Who is living life the right way?

[flowergirl24]

Sister A and Sister B met up over the Christmas period. Their lives have gone in different directions and they are both late 30s. They both have 3 DC.

Sister A works 60 hours a week in a stressful job. She manages to take the children swimming at the weekends but they don’t do activities after school during the week. She has invested money in rental houses, and is concentrating on being able to have a better quality of life in the future.

Sister B works 8-10 hours a week. She has ponies and the children enjoy riding after school. She is not focused on a career at all, but does a lot of driving the children to after school activities. Sister B has expensive cars and is living for today, with no concern for the future.

Who is doing life right?

Are women only allowed to work to make ends meet? There's nothing wrong with working for some luxuries.

I fully agree with @Heronwatcher to be fair.

I think if OP was having to work all these hours to make ends meet or support herself as a single parent for instance, people's opinions would be different, and she wouldn't be questioning her decision to do it because she would have no choice but to do it.

The fact OP is choosing to work like that at the sacrifice of a family life to accumulate wealth and plan on having an early retirement is what is making her question herself.. she is choosing to do this.. and she herself is questioning whether she is going to regret that choice later on, only she really knows the answer to that, but IMO you shouldn't choose to sacrifice the "now" for "later" as my personal experience is that later may never happen.

No but in the example I quoted from @chocolatespreadsandwich said that she worked crazy hours when her kids were young because “Without my work we would have been precariously renting or living in a cramped house where they shared rooms, and they wouldn't have been able to do hobbies or have treats”. My point is that the OP here isn’t saying that- it sounds as though she’s investing at least some of her income in multiple rental properties to prove for a future.

For me sacrificing family life to afford the stability of your own home and so your kids can have have hobbies in the short term is more understandable than doing to to buy multiple properties to provide for a future many years away- that was my point. I’d happily do the former but not the latter.

Obviously for the OP to decide if the cost is worth it in the end though.

Both are right, they are both living the life that is right for them. Why don't you go and do the same thing for yourself.