Should she replace it?

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My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

I agree that she’s pinched it , tell her you want a new one or the exact model in excellent condition and the same colour etc .

Prepare for the inevitable bitching to your mutual friends about how you expect a brand new model as a replacement for your "old" one 🙄 just to shame you for asking her to do the right thing.

I'm absolutely sure she's kept it or sold it.

You must insist she buys you a brand new one.

If it means your friendship is over - win win. She's at best a user, more likely a thief and liar.

Yeah, she’s kept it. Hopefully it will ‘turn up’ when she knows you’re not going to back down - but if it does come to replacement, I would want proof that it was from a reputable seller, as there are lots of rip off ones about.

Even if she did leave it behind (which she hasn’t) the hotel would hang on to it. Everyone knows Dyson items are pricey.

Has anyone else seen the thread about the Teddy being left behind at the Travelodge in St Pancras? If cleaning staff hang on to scruffy little teddies and put them in to lost property they would definitely know someone would come back for this. I would ring them.

You need to do a bit of digging. Does your friend sell stuff on Facebook marketplace? Have a look on there. She might be selling yours for £400 and buying you a £150 one.

The likelihood is once you say it needs paying for in full for the exact model you purchased the 'hotel' will find it.

Great response

Even if she did leave it behind (which she hasn’t) the hotel would hang on to it. Everyone knows Dyson items are pricey.

Has anyone else seen the thread about the Teddy being left behind at the Travelodge in St Pancras? If cleaning staff hang on to scruffy little teddies and put them in to lost property they would definitely know someone would come back for this. I would ring them.

You need to do a bit of digging. Does your friend sell stuff on Facebook marketplace? Have a look on there. She might be selling yours for £400 and buying you a £150 one.

She has definitely not left it at the hotel. I bet if you saw her right now her hair would look amazing!

If she wants to use a credit card then rather than asking for cash I'd ask her to buy it from the same site you bought it from. Facebook bloody marketplace my arse!

This message over the other one. It’s assertive which is a better way to get what you need imv. It doenst threaten the friendship either

I borrowed an expensive necklace from a friend on a night out. I lost it, not sentimental or anything thank goodness, first thing I did was buy a replacement even though it meant living on pittance the rest of the month. My friend didn’t even expect a replacement but it wouldnt even have crossed my mind not to replace.
She is a chancer and I agree has either kept it or sold it. She needs to suck it up and buy the new one! Don’t back down. She isn’t a friend.

She is being unreasonable.

Boots have the newest ones on sale for £399.99, and she will earn £61.17 of advantage card points (which she can either see as money she makes back, or money she should be spending on you).

She’s kept herself imo.

Message her saying she can buy a new one using Klarna or go on somewhere like Very where they do 12 months interest free credit

Nah she's a cf. Tell her to get her credit card out. I bet you won't see it.

She is presumably insured, either way she will need to pay up.
Don't back down, don't apologise just be straightforward.
Obviously I need a like for like replacement, hopefully you will be able to claim on your insurance. Either way, I do need the £500 today.

I don't believe she's lost it, I think she wanted it for herself so has made up a story

I agree with this. A try on by her perhaps??

Of course she needs to replace it.

She shouldn’t have borrowed it if she wasn’t able to replace it if something happened to it. It doesn’t really seem to add up, I’m on team Stole it!

She isn't much of a friend, is she.

She owes you £500, no two ways about it.

You want the model you leant her her not a cheap second hand version from years ago.
she needs to put this on her credit card , the cf shouldn’t have to be asked !!

edited to say - I’m team stole it ! She never left that behind….

Definitely not being unreasonable!

It's on her to replace like for like not an outdated version!

I would 100% phone the hotel to see if it’s been found or even reported lost but first I would phone or message my friend to let her know I’m going to phone the hotel and ask her for the room number she stayed in because you’re going to ask if it’s been found yet….. if she squirms she’s kept it! She may genuinely of lost it and maybe someone at the hotel hasn’t been honest but either way she needs to buy you the model you had

new one

I genuinely can't imagine borrowing and losing anything from a friend (especially something that expensive!) and not immediately offering to replace it! Is seriously be considering the friendship once you've got your new airwrap.