Who is living life the right way?

[flowergirl24]

Sister A and Sister B met up over the Christmas period. Their lives have gone in different directions and they are both late 30s. They both have 3 DC.

Sister A works 60 hours a week in a stressful job. She manages to take the children swimming at the weekends but they don’t do activities after school during the week. She has invested money in rental houses, and is concentrating on being able to have a better quality of life in the future.

Sister B works 8-10 hours a week. She has ponies and the children enjoy riding after school. She is not focused on a career at all, but does a lot of driving the children to after school activities. Sister B has expensive cars and is living for today, with no concern for the future.

Who is doing life right?

There is no such thing as the right way to live. Sister B is lucky to presumably have a partner who can financially provide for them.

Neither is 'right'. This is part of the problem in my opinion. Constant comparison - who's doing it right, better....

Each to their own. You do you. Whatever makes you happy.

Why does it matter? Each has different priorities and if those make them happy then neither is right or wrong.

I would suggest there's a happy medium between those two quite extreme viewpoints?

Neither.

Sister A isn't spending good time with her kids. She's at work too long.

Sister B isn't spending good time with her kids. She keeps palming them off to others.

Kids don't need endless activities, or a parent with loads of money

They need their parents. They need them to be around, pottering around the house, watching TV with them, doing the hoovering round their Lego, chatting nonsense about my little pony whilst peeling potatoes, reading to them...

Life is not a game show. There's no giant scoreboard where all your points are tallied up, and at the end you get either a big green tick mark or a big red X.

In other words - no one is absolutely right or wrong, they've just made different choices. Enjoy your own life OP, and don't try to be someone else's scoreboard.

Not enough information. Who is paying for sister B's lifestyle?

Neither are 'right' or 'wrong' just different lifestyles.
Personally I'd prefer sister B's lifestyle.
Does it cause tension between the sisters?

I wasn’t aware that there was only one way to live life the right way.

If they’re both happy, then they’re both doing it right.

What a weird black and white view on the situation.
Just because one person chooses one direction and the chooses something else doesn't make one right & the other wrong
Ppl are different
You do you

Right and wrong is a false narrative. Do whatever is right for you and stop bellyaching about your sister.

If Sister B is relying on a man and has no plan B, then A.

Well, if they both get hit by a bus tomorrow, I'd say sister B, but if they live to 100, sister A. We don't ge the benefit of hindsight along the way, unfortunately.

If they are happy, not hurting anyone, and doing the best they can with what they have....they are living life the right way.

Sister B’s lifestyle is funded by her DH. He works full time.

stupid one upmanship thread

Grow up

Neither seem to have found a balance. However, as pp said, I'd lean more in the direction of Sister A if Sister B is relying on a man to pay for everything. I'd not recommend any woman do that.

Tbh I wouldn't want either of their lives.

Who is funding sister B’s lavish lifestyle?

So you are sister a

It's plain you are sister A
I think your sister is unwise to rely on a man in this economic climate but leave her to it. Its not a competition.

Does sister A have a partner contributing to the household?

There is no right or wrong way to do life in these circumstances, as long as both are content and happy with their choices.

How about you do your life and don’t worry about anyone else’s?

Yes, her DH works full time too.

I don’’t think either has it exactly right but of the 2, I would say sister B. Sister A is missing out on a lot, building her property empire while hardly seeing her children. She should look for more balance.