Should she replace it?

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My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

Not tricky- very simple.
she buys you a new £500 Dyson air wrap and sticks it on her credit card if she has to. Non negotiable

who in their right mind ‘forgets’ something like that in a hotel? I have a feeling she has decided to keep it for herself and is lying to you about having left it in the Hotel.

make her buy you a new one, and absolutely do not feel guilty about it. She is a CF.

I hate how manipulative people are to cover up their wrongdoings. She stole or lost a £500 item she begged you to loan her for her wedding. You haven’t done anything to take the shine off her wedding, that is all on her. She just wants you to drop it so she stops feeling guilty. I notice how her message didn’t include the resolution ie the date she will give you the item or the funds.

please cut her off as soon as this is sorted.

WTAF?!

We await with baited breathe for an update!!! 😂😂

Wonder if she’s on the road for the 4 hour trip yet 🤥

Yellow weather warning, I’m sure between us we can’t find out which hotel has a navy carpet and is in a yellow warning area, I’ll start Herts has no weather warning

New thread xx

The OP knows the hotel, she has spoken to them. They have said there is no dyson air wrap there.

I just read the first one. Your mate is a b1tch. Sorry.

She owes you a new replacement and should have purchased it without you having to follow-up and ask.

If it was more I would be heading to small claims but got the small amount it was I would likely buy myself a new one and block the friend.

I just read the first one. Your mate is a b1tch. Sorry.
She owes you a new replacement and should have purchased it without you having to follow-up and ask.
If it was more I would be heading to small claims but got the small amount it was I would likely buy myself a new one and block the friend.

I would hardly call £500.00 a small amount!

I don’t think you will see a cent, sadly. I would go to small claims in the sheer principle of it combined with the fact she is one of the largest cheeky fuckers on the planet. You have evidence of her admitting to Lodi g it, that’s enough. Sadly, you likely won’t get the full amount (due to ‘wear and tear’ before lending it, but hopefully you will at least get the sale amount. I know that’s still not great and unfairly leaves you out of pocket but better than nothing. Plus it forces cheeky fucker to pay something in one go vs paying you over a decade or trying to give you a shit second hand one.

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Collect all evidence of all your text correspondences and communication with this soon to be ex friend that state that she borrowed your expensive Dyson hairdryer and that it was clearly a loan and had to be returned - find a pro Bono lawyer or lawyer friend to draft out a legal letter that states that she is required to compensate you for at least the full value of the hairdryer and list down the specific model of the hairdryer and include the receipt of it if you have.

• Indicate the deadline of repayment and state that interest will accrue on top of it for late payment, which will compound and increase each month.

Tell your friend that you will NOT be forking out £150 for an older inferior model and she should be the one paying you.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5241986-should-she-replace-it-part-2?page=1
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5243297-should-she-replace-it-part-3?page=28&reply=141049696

Part 2 and 3 of this thread.

me too

Given Dyson seems to offer a repair service even your broken hairdryer is worth having.
Failure to return to you for repairs means surely she's sold it.

Credit or not she finds a way to replace with the model she lost! I dunno how people sleep at night when things like this isn’t their first thought!

Yes ask her to at least return it to see if it's repairable. If it's not,she owes you for a brand new one,exactly the same model. Don't settle for a cheaper, older model.

She’s either kept it or sold it. Give her one last ultimatum, failing that take her to a small claims court. She’s no friend.

She provides you a new one! You'll prob lose a friendship over this but this is on her. For what it's worth pretty sure if cc isnt an option Dyson do a month thing for £25/30 quid interest free. This is her problem!

She’s a CF and this is a no brainer! She needs to replace the £500 one. Don’t be fobbed off with an older model and don’t let her guilt you just because she needs to use a credit card. Tough shit. This is 100% on her.

For those at the back

If you let her off, more fool you. Get on to her. However, make sure the message you send her is polite and factual, not the example you gave. Don't call her anything, just make it super formal and professional. Include a deadline for when you want the hairdryer back (i suggest 3 days max with evidence of delivery from wbatever shop) as she'll take the mick undoubtedly.

First time I have seen this thread, my first thought was she has stolen it, for herself or to sell. No way was that left behind. If a friend was kind enough to lend me something so valuable, I would have double and treble checked I had it, but honestly I would not have the nerve to ask to borrow such a personal article. It’s up to you how far you want to take it, but she isn’t a friend and learn the lesson not to lend again. Many of us get scammed like this by a “friend” but it only happens once.

We’d similar with an expensive baby item. Something was lent to a friend - it was always a lend, they knew that, we knew that - but friend’s DP broke it. They replaced it with a brand new one that they used, then when they returned it friend’s DP said we’d need to return it to them. Thankfully friend reminded (though I think the reminder was more so as we said we wouldn’t be returning it) DP that he’d broke our one they’d borrow & it was a replacement. Not sure how pleased he was about this but they weren’t getting it back.