends wedding and the Australian Open for a month.
This morning DD called me and very excitedly said omg I can't believe DS is engaged. I said what I didn't know. She told me to check his girlfriend's instagram.

He proposed on New Years Eve before the new year came in so at least 22 hours ago. His girlfriend posted on instagram 8 hours ago, 2 separate posts first a post with some pics of them, the ring and a little video of him proposing, then a second post of little videos and pics from the year with the proposal at the end. DS messaged me at midnight UK time so 11 hours ago.
They are at the united cup tennis today so I appreciate they are busy, but he has messaged and she has made 2 instagram posts, DS has shared one of the posts on his story too.

AIBU to be sad this is how I found out and that he didn't tell me or DH directly? Or is this just the modern world?

That's really tasteless 😬 I'm sorry. When we got engaged we called family and friends right away or the next day. Didn't put it on social media at all tbh. We did wait to get back to the UK a couple days later to tell my grandmother in person.

It might be that your DS wanted to surprise you in person? Maybe it hasn't happened occurred to him that you'd find out on social media first. I think good suggestions from other people just to congratulate them proactively, I don't think there's any point putting a dampener on things now. You might find he apologises that that's how you found out. Or maybe later in wedding planning you might say something quietly to DS.

I wouldn’t get hung up about something like this. It really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

I think good suggestions from other people just to congratulate them proactively, I don't think there's any point putting a dampener on things now.

There isn’t any point in commenting when you clearly haven’t read the updates either 🙄

I feel for you OP, in my book that does suck and I think I would also feel hurt.

But graciousness is always the best policy as you have nothing to lose by being gracious and much to lose by expressing any offence!