Should she replace it?

[Langarg]

My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

Did you borrow the OP's dryer by any chance? And your new husband didn't spot it on the hotel room carpet because it was the same colour blue?

Following...

I really hope I don't miss the new thread! I'm dying to know the outcome.

OP better get that fucking replacement!

This so called friend’s behaviour has been appalling. That’s why 99% of voters think the OP is not being unreasonable.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5241986-should-she-replace-it-part-2

I have created a new thread and popping the link here so that you can follow along for updates. @bazdvd you’re not invited for your immaturity!

see, lady, whatever happens, this woman is not your friend.
Next time, keep the info about these luxuries to yourself and ....well, sad.

If you think your point of view on this is okay then believe me, it says a lot more about you and your own lack of morals than any other poster on here.

Even if she didn’t steal it (highly unlikely) and lost it instead, I, and I expect many other people, would feel so mortified that they lost someone else’s expensive property that was kindly lent to them that they would want to buy them new as a way of apology.

@bazdvd
The OP is entitled to exactly The same as she had or better. She should not be put in a position worse off than she started.

A second hand product she doesn't know the history of is not exactly the same as there will be unknown risks.

If Dyson have as new unopened returns that they sell as a return then that would be fine. But only if it is from Dyson directly with a warranty at least as long as the which was remaining on hers.

But a used refurbished model is not the same as it has an unknown history.

As the exact same item is not able to be provided for her then the only option is to be given a brand new one.

Are you ok? Bit of an over reaction, don’t you think? I think you probably need to consider why you’re so triggered by someone’s post on an internet forum. Clearly touched a nerve.

Surely this has GOT to be the bride or her husband. A random person could surely not be this obsessed to the point of acting unhinged...

Suggest she’s claims on her house insurance?

Pissed more like.

Yes. Either way, very strange reaction indeed 🤣

Oink oink op

Thats pig for you're doing the right thing

It’s a bloke. As is obvious by his calling posters “bitchy”, “old”, and “women scorned”. Such imagination and originality these misogynists have.

Why on earth did you let it out of your sight. If she couldn't afford a hairdresser for her wedding I can't see her affording to buy you a new one. Harsh lesson learned, don't lend what you can't afford to give away.

I’ve not read all the posts, but am in agreement with those who suspect that she hasn’t left it in the hotel but has kept it for herself (or sold it on, perhaps). Let’s face it, the vast majority of us would look after something loaned to us and make sure it was returned in good order, but if damaged/lost, replace it like for like, no quibble.

yes @Langarg why on earth did you trust a friend to not steal something from you?!

Surely you should have known what a lying deceitful piece of crap she is, so obviously its your fault that you handed over a treasured item on short term loan to a person your trusted and then never got it back.

Honestly, when will you learn?!

FFS.....

My money is on her managing to get it back by having a right go at the hotel manager and the manager suddenly finding it and apologising for their GDPR breach....... Not only is she a thief, she is an utterly crap liar!

Happy New Year to you too OP (at least, with the wild weather tonight, none of us has got sleek hair! 😂) Good luck for the return of your AirWrap once CF friend finds her conscience. 🤗

Yes, it's the new husband of the cheeky fecker "friend" - his moral compass is as faulty as hers.