To ask why women would be uncomfortable with unisex bathrooms

[Chumssss]

Discussion with my DH tonight about this. Am I right in thinking that unisex bathrooms are not great?

Men's bathroom reek. Yuck.

@Cherrypickled

Plenty of women hover and piss all over the seats.

You think anywhere near as many women do this compared to men? Come off it!

And from a normal man's point of view, they don't want to be having to queue for ages because of women taking much longer. Its not beneficial to anyone without a fetish.

@Chumssss what did you and your husband decide about mixed sex toilets?

I haven't come across too many, but had to use some last week and they were disgusting - smelly, with pee all over the seats and floor. I agree that the women's are often not great, but really nothing like as unpleasant.

1. safety 2) dignity 3) go into a variety of men's toilets and inhale deeply

You can't see the issue? Despite it being pointed out in various posts above?

We need to stand together on this, even those women who don't have an issue with it personally. Some women have valid reasons for not wanting this. Show some solidarity.

Our ladies toilets at work are rank sometimes.

I don’t mind single stalls all directly off the main corridor, with a sink inside. In fact I think they’re quite sensible as then no one is unsafe (as men can be a threat to one another as well as to women).

I think we have to normalise men not behaving like feral animals in public toilets - weeing everywhere and generally leaving a mess. I bet they don’t have that problem in Japan!

Always wee on floor and seat.

I was in a womans toilet in a large city train station. A man in a boiler suit was in there and went into a cubicle. He looked like he was fixing stuff, had a tool bag etc.

It quickly became apparent that he was wanking and getting off being in the environment.

It was disgusting. I felt horribly vulnerable and exposed in all senses of the word. I am just so glad I didn't have DD with me.

So no, I don't want to invite men into women's spaces. It's 'not all men' but it's enough of them.

I don't stand with anyone just because I'm a woman.

Would your husband be happy waiting while women replace tampons and sanitary pads? Have toddlers and buggies in there with their mums? Would you like having to deal with tampons etc with men waiting outside the door?

I just don't want to share with men in public. At work all the toilets are unisex (there's is a woman's toilet but it has the big sink which is used as the kitchen sink as we don't have a kitchen, so its not really single sex), which is ok in the safety sense as I trust all the men I work with (very small company), but my god they stink out the one good toilet.

Sometimes.

When I worked in a Scottish secondary, the boys' toilets were constantly rank - you could smell them from the corridor.

We moved into a new build. Within a year, the new toilets were just as rank - in spite of constant cleaning.

This subject has been done to death on MN. So I'm out.

unisex toilets are vastly, vastly more disgusting on the ‘weeing everywhere’ front.

In a women’s toilet I encounter this ~5% of the time.

In a unisex toilet after 6pm this goes up to about 95%.

Nothing to do with dirt and piss. I want my own space away from any male. I am a domestic abuse survivor and deserve that right, end of.

My personal feeling is that whenever I've been in (when young 😉) or just outside men's toilets, they always absolutely STINK of stale urine. Same for unisex toilets on planes and trains. Piss on the floor. No thank you.

Was in a restaurant with (adult) DD yesterday. The loo was unisex with three cubicles. Went in and a woman was washing her hands but it was so cramped I had to squeeze past her to get to a cubicle and I was grateful she wasn't a man. When I came out there were two women crammed in there, waiting. DD went a bit later and she said there WAS a man and that he'd gone into the first cubicle, which had a woman sign on it and the others were for both. ( I hadn't noticed the signs either.) DD wasn't thrilled at there being a bloke there. Not good, is it?

Unfortunately, the attempted rape in the east of Scotland showed that there's more to safety than single stalls - the would-be rapist pushed the victim into a cubicle.

We have unisex toilets at work, really doesn’t bother me.

My colleagues in building services have always said when the loos were separate, the women’s were often dirtier than the men’s.

I don't care at all about smells and so on, I know women's can be worse than the men's. I just don't want to share a toilet with a man when it's not necessary to do so. I don't mind some small cafes etc have one toilet that's unisex as that's all they have space for, but I am completely against places who had/have separate male and female facilities changing them to unisex.

A nightclub in Leeds has unisex toilets.

it was disgustingly, really rank. Women were walking in and then walking out again.

I absolutely do not want to see men with their nobs out standing at urinals.

especially when they were turning around grinning.

God I don't even want to share a toilet with the men in my house! Public toilets? No thank you.