Should she replace it?

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My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

The OP bought an item that had no previous owners.

The only suitable replacement is one that also has no previous owners.

To try and argue otherwise is nonsensical.

The friend has stolen/lost/broke an item she now needs to replace, like for like

I'm pointing out that no second hand OR refurbished option would give her as much of a warranty as she has left on her own and therefore it is not an adequate replacement. Honestly, how does this not make sense to you? ('lol')

Nah it doesn't matter if it's 1 year old or 100 years old... she needs to buy OP a brand new one.

I wouldn't be having any of that.

Get it on your credit card and send me the tracking number.

It's not the losing - its the lies and covering up and lack of giving a shit that would have be totally done.

If you left something in an hotel room, particularly if it is worth £500 would you really expect to get it back?
She lost it, she should replace it- if it puts her in debt that is not your concern.
Expecting you to accept one costing less than half and you having to provide interest free credit is frankly outrageous, and I'm astonished she suggested it.
When you make a mistake like this it is often very expensive, unfortunate, but not your problem.

I would say she either 1) liked it so much shes kept it, or
2) shes sold it.
the saying; never borrow never lend if you want to keep a friend. Not only refers to money.

Whether she's lost it or tried to keep it (my thoughts, and she's hoping you won't pursue), she has a duty to replace yours. I reckon she'll be keeping it till after tonight and then it'll magically turn up.

If not, I would absolutely not be accepting a second hand older model.

Finally, once this is dealt with, I'd be keeping my distance. And absolutely would not be loaning what you can't afford to lose in future.

Not your problem... Find the cheapest deal online for the model you had and find one with Klarna and get her to pay it off in three instalments. Luckily she's now married, so they can both pay for it... That is not a friend by the way, just sayin'

Cheeky bugger! I wonder if she fancied it as a wedding gift! 😆

Because her own one has only so many careful miles on it and not been ragged and abused by someone who is now selling theirs without the chequered history in the description. Buying second hand is always a risk... Why should she have to bother?

Where did the bitchiness start? By being careless with or stealing a borrowed item? Your sympathies lie in the wrong direction.

I so need to buy an airwrap!

The official Dyson Outlet ones do, yes, but not as long as the OP has left on hers 🙄

And the warranty offered on a refurbished model from the outlet is only half that which is being offered on a new model - presumably because they are more likely to have faults.

An item that was brand new to the OP should now be replaced with one that has been through who knows what. Makes complete sense.

Take it to the small claims court and immediately get a high court writ. She will also be liable for all costs.

thats the risk when borrowing an item etc if it gets lost or damaged etc

But the friend had absolutely no entitlement to steal her bloody property. The fact it’s a year old is not really the point. It’s not OPs fault some scum bag chose to steal it, why should it be replaced by an inferior product ie one that has a lesser value than hers, is older than hers or has already been refurbished and therefore may not last as long as hers would still have lasted?

She should have kept her thieving mitts off and then there wouldn’t be this issue. If anything, if the friend had any morals whatsoever she should buy her a new one if only for the fact she fucking nicked it and should feel guilty. Some people have absolutely no shame

Wishing you all a very happy new year! (Except the air wrap thief...she can sod off)

Ask your friend to recheck with the accommodation and to also ask the accommodation to lodge a claim for theft.
Send her (x 2) the exact model details, colour etc and a picture of your model so the accommodation can lodge a claim. If the accommodation suddenly finds it, that will be great.

Ask your friend to please replace the exact item within a month.. Give her a date and if she stalls because she is waiting on the insurance claim ask her to buy you a new one and keep the other for herself - to sell or keep.

After making these requests, just leave it and see what happens. Never lend anything that you value to anyone.

I’ve had a good laugh catching up with some of the comments (too many to read them all though!). I’ve had a busy day driving to family for NYE and this is the first chance I have had to catch up.

I write this post with frizzy, untamed hair whilst my friend probably has the best hair in town! 🤣

There’s no real update unfortunately, other than my friend has sent a couple messages trying to generate small talk with me. I haven’t replied as I’d like to properly read through the replies tomorrow before considering my next move!

It looks like the post will be full soon, I promise to create a new one if I get the chance tomorrow.

Wishing you all a Happy New Year when it comes (except my friend if you’re reading!)