Who is living life the right way?

[flowergirl24]

Sister A and Sister B met up over the Christmas period. Their lives have gone in different directions and they are both late 30s. They both have 3 DC.

Sister A works 60 hours a week in a stressful job. She manages to take the children swimming at the weekends but they don’t do activities after school during the week. She has invested money in rental houses, and is concentrating on being able to have a better quality of life in the future.

Sister B works 8-10 hours a week. She has ponies and the children enjoy riding after school. She is not focused on a career at all, but does a lot of driving the children to after school activities. Sister B has expensive cars and is living for today, with no concern for the future.

Who is doing life right?

Obviously there is no right or wrong.

I would be worried for sister B in case her h decides to end the marriage and she would be vulnerable.

But I'd have a bit of a curled lip for anyone who said there was a "right way" to live.

Neither is 'right'. There is no 'right' way to do life. All you can do is make the best decisions for yourself with what you have available at the time.

Whichever felt the need to post this thread is either jealous or very unhappy.

Happy people don't feel the need to compare their lot to others.

What works for one person works for the other. For me personally I think a bit of in the middle is what I would call MY ideal life. As in 20-35 hours a week working, plenty of quality time with the kids, having some income to save for the future but also live life in the moment to.

You have a very odd way of looking at the world, there is no 'right' way to live. Even if there was, why do you care whether Internet randoms think you're living the 'right' way? If they say that your sisters life is shit, does that somehow validate your choices? If so, you need to think about why that is. Does your sisters life need to be "wrong" for you to feel ok about yours?

Personally, I wouldn't want Sister A's life or Sister B's life. Neither would be "right" for me, but that doesn't mean you or her are doing life "wrong". Maybe neither of you would want my life, but it's the life I chose and I'm happy with it.

You need to focus less on your Sister and more about what's making you feel this way.

Sister A needs to cut down her hours a bit. Sister B needs to realise that she's on a gravy train.

They need their parents. They need them to be around, pottering around the house, watching TV with them, doing the hoovering round their Lego, chatting nonsense about my little pony whilst peeling potatoes, reading to them...

I have never loved DH more than when he explained, in some detail, why Applejack was his favourite Pony. He's a big, scary-looking 'manly' man who would never have known who the Ponies were. Had a daughter, put the time in, learned about the Ponies.

Just because it's funny, "Applejack is hardworking. She doesn't rely on magic powers or wings to do anything. She's a self-made Pony with a successful business." LOL.

There's no right, there's only 'right for them'.

Neither. HTH

If the OP is one of the sisters, I would say comparing yourself to the other will just lead to discontentment.
Live your own life, just because one has more money or possessions, it doesn't mean their life is any better or any worse than yours is.

Neither of them, they're just different.

Nobody's right, Nobody's wrong, just different. Anyone worrying about this is doing it wrong.

They should work together and establish the AB Airbnb for ponies????

Eh? There are several different ways of living life "right", so if you really do believe there's only one way, then YABU and frankly very silly too!

Sister A is contributing financially to both her current and future households. That would be my preference as I would never want to live off a man’s wage, or anyone else’s for that matter

But there is no right way as people make their own life choices. In some ways that will work out well and other times it won’t

No right way. However, sister B sounds like a much more appealing lifestyle to me.

Neither, really, but forced to choose then I would say sister b.

The sister who isn’t a landlady!

Everyone loves their life according to how they see fit.

Personally I'd much rather be sister B

There aren’t any stars awarded at the end. Who is happiest, who has the happiest partner or children? Who is the judge?

Sister B sounds boring and like she doesn't want to spend time with kids by foisting them off at too many activities..

Sister A is demonstrating a hard working ethic to her children, but also looking like she doesn't want to spend time with them.

Both sisters need to reevaluate what is important to them.

I'd genuinely like to know how anyone manages a 60 hour week, and a husband doing the same, and three children. Unless they are at boarding school

There is no right way only your way

They don't see their kids. Simple.

No amount of future money will buy that time back.