Should she replace it?

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My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

Would this not be covered on her house insurance? A lot of policies cover valuable items lost outside of the home.

I'd genuinely love to know why anyone would spend £500 on a hairdryer. Does it blow different air to a £15 Argos hairdryer? Air is air, no? What am I missing?

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Tough shit

Right away I am thinking she stole it. Call the hotel and if they don't have it tell her she needs to transfer you the money to get a new one. And never lend her anything.

Also ask if your friend reported it missing/left behind.

a) she did and the hotel tried to locate it but couldn't.

1. she has it but reported it to keep the story straight
2. one of the hotel staff took it, which is theft and should be reported to the police.

b) she didn't and she has taken it for herself or sold it
. 1) she's a thief if she has it and should be reported to the police
c) she didn't but they have it because they are not thieves.

c) is your best outcome.

Definitely let her know that you'll be contacting the hotel to get info on exactly when she reported having left it there and what response they gave her. I think she either kept it or sold it, the lying chancer.

Whatever happens next, your friendship is likely over regardless. I would be demanding a new one. Or the money to replace it like for like. I would even suggest that you may have to go through small claims court, and tell her that's what you'll be doing.

Like the others, I'd bet she's kept it. Once you demand the money back, the hotel will have miraculously found it and sent it out.

I recon she sold it to pay for her tiny wedding. Feeling very sceptical today.

Definitely call the hotel. I call bullshit on her story!

Ditto

I think your hairdryer will magically appear if you insist on her getting you a replacement.

You've clearly not written the glasses stealer post!!

My immediate thoughts were she's kept it but because she already told you she left it behind and the hotel claimed they didn't have it, she was counting on you to just let it go.

Now that you are asking her to replace, she's panicking and will just delay any action hoping you get bored and let it slide.

DO NOT let it go, KEEP on at her. Give her the option of "why don't you check with the hotel one more time?", to give her the get out of jail card of actually just giving you back your property that she currently has sitting on her dresser.

ETA as soon as you have it back, or a brand new £500 from her, then cut her out. She's no friend of yours, she's a sponging, lying user.

She stole it! Some 'friend'. I would ditch her, once you get your £500 back - or the airwrap, which might mysteriously reappear once it's clear you're not backing down.

I would call the hotel and see if she reported it missing.

Can she claim on her household insurance? If she won't pay up you could try claiming on your insurance if you have accidental loss as part of your policy.

She should buy you a new one on her credit card. It's outrageous she didn't do that right away.

Call the hotel now. Is it a close by hotel or is it she needs to go collect it and can’t be arsed?

please please learn to say no to people like this. She’s not a friend!

She should replace like with like.
Not a version that costs £150 which would be older than the one you had, she should cough up and get you a replacement as she lost the one you LOANED her.

Tell her that she has to replace the model of Air Wrap that she lost and you loaned her with one of the same model.

The borrower buys a new one. Can be in the sale or new off eBay. But not a used one or an older model. We know she has kept or sold the loaned one and was hoping for a pass. Just NO! No freebies, passes and no more loans. Will be interested to see if the item is suddenly found or the cc is suddenly declined and will be for every month. Can pay on eBay over 3 months if a new one (in box/sealed) is available

I was coming to say this.. There will be £61 worth of points minimum added too.

They accept Klarna so she can pay in three after all!

She doesn't get to "misplace" other people's belongings and make it their problem. She either couldn't be arsed looking after a friend's expensive hair tool, or she decided to keep it herself. Either way, it's on her. Madness to think you should accept a cheap second hand version.

she sounds extremely shifty & I recon she's nicked it, that's why she didnt reply straight away, she needed more time to guage your reaction and decide exactly what sort of con she was going to perpetrate at your expense.
Please stop being a people pleaser mug OP!

She can buy one from QVC and pay it off over 4 months

You'll never guess what! I looked everywhere and eventually found at the bottom of my wedding dress hanging bag! Let me return it ASAP!

She should replace it with a new one, she left it or damaged it when she wanted to borrow it so it’s her problem unfortunately, I’d be putting one straight onto my credit card because I’d feel so bad but then I’d probably have done that in the first place instead of borrowing one.

No you should not accept a £150 second hand item.
You have no warranty etc on it.
She should have replaced it without you having to ask

She needs to replace it with the air wrap you had. Not a second hand one. Not an older model. And if that costs her £500, here’s hoping she learns to be more careful with things that aren’t hers in future.

I think she has kept it too or sold it. You don't lose some thing that cost £500. Don't accept second hand gear it might be faulty. Never lend her stuff again.